Why Some Men Enjoy a More Dominant Partner: The Psychology Behind the Attraction

Domination is about control, and when you allow yourself to be dominated you give up some of your control. Even the control freak likes to occasionally be the passenger and not the driver.

Some men like to be dominated, if only for a little while. He wants to be submissive behind closed doors, in the home, or perhaps just in the bedroom, but regardless of the location, he wants you to take over and dominate him.

The strongest, most confident of men often enjoy domination the most, and you may be asking yourself why, but after reading this blog it will make total sense. Here’s why he wants to be dominated.

5 Reasons Why He Wants To Be Dominated By You

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Relieves Stress

Stress is the body’s natural response to the pressures and challenges we have in our lives, and one has to find a way to manage it. Domination is not always about sex. Domination is often about mental and emotional releases. The role-play, the pain, and even the verbal domination can have an almost soothing and calming effect on a man who wants to be dominated.

Wants To Be Vulnerable

To be vulnerable means to make yourself open to mental, physical, and emotional harm. Men do not often feel comfortable being vulnerable. But in a safe setting and with the right woman, he can allow himself to be vulnerable, even if just under the guise of domination.

It Turns Him On

Yes, sometimes domination is a fetish. A kink or a fetish can be a specific focus that is needed for sexual arousal or gratification. Some men are masochists and enjoy a mixture of pain and pleasure. Domination can involve words of abuse or instruction, physical pain, or consist of small or big punishments.

Every couple has to explore and find their comfort level to make their own rules of play when it comes to domination in the bedroom.

He’s Powerful

Being the one always in charge is exhausting and stressful. Everyone is always looking to him for guidance and answers. Even if he's the one in charge in the boardroom or the office, he may want you to take charge at home or in the bedroom.

He knows that he is powerful, but giving up some of that control to you in the bedroom, and not knowing what you will do to him, excites him.

He Respects You

Most men are not just going to give up their power and control and be vulnerable with just anyone. But with the right woman, a woman he sees as his equal, he can be okay with letting her dominate him. If he respects you and trusts you, he can feel free to let go. Strong, confident men love strong, confident women.

The role of dominatrix is not for everyone, but just as he enjoys giving up his control for a time, you may also enjoy being in complete control of him occasionally.

Domination and role play are not for every man either; at least not every man is willing to admit it. So now that you understand the why, are you game for a little dominating? You and your partner make the rules. And don’t forget your safe word…LOL

Now I want to hear from you. What are your thoughts on dominating him? Do you agree with the rationale for enjoying domination? Please share your thoughts and experience!

“You must learn to let go. Release the stress. You were never in control anyway.” ― Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free

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How to Know If You're Truly Compatible: 8 Signs of a Healthy Relationship

Finding the right mate, or the “one” can feel like a daunting task to say the least. If you have been in the dating scene for a while, or have had several or many relationships over the years, you may be wondering why the relationships don’t work out.

As the old saying goes, “you will have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince”. While I do agree with the overall concept that you may need to meet a lot of different men to find the right one, I don’t think you will necessary need to date, kiss, or sleep with them all to find out if they are the right one, unless of course you want to.

Compatibility can be determined pretty early on and good conversation will usually help you figure it out.

How To Determine Compatibility

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Ask Questions

There are many questions you need answers to if you really want to determine compatibility. All questions do not need to be asked and answered on a first date, but over time you definitely need to peel back the onion and find out where they stand on some really big issues, but also some smaller issues as well.

You will want to know about their thoughts on marriage and family. Do they expect their spouse to work or stay home. Do they want kids? How many and how far into the relationship? Where do they ultimately want to live and retire? And the big one is their relationship with money. Are they a spender or a saver? And of course what role will religion play in your lives and the lives of your children.

Do Things Together

Ideally you meet your mate while participating in an activity you are both very interested in, but if you don’t you will want to find common interests. If you love to read, it may not be a requirement but it is nice to have a partner who also enjoys reading and discussing books they have read.

If you are a very intellectual, critical thinker, you will not be compatible with someone you might describe as not very smart, and you definitely won’t be able to respect them.

If you are into fitness or the outdoors, you will want to try out these activities together. While you do not have to work out together, being able to enjoy activities together that interest you both will keep you bonded.

Meet Family and Friends

People from similar backgrounds tend to be more compatible. Of course, different upbringings don’t necessarily need to be a deal-breaker, but it does make relatability and the understanding of points of view more challenging. Similar upbringings also play a big role in how you view marriage, family, and especially how to raise children.

It is important to be open-minded but also realistic in choosing a partner from a different background.

