Why You Crave Him: The Science Behind Pheromones, Attraction, and Emotional Chemistry
Sometimes a guy comes along, and you find him irresistible. Literally irresistible. I mean, you can barely stop yourself from pouncing on him like a wild animal catching its prey. Intense attraction is just not about how good looking someone is. In fact
There is just something about him, but you cannot explain it. He isn’t necessarily the most handsome man you have ever met, but still you are drawn to him. You crave him in every way. When you see him, or just think about him, you want to do things with him and to him that even shock you.
So what is it about him, and why do you desire him so badly? There is a lot of science behind why we are attracted to someone. Is it chemistry, is it psychology, or is it possibly the pheromone effect?
The Science of Attraction
Attraction is a mix of biology, chemistry, and psychology that happens very fast in our brains. It involves three main stages driven by different body systems: lust, attraction, and deep attachment.
Lust - Driven by sex hormones like testosterone and estrogen, creating a basic physical desire for others.
Attraction - fueled by brain chemicals like dopamine (reward) and norepinephrine (energy and racing heart) that make you feel excited and focused on a specific person.
Deep Attachment - oxytocin and vasopressin, which build long-term safety, comfort, and deep bonds.
The combination of lust, attraction, and deep attachment can form a powerful mental, emotional, and physical pull towards someone.
The Pheromone Effect
A pheromone is a chemical that animals produce, which changes the behavior of another animal of the same species. Pheromones can trigger behaviors, and is known as behavior-altering agents.
Although the pheromone effect in nature is known to trigger behaviors such as fear and mating in animals and insects, the affects on human behavior is more theory and continues to be studied.
While the affects of pheromones in humans is up for debate by some, others believe in the power of pheromones so strongly that they have bottled pheromones. Some people call pheromones a love potion, and whether or not you are a believer, for about $100 you can buy and spray on some sex appeal to attract the one you desire.
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How Does The Pheromone Effect Work
Some studies have shown that for humans it’s all about smell. Our olfactory receptors can detect odors and smells on a subconscious level. Smells that you are completely unaware of. Just take a man’s perspiration for example.
By a man’s sweat, a woman may be able to detect a man’s testosterone level, which may make her crave his sperm and want to mate with him. It is a very primal reaction.
Humans are, after all, just animals. Animals who have learned to control and suppress their animal instincts.
Are you a believer in the pheromone effect? I am. The pheromone effect is separate from compatibility and attraction, although the two can overlap. Is it pheromones that create amazing emotional and sexual chemistry between two people? Probably. But it’s also a boatload of psychology, history, and chemical reactions happening in your brain.
What are your thoughts on the science of attraction and the pheromone effect? It’s a lot to take in, but in my opinion, it does make sense when you think about it. The rush you feel, the increased heart rate, and the butterflies in your stomach are physical responses to an emotional feeling. Have you ever had an unexplainable pull or attraction to someone? Have you ever used a pheromone spray? Please share your thoughts and experience!
“I had not intended to love him; the reader knows I had wrought hard to extirpate from my soul the germs of love there detected; and now, at the first renewed view of him, they spontaneously revived, great and strong! He made me love him without looking at me.” ― Charlotte Brontë, Jane Eyre
