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5 Reasons To Take It Slow With A New Relationship
New romance and love feels incredible. There is no denying that we can feel an indescribable happiness and joy when when we are starting a new relationship and falling in love. Love makes us feel like we are floating on air.
With so much incredible happiness and joy, can come feelings of wanting it to never end, and thoughts of speeding things along to solidify your relationship. You may see this man or woman as your forever person, even though you have only been dating for a few month.
Despite the urges you may have to move in together, put a ring on it, or start having babies, here are a few reasons to take it slow.
Reasons To Take It Slow
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Enjoy The Newness
There is no feeling like new love. The giddiness and excitement of seeing each other and being together is a feeling that cannot be replicated. You will find that if you start rushing things, the feelings of new love and excitement will quickly leave, and be replaced with your typical relationship issues all too soon.
Feel Comfortable
While the early stages of a relationship are filled with butterflies and new feelings, you may also find that you are filled with some anxiety and self consciousness.
If you allow your relationship to slowly grow and unfold over time, you will find that you start to feel more comfortable around your love, and more comfortable being your true self.
No Pressure
When relationships are new and growing, there is a certain amount of pressure we put on ourselves to be interesting and fun, and everything we think they want us to be. But if you allow your relationship the time it needs to flourish, you will not feel pressured to make sure they stick around because you will know where you stand with them.
Learn About Each Other
There is no doubt that many people wear masks when first meeting people. We put our best “face” forward when starting a new relationship. Not to say that people are necessarily fake, but no one is perfect, and we do not want to show what might be considered as our bad side.
More Likely To Last
Studies show that relationships that take it slow in the beginning and allow things to develop organically over time are likely to last longer. I think the reasons above are why slow growing relationships tend to last.
You cannot have a truly loving and committed relationship if you do not know them and they do not know who you really are.
Some will argue that when you know you know, and there is no reason to wait to start your life together. But I say if they are the one, waiting a little longer to move in together, get pregnant, or getting married will not change what is meant to be.
What are your thoughts on taking things slow with a new relationship?
“But new love only lasts so long, and then you crash back into the real people you are, and from as high as we were, it's a very long fall, and we hit the ground with a thud.” ― Marya Hornbacher, Madness: A Bipolar Life
6 Signs He’s Trying To Attract You
When a guy is interested in you and trying to attract you, he will behave a certain way to get your attention. It really is cute and quite sweet when you think about it. He may go about trying to attract you in a subtle way, or be blatant to test the waters to see if you are interested too.
Men and women use different tactics when trying to attract someone they are interested in. While women may seem obvious because they flip their hair, or laughs at a guy’s silly jokes to attract the guy they’re interested in, men are just as obvious if you know what signs to look for.
6 Signs He’s Trying to Attract You
He Dresses To Impress
If he knows that he is going to be seeing you he will go out of his ways to look his best for you. If he knows your favorite style or favorite color he will tailor his look to attract you.
He Talks Louder
He may not be talking to you, but he wants you to hear everything he is saying. He will try to sound as cool, smart, or as funny as possible. He wants you to be aware of his presence and he wants your attention.
His Body Language
A guy who is trying to attract you will have very open, positive body language towards you. His feet will be pointed towards you and he may also mirror your behavior and subconsciously groom himself.
Funny Man
When a guy is trying to attract you he will try to be funny and charming. He wants you to like him, and he recognizes that laughter is the way to make you feel relaxed around him and for him to endear himself to you.
Shares Your Interests
If a guy is interested in you he will do his homework. He will find out everything he can about you, especially your likes, your dislikes, and your hobbies.
Your interests and hobbies are his way in. If he knows you’re into cycling he will learn all he can about cycling or even take it up himself, so he can talk about it with you and create commonality and bond.
Eye Contact
When a guy is trying to attract you he will first off start by making a lot of eye contact. He will look deep into your eyes and try to make a deep connection. As he gazes at you he will try to hold your gaze to make sure you know that he is interested.
You should now know the signs when a guy is trying to attract you. If you are interested in him as well, tell him so or at least let your body language do the talking. Hopefully he will find the courage to make a move.
Can you tell when a guy is trying to attract you? What are your thoughts on the signs that he is trying to win you over? Please share your thoughts and experience!
“You see in all my life I’ve never found what I couldn’t resist, what I couldn’t turn down. I could walk away from anyone I ever knew, but I can’t walk away from you.” - Billy Joel, Shameless (Performed by Garth Brooks)