8 Signs of Sexual Tension (And What It Really Means)
Sexual tension exists when two people are physically attracted to one another, want to be physical with each other, but hold back for one reason or another. Sexual tension is the unspoken and unresolved desire between two people in any given moment. There is a bit of excitement around sexual tension because it’s often with someone you are not supposed to have those feelings for, like a friend, a coworker, or someone who is already taken.
Being that sexual tension is most often found in groups of friends or in the workplace, it can develop out of almost nowhere. One day you are buddies and the next day your heart races when you look at each other and you start to see them differently.
You may not be sure if your friend is feeling the pull that you are but when sexual tension exists there will be signs. Here are the 8 signs of sexual tension.
8 Signs Of Sexual Tension
Eye Contact
When there is sexual tension between two people there is a lot of direct, intense eye contact. Your eyes will show your desire for each other and the fire you feel inside. Your eyes will betray you.
Butterflies In The Stomach
Sexual tension between you and another will make you feel giddy and give you butterflies in the stomach. You will feel like a teenager again, in the best, most exciting way possible.
Awkward Interactions
Some relationships have sexual tension from the start, while others have it develop over time. When sexual tension exists you can become unsure of how to act in front of each other. You want to hide your desire and play it cool so things start to feel super awkward.
You Get Physically Close
The sexual tension exists because you two are physically attracted to each other and deep down want to sleep together. For one reason or another you two are not moving in that direction yet so you choose the next best thing and that is getting physically close to one another.
Casual Touches
You want to touch each other any time you can. Whether it’s just a touch of the fingers when passing something to the other or a casual hand on the back or arm as a greeting or a goodbye. You cannot do what you really want to them so you will settle for any physical interaction you can get.
You Flirt With Innuendos
When there is sexual tension between two people it will often reflect in their communications with each other. When you are around each other you cannot stop thinking about how much you want them which starts to leak out in conversation, emails, and texts with comments and jokes that seem to be of a more sexual nature.
Others Notice
When there is sexual tension between two people it is usually felt by those around them as well. It is palpable. Others will notice that there is something between you two, and some may even comment. It’s hard to hide an intense attraction for someone for an extended period of time when around others
You Just Know It
You know that you are attracted to them, and that you desire them, and you can feel their desire and attraction to you as well. They are sending you vibes and your gut is telling you everything you need to know.
What To Do About Your Sexual Tension
When sexual tension exists, there is a certain level of anticipation and excitement between the two people. Brain chemicals kick into overdrive, and the body reacts. A dopamine high hits, and adrenaline pumps.
When dealing with sexual tension between you and another, you really only have three options. The first option is to ignore the sexual tension. You may choose to ignore it because you actually like the current status quo. You are not ready to make a decision to move things to the next level, but you are enjoying the sexual tension and feelings it gives you.
The sexual tension and attraction may fizzle out over time on their own, which may mean it was never meant to be. Maybe you realize it was never about the person but the excitement from the fact that the relationship was taboo. No more dopamine hits and no more desire for them.
The second option is to discuss it and get it all out in the open. The conversation may be awkward, but if someone doesn’t make a move and ask the other out and address the sexual “elephant” in the room, then you will remain in a never-ending cycle of flirting and giddiness.
Life is too short to remain in limbo, so eventually something should happen one way or another.
The final and best option is consummation. The buildup of the sexual tension can mean a powerful sexual encounter once it actually happens. Of course, this will likely involve option two to some degree, but it doesn’t require some long-drawn-out discussion.
If the moment is right, and opportunity strikes, no words may be necessary. Your eyes and body language will do the talking, and the rest will hopefully be mind-blowing.
What are your thoughts on dealing with sexual tension? Do you address it, ignore it, or hope things unfold naturally somehow? Please share your thoughts and experience!
“Whatever we have, whatever “this” is, I’m not quite sure. I don’t really know. It doesn’t have a name. But I like it. It makes me feel silly, and vulnerable, loved, valued, and above all it makes me feel good. All at once.” ― Unknown
