10 Quotes To Live Your Life By...

I think we all can admit there is room for improvement, and growth within ourselves. I always say I am a work in progress. I truly am a work in progress, but I am always striving to grow, and be better.

I find that having a personal mantra is helpful. Inspirational quotes of the day help, and so does becoming more in tuned with yourself, and who you really are as person. Over the years, some very wise people have said some very insightful things. Some of their words have become my mantra.

10 Quotes To Live Your Life By...

"Only I can change my life. No one can do it for me." Carol Burnett

"Everybody does not have have to like you. That is not their job. Liking you is not anyone's purpose in life except yours." - Iyanla Vanzant

"A persons character is shown throughout their actions in life NOT where they sit on Sunday." - Navonne Johns

"My mission in life is to not merely survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style." - Maya Angelou

"It's not the years of life, but the life in your years that count." Adlai E. Stevenson

"Trust the wait. Embrace the uncertainty. Enjoy the beauty of becoming. When nothing is certain, anything is possible." Mandy Hale

"Instead of being ashamed of what you have been through, be proud of what you have overcome." - Dr. Phil

"The most important relationship you have is with yourself. Because no matter what happens, you will always be with yourself." - Diane Von Furstenberg

"The only person with whom you have to compare yourself is you in the past." - Sigmund Freud

If you don't go after what you want, you'll never have it. If you don't ask, the answer is always no. If you don't step forward, you're always in the same place." Nora Roberts

I hope you find these quotes as insightful, and helpful as I do. Now that I have shared my 10 quotes to live by, what are some of your favorites? If you never thought about it, this list should get you started.

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5 Signs It’s Time To Set Boundaries In Your Relationship

Boundaries are limits that define acceptable behavior. These limits apply very much so to relationships. In fact, perhaps boundaries in our personal, romantic relationships are the most important ones to set.

We often become comfortable, maybe too comfortable, in our relationships, and we can forget how to treat our partners.

I see boundaries as being about trust and respect. Boundaries apply to everyone, whether you are the male or female in your relationship, or you are a same sex couple. Read the below boundary breakers, and ask yourself if you are doing any of these, or if they are being done to you. If they apply, ask yourself if you are okay with the status quo of your relationship.

The 5 Signs You Need To Set Boundaries

They Interrupt

Whether it's a work call, or your candle party, they interrupt with non-urgent issues. This is a disrespectful power play, and it is a boundary issue. While they think they are marking their territory with you, what they are really doing is putting their lack of respect for you on full display for co-workers, friends, and family.

Respect yourself enough to set boundaries.

They Track and Spy

Everyone, even those in relationships, are entitled to some privacy. They will disguise it as worry for your safety, but it is really about controlling you. Needing to know where another adult is every second of the day, who is supposed to be a partner and equal, is a boundary issue.

In addition to tracking and spying being about control, it is also about a lack of trust and respect in the relationship. The boundary issue is unhealthy and needs to be addressed.

They Smother

Alone time is important, as is time with others outside of your relationship. If your significant other makes you feel guilty for doing things, or wanting to do things, without them, you have a boundary problem.

If they do not respect your need or desire for alone time, or to occasionally do things without, they have serious boundary issues.

Always About Them

Does just about everything you do as a couple revolve around their wants? Do you get input? Do you try to give input but always seem to get shot down? You are paying for half the trip, but get none of the say. These are boundary issues. Your voice is not heard, and your opinion is not valued. Set the expectation.

They Treat You Disrespectfully

Are things said to you by your significant other that you would be ashamed if your family or friends ever overheard or knew about? That is a boundary issue. Many things go on between couples, but verbal and emotional abuse should not be tolerated.

Hands are not the only way to beat a person down. Set boundaries, stand up for yourself, and tell them to never speak to you like that again.

Relationships are work, but I believe too many people spend far too much time ignoring problems that can be fixed, such as boundary breaking. They spend too much time hoping things will turn around, while not facing problems head on. And unfortunately, they spend too much time working on relationships that are beyond repair, or that was never going to work at all.

What are your thoughts? These are just my opinions, and I know everybody has one. Please share your story or experience!

“When we fail to set boundaries and hold people accountable, we feel used and mistreated. This is why we sometimes attack who they are, which is far more hurtful than addressing a behavior or a choice.” - Brene Brown

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