Signs Of Flirting...A Learned Skill Or Natural Instinct?
There is a certain art to flirting. It can be fun and exhilarating, if you get it right. Or a hot mess, and make for a great bloopers reel if you get it wrong. Flirting means to act amorous without serious intent, but it can also be about sending out feelers. If he flirts back maybe he's interested. Or if he's too dense to pick up on your signals, he's not the guy for you.
I know some people who are notorious flirts. They flirt with everyone, young or old, male or female. It's a game to them, and they play it well. I learned how to flirt pretty young, around 12 years old. Of course very innocently, with passing notes, teasing, and smiles. I got better. I think my flirting abilities are a combination of natural instinct, and learned skills over time.
I suppose one could ask why do we flirt. Do we flirt for attention? To see if we still "got it". Do we flirt to manipulate, to perhaps get out of a ticket? I think this is often the case. We flirt to get what we want.
We also flirt to get who we want. Sometimes we don't even realize we are doing it. A coy smile here and there. A little inside joke. The teasing and playfulness. It's all flirting, albeit innocent intentions. Or not so innocent. Flirting is safe. It is a way to test the waters, without truly putting yourself out there. If you flirt and they flirt back, there may be something there.
So where do you do most of your flirting? At the bar or club? I bet most flirting happens at work or school. The places we spend most of our time. Maybe you know how to flirt, and you know how to recognize when someone is flirting with you. But just in case you don't know, here are some body language clues that someone is flirting.
Signs Of Flirting
Signs He's Flirting...
Remembers what you say
Nervous twitch while talking to you
Blushing or sweaty hands
Leans in to be closer
Signs She's Flirting
Touches lips or hair
Lots of laughing (you are not that funny)
Compliments and/or insults you
Leans in to be closer
Men and women are similar creatures. Some have perfected the art of flirting, while others are still trying to figure it out. If you are not a great flirt, don't worry about it. It is actually cute and refreshing to see the unskilled flirter. Ultimately, fate will have its way. If it is meant to be, it will happen.
We try to hide our feelings, but forgot our eyes speak. - Unknown