Actions And Words...Where Is Your Follow Through?
I am a believer in the saying that "actions speak louder than words". We can say anything, but it means nothing if we never follow through. Our words mean nothing if everything we say is in direct contradiction to our actions. If you want people to believe you, to believe in you, then show them that you are more than talk. Show them you are worthy of their trust, their friendship, their love.
I have a few people in my life who make empty promises, or say they are going to do things, but never actually do it. I learned very young in life that there are some people you just cannot count on, no matter how much you want to. I guess the way I am laying this out, the people who are all talk would be deal breakers for friends or loves, but not necessarily.
Sometimes the individuals are not hurting anyone but themselves. They are making promises to themselves about what they are going to do, or deceiving themselves about reality. I know people who say every year they are going to lose weight and get healthy. Hasn't happened yet. I know they want to, but for whatever reason they cannot find the motivation to move forward. This is not someone I would cut out of my life. I have a friend who dreams of being a writer, but takes no steps in that direction to make their dream a reality. I encourage them to write, and they keep telling me they are going to get started, but never do. Is it fear of failure that is holding them back? An inner voice telling them it's never going to happen so why try? I am not sure why they are unable to make efforts towards something they claim to want so badly, but I will continue to be supportive, as there is nothing else I can do.
Matters of the heart are different. Trusting the non-doer in a relationship does become an issue. People are not mind readers, at least I am not. Your words do not really tell me what you think, or what is in your heart, especially if you have shown me your words mean little, and you don't follow through. Telling me you love me would never be enough. Domestic abusers tell their partners that they love them, but their actions say different. Love is shown through action. Being there when needed most, even if its inconvenient, shows your love. Caring about someone's well being, checking in on them after a bad day, or even just sending an encouraging text can show your love. It isn't grand "look at us" moments, but subtle and honest actions that are special and meaningful for two people. Love is often quiet, but very powerful.
Bottom line is, words mean very little in the grand scheme of things. They can be used to hurt, and manipulate, but it is always the actions that show true intent. I can tell when someone dislikes me, and when someone loves me. Although their words may indicate otherwise, their actions tell a very different story.