8 Signs of Sexual Tension and What To Do About It

Sexual tension exists when two people are physically attracted to one another, want to be physical with each other, but hold back for one reason or another.

Sexual tension is most often found in groups of friends or in the workplace. It can develop out of almost nowhere. One day you are buddies and the next your heart races when you look at each other and you start to see them differently.

You may not be sure if your friend is feeling the pull that you are but when sexual tension exists there will be signs.

8 Signs Of Sexual Tension

Eye Contact

When there is sexual tension between two people there is a lot of direct, intense eye contact. Your eyes will show your desire for each other and the fire you feel inside. Your eyes will betray you.

Butterflies In The Stomach

Sexual tension between you and another will make you feel giddy and give you butterflies in the stomach. You will feel like a teenager again, in the best, most exciting way possible.

Awkward Interactions

Some relationships have sexual tension from the start, while others have it develop over time. When sexual tension exists you can become unsure of how to act in front of each other. You want to hide your desire and play it cool so things start to feel super awkward.

You Get Physically Close

The sexual tension exists because you two are physically attracted to each other and deep down want to sleep together. For one reason or another you two are not moving in that direction yet so you choose the next best thing and that is getting physically close to one another.

Casual Touches

You want to touch each other any time you can. Whether it’s just a touch of the fingers when passing something to the other or a casual hand on the back or arm as a greeting or a goodbye. You cannot do what you really want to them so you will settle for any physical interaction you can get.

You Flirt With Innuendos

When there is sexual tension between two people it will often reflect in their communications with each other. When you are around each other you cannot stop thinking about how much you want them which starts to leak out in conversation, emails, and texts with comments and jokes that seem to be of a more sexual nature.

Others Notice

When there is sexual tension between two people it is usually felt by those around them as well. It is palpable. Others will notice that there is something between you two, and some may even comment. It’s hard to hide an intense attraction for someone for an extended period of time when around others

You Just Know It

You know that you are attracted to them, and that you desire them, and you can feel their desire and attraction to you as well. They are sending you vibes and your gut is telling you everything you need to know.

What To Do About Your Sexual Tension

When dealing with sexual tension between you and another, you really only have three options. The first option is to ignore the sexual tension. You may choose to ignore because you actually like the current status quo. You are not ready to make a decision to move things to the next level, but you are enjoying the sexual tension and feelings it gives you.

The sexual tension and attraction may fizzle out over time on its own, which may mean it was never meant to be.

The second option is to discuss it and get it all out in the open. The conversation may be awkward, but if someone doesn’t make a move and ask the other out and address the sexual “elephant” in the room, then you will remain in a never ending cycle of flirting and giddiness.

Life is too short to remain in limbo, so eventually something should happen one way or another.

The final and best option is consummation. The build up of the sexual tension can mean a powerful sexual encounter, once it actually happens. Of course this will likely involve option two to some degree, but it doesn’t require some long drawn out discussion.

If the moment is right, and opportunity strikes, no words may be necessary. Your eyes and body language will do the talking, and the rest will hopefully be mind blowing.

What are your thoughts on dealing with sexual tension? Do you address it, ignore it, or hope things unfold naturally somehow? Please share your thoughts and experience!

“Our eyes met and our souls caught on fire.” ― Nikki Rowe

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6 Signs Your Coworker Is Crushing On You

Crushes aren’t just for teens, and why should they be. Crushes are sweet, and exciting no matter the age of those involved. Crushes can begin with a single interaction, or develop over time with day to day conversations or contact.

Relationships, love, and dating in the workplace can create complicated situations that are difficult to navigate. Before you make your feelings known to your office crush, you will want to be certain about how they feel about you. If they are crushing on you there are signs to look for.

6 Signs Your Co-Worker Is Crushing On You

Hangs Around Your Cubicle

When a co-worker is crushing on you they will find any reason to come to your desk. Their stapler is not working, they want to borrow a pen, or they have a question that really anyone could answer. Anything to engage with you and have your attention.

Brings You Coffee Or Gifts

Being thoughtful is their way of trying to win you over. An office mate who has feelings for you and is secretly crushing will bring you your favorite coffee in the morning, they will remember your birthday, and they will always try to be helpful to you in anyway they can.

Asks You To Lunch

Your co-worker just wants to spend time with you, preferably just the two of you, but they will make a group offer to grab lunch. They know that workplace romance is tricky and they don’t want to creep you out so they will try to make the lunch invites seem casual and friendly.

Always Next To You In Meetings

Somehow no matter who arrived first to the meeting, your crushing co-worker will end up next to you. If you think someone is crushing on you, pay attention to who they gravitate to when given the option of where to sit or stand.

Ask Questions About Your Life

Your crush will want to know if you’re single, or if you are in a relationship how things are going. They will asks about your weekend, trying to find out what you like to do and who you are spending time with.

When asking questions they are trying to learn everything they can about you and find their way in. They want to find a way into your life and into your heart.

Tries To Meet Up Outside Of Work

Much like trying to go lunch, your crush will want to hang out with you outside of work. Whether they are trying to talk you into going out for happy hour or attending the office holiday party, they are looking for any excuse to hang out.

Work crushes are natural, normal, and somewhat sweet. But one has to be careful when testing the waters of mutual interest or venturing into a workplace relationship.

What are your thoughts on work crushes? Is there a coworker you think may be crushing on you? Are you crushing on a coworker? How do you handle these situations both past and present? Please share thoughts and experience!

“Some crushes just never went away. They built, instead, into something permanent, obsessive and all consuming.” ― Maya Banks, Rush

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