A Safe Place To Land...Emotionally
It is rare to find someone who you can be truly vulnerable with. No one wants to be vulnerable. No one wants to feel vulnerable. But it happens to all of us at some point in our life, which is why having a safe place to land is so important. To me, a safe place to land is all about being able to be vulnerable, confide your thoughts and feelings, and unleash your anger and frustrations. But more importantly to feel safe in doing so with someone in particular.
I am fortunate enough to have several safe landing spots, but recently one in particular has really stood out to me. Like many people I have stresses in my life, and I try to cope as best as possible. I cope with exercise, writing, binging on Netflix, and spending time with my family. But today a light bulb went on, and I realized I was also coping by venting a lot, and being bitchy to a good friend.
My friend has been wonderful. They listen to me, encourage me, and most of all make time for me, even when they have one hundred other things they need to be doing. It is a newer friendship compared to my other decades long friendships, but it is also very special.
I do not feel judged, but rather supported. And best of all it makes me feel safe. Safe in that I can completely be myself. Very few words are needed. They recognize my irritation and annoyance in a single word message. They know when I am excited by the look on face. I know by the look on their face that they are genuinely happy to see me each day. Truly special is the best term to describe our friendship.
So what makes this friendship my safe place? I think it is about trust, and about love. Not romantic love necessarily, just love. Knowing that if I screw up, my friend will understand, and still be there for me. Them knowing me well enough to know that a bad mood is not about them, and me loving and respecting them enough to know not to make it an everyday occurrence. This is a friendship of understanding, forgiveness, and lots of laughs.
My friend has seen the real me, and still chooses to be part of my life. They are my protector at times, and also my hero. They have earned my trust, been there for me in vulnerable moments, and have become a safe place to land.