8 Signs He Likes You and Is Genuinely Interested
You may be wondering: does he actually like you, and are his feelings genuine? It can be hard to tell these days in the dating market, where the pickings are slim and people are phonies. And unfortunately, just about all of us ladies have all been there. It can be both exciting and torturous all at the same time, trying to figure out if a guy is interested in you romantically. You try to decipher if he likes you just as a friend, or if there is a possibility of more. His lack of confession may be confusing, and he may even seem to be playing games. Of course, if he’s actually playing games or stringing you along, drop him, because he doesn’t deserve you.
Take comfort that it is not always about playing games or being a player, though. Just like women, men want to protect their egos and their hearts too. But he should always be making the effort to take care of your heart during this process and showing you the respect and consideration you deserve.
If he’s genuine, he may want to know how you feel about him before he puts himself out there. But as much as he may try to hide it, there are some definite signs that he has feelings for you and is interested.
8 Signs He's Genuinely Interested In You
The Way He Looks At You
An interested guy will lock eyes with you a lot. I call it the love gaze. He cannot help himself. And it's not just about the eye contact itself, but the look in his eyes. There is a light in his eyes when he looks at you. His desire for you, and his happiness to be in your presence, are difficult for him to hide.
The eyes truly are windows to the soul. An interested man's eyes will beam at you. Pay attention to the way he looks at you versus how he looks at everyone else. The difference will be obvious, even if he tries to mask it.
Pro tip: Read his body language while you two are locking eyes. Check for dilated pupils. When someone is looking at someone they are interested in, their pupils dilate.
The Way He Remembers
When a man is interested, he pays attention. He will remember your favorite food, your favorite color, and of course your birthday. He will even remember your allergies and pet peeves if you have mentioned them. He wants to know everything about you. The more he knows about you, the better chance he will have of winning you over.
We tend to remember what we care about. Sure, he may just have a great memory, but we all data dump useless information. Your guy knows your likes and dislikes because you are important to him.
Pro tip: Pay attention to whether or not he’s actually curious about you and asking questions or if you are just sharing info.
He Lets You Vent
Guys generally dislike drama and long conversations, especially via text and over the phone. But if a guy is willing to let you vent to him, he may be a keeper. Not only does he let you vent, but he tries to come up with solutions for your problems, and to cheer you up. A fella doing all of this is probably already in love or at least a good listener.
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The foundation of any good relationship is a strong friendship. A guy who is willing to listen to your frustrations is a guy who is demonstrating that he can be there for you as a friend, and maybe more as well.
Pro tip: Pay attention to whether or not he’s actually listening and engaged or checked out and pretending to be a great listener.
His Body Language
A guy's body language can tell you almost everything you want to know, without him having to say a word. He may show that he is nervous by being fidgety in your presence. Your guy's nervousness is because he cares about what you think of him. He may also be smiling really big, which is telling you that he is happy to see you.
Take a look at where he looks when something funny happens and you are in a group setting. Does he look to you first? If yes, he feels closer to you than any other person in the room.
Also notice where his feet are pointing in a group setting. Is he facing your direction? His feet point towards where he wants to look. He wants to keep you in his line of sight.
Pro tip: Body language also includes his voice, so pay attention to how he sounds when you two are on the phone.
The Time and Effort He Gives You
We are all busy, and our time is valuable. So a guy who is willing to make time for you is showing you how important you are to him. Whether it is giving you a ride to the airport or helping you with a school or work project, he is showing you that you mean something to him.
We make time for what is important to us. If he is interested, he will make the time and effort to see you. And if he is unable to see you, he will find a way to communicate with you to let you know you are on his mind.
Pro tip: Just be mindful if he is also giving other women his time too.
He Only Shows Romantic Interest In You
If a man is genuinely interested in pursuing a romantic, committed relationship with you, he is not showing interest in other women. A man who hopes to have a future relationship with you will not be dating other women, following or engaging with them online, especially sexy pictures of strangers (or casual acquaintances) on social media, and he will not be giving any other woman the impression that he is also interested in her. If he is doing any of these things, he is not genuine or serious about a future with any woman.
Pro tip: He may be liking, engaging with, and watching the stories of women he’s lusting after from another account that is not his main one. If this is the case, he cannot be trusted.
He Asks About Your Day
This goes hand in hand with letting you vent. When a man asks you about your day, he is telling you he cares. He wants to know what is going on in your life, because he wants to be part of it.
Asking about your day is a big deal. He knows it can lead to a long conversation and possible venting, and he's okay with that because you are a priority to him.
Pro tip: Be mindful that this one should be on a consistent basis.
Your Gut Feeling
Even though we sometimes play coy or oblivious, we are usually aware deep down when someone is romantically interested. If he seems interested, then he probably is interested. You can either give him time to make his move, or you can take the lead. Or recognize you got it wrong and he is not the guy for you. Him being interested in you and him being worthy of your time, effort, and love are vastly different things. Listen to your gut. Is he as great as you originally thought?
Pro tip: It’s okay to walk away, no matter how much time you invested in someone.
Final Thoughts
Yes, guys can be confusing at times and almost seem wishy-washy. But just remember, just as you are trying to figure out how he feels about you, he is doing the same things. Someone has to be willing to put themselves out there if anything is to ever happen.
Pay attention to his actions, not his words. If he seems to be playing games, seems to be a fraud, or is just not giving you the respect and effort you deserve, let him go, because there are likely many good men willing to take his place in your heart.
Now you know the signs to look for in your crush. Is he interested? Is he worthy? What are your thoughts? What other signs do you look for? Please share and leave a comment below!
"The extreme form of passionate love is secret love." - Japanese Proverb
