How To Accept What You Cannot Control

One does not need to be a control freak in order to want to control most or all aspects of their life. Unfortunately, the reality is that there are many things in our lives we have no control over.

Accepting the fact that we cannot control certain situations or certain people, especially partners and children, can be challenging for some, to say the least. And frustrating and anxiety-inducing for others.

The easiest outlook to have is to just say “it is what it is” with situations beyond our control but of course that is always easier said than done. While the words may not work there are behaviors you can change that make having a lack of control more bearable.

Ways To Accept What You Can’t Control

Focus On What You Can Control

It is very easy to hyperfocus and stress over situations and people we cannot control. The fact is, we can only control ourselves, and sometimes we may not be able to even control what is happening to our own bodies.

Regardless of what the circumstance or situation is, there will be one element within your control, and that is your response to it. Focus on you. Focus on your mental and physical health which will get you through this challenging time.

Let It Go

As hard as it may be, sometimes the best thing you can do is just let it go. Let that stressful job go. Or let go of that toxic friendship that leaves you feeling like crap. And let go and accept that the man or woman you have been pining after for years will never return your love or love you the way you deserve.

Decompress

Whether it is hitting the gym, going for a run, or meditating, decompressing is key to coping with and accepting circumstances beyond your control.

What are your thoughts on accepting what you can’t control? Do you find it difficult or have you found techniques that work for you? Please share your thoughts and experience!

“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don't resist them; that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.” ― Lao Tzu

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Self Love...Best Ways To Pamper Yourself

There are many ways to love yourself. It is just as important to be kind, respectful, and loving to yourself as it is to others. Taking time for yourself is personal maintenance and you should not feel guilty for doing it.

How you pamper yourself is unique to you and what relaxes you and brings you peace.

I pamper myself and recharge with some self-indulgences, and no regrets about it. Everyone needs the occasional indulgence. I think my indulgences are simple, not too pricey, and oh so pleasing. If you are not sure how to go about pampering yourself, I have some suggestions for you.

5 Ways To Give Yourself Some Love

“Me” Time

We all deserve to have some time to ourselves and our thoughts. Or maybe time to just not think at all. Whether you are a wife, girlfriend, mother of two, or full time student, you need to take time for yourself to recharge. I like to hit the gym or get a facial for my me time.

Flowers

Fresh flowers are a must have in my home. I buy fresh flowers every week for the kitchen island, the family room, and the master bedroom. Lilies and tulips are my favorite, but I will also mix it up with seasonal flowers.

Like right now I have spring bouquets throughout the house with peonies, tulips, and lucky me, beautiful white and pink lilies.

Cookware

I cook daily for my family. Le Creuset is my cookware of choice. It is pricey but I love to cook and it is so worth it. Le Creuset is quality, heavy, cast iron cookware that I see myself passing on to my daughters who also like to cook.

The cookware comes in great colors. I prefer the caribbean blue. I also splurged on some great bakeware from William Sonoma. Awesome products which make my time in the kitchen easier and much more enjoyable.

Beauty

Now that I am in my forties, my self-awareness in regards to aging is on high alert. I have always taken pretty good care of my skin, but I have bounced around from products. Well I have finally found the skin care and make-up line that I think works best for me, and that is Estee Lauder.

Estee Lauder is also very pricey but worth it to me. I also get regular facials and pedicures which are so relaxing, they are almost therapeutic. 

Hikes

Hikes or walks, call it what you will, I enjoy them. I like to get up early on Saturday and Sunday mornings and go for about 2 hours if I can. It clears my mind and get those endorphins going. This one is probably the best indulgence of them all.

I listed things that I enjoy and love to do. That’s really the secret to self love. You find time for the things you love to do and do them. What are your thoughts on self love? Do you make time for yourself? Please share your thoughts and experience!

"If you aren't good at loving yourself, you will have a difficult time loving anyone, since you'll resent the time and energy you give another person that you aren't even giving to yourself." -Barbara De Angelis

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