Kiss/Sleep Together

Physical attraction and sexual compatibility are extremely important to a relationship. I am not encouraging anyone to sleep around, and I understand that for some this is a moral issue, but ask yourself: how many things do you purchase without sampling? If you knew you couldn’t return something, would you still buy it?

Well, I look at selecting a partner the same way. Sexual compatibility is very important. For long-term happiness and fulfillment, you want to have an enjoyable sex life, and if you didn’t know what you were getting into, you were taking a gamble that may or may not pay off.

In all honesty, you can force just about any relationship to work if you are determined to. But if you want to be happy and have a healthy, long-lasting relationship, here are the signs to look for.

8 Signs of A Healthy Relationship

Open Communication: Both you and your partner should be able to openly discuss any topic in your marriage without fear of reprisal, anger, or being shut down.

Emotional Safety: You do not fear for your physical, emotional, or financial safety in the relationship.

Compromise: You’re able to meet in the middle. You and your partner will not always agree, but in a healthy relationship, you are able to discuss and hear out your partner.

Mutual Respect: You value and respect your partner and their boundaries.

Equity: Both you and your partner have an equal say in decisions made for you as a couple.

Trust: You respect each other’s privacy and do not spy on or monitor your partner.

Independence: You each have your identity outside of your relationship. You have individual hobbies, interests, and personal time.

Support: You encourage your partner, let them vent, and cheer them on when needed because you want to see them succeed and meet their goals.

We are who we are, and while we change some over the years, we also stay very much the same, so hoping someone will change and become more of who you want them to be is wishful thinking. It is better to choose someone you are compatible with than to try to change someone to fit your mental, emotional, and sexual needs.

What are your thoughts on compatibility? How important do you think it is to relationship longevity and happiness? Please share your thoughts and experience!

“Research shows that couples who have a lot of similarities, including intellectual compatibility, end up staying together.” - Helen Fisher

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8 Signs of Sexual Tension (And What It Really Means)

Sexual tension exists when two people are physically attracted to one another, want to be physical with each other, but hold back for one reason or another. Sexual tension is the unspoken and unresolved desire between two people in any given moment. There is a bit of excitement around sexual tension because it’s often with someone you are not supposed to have those feelings for, like a friend, a coworker, or someone who is already taken.

Being that sexual tension is most often found in groups of friends or in the workplace, it can develop out of almost nowhere. One day you are buddies and the next day your heart races when you look at each other and you start to see them differently.

You may not be sure if your friend is feeling the pull that you are but when sexual tension exists there will be signs. Here are the 8 signs of sexual tension.

8 Signs Of Sexual Tension

Eye Contact

When there is sexual tension between two people there is a lot of direct, intense eye contact. Your eyes will show your desire for each other and the fire you feel inside. Your eyes will betray you.

Butterflies In The Stomach

Sexual tension between you and another will make you feel giddy and give you butterflies in the stomach. You will feel like a teenager again, in the best, most exciting way possible.

Awkward Interactions

Some relationships have sexual tension from the start, while others have it develop over time. When sexual tension exists you can become unsure of how to act in front of each other. You want to hide your desire and play it cool so things start to feel super awkward.

You Get Physically Close

The sexual tension exists because you two are physically attracted to each other and deep down want to sleep together. For one reason or another you two are not moving in that direction yet so you choose the next best thing and that is getting physically close to one another.

Casual Touches

You want to touch each other any time you can. Whether it’s just a touch of the fingers when passing something to the other or a casual hand on the back or arm as a greeting or a goodbye. You cannot do what you really want to them so you will settle for any physical interaction you can get.

You Flirt With Innuendos

When there is sexual tension between two people it will often reflect in their communications with each other. When you are around each other you cannot stop thinking about how much you want them which starts to leak out in conversation, emails, and texts with comments and jokes that seem to be of a more sexual nature.

Others Notice

When there is sexual tension between two people it is usually felt by those around them as well. It is palpable. Others will notice that there is something between you two, and some may even comment. It’s hard to hide an intense attraction for someone for an extended period of time when around others

You Just Know It

You know that you are attracted to them, and that you desire them, and you can feel their desire and attraction to you as well. They are sending you vibes and your gut is telling you everything you need to know.

What To Do About Your Sexual Tension

When sexual tension exists, there is a certain level of anticipation and excitement between the two people. Brain chemicals kick into overdrive, and the body reacts. A dopamine high hits, and adrenaline pumps.

When dealing with sexual tension between you and another, you really only have three options. The first option is to ignore the sexual tension. You may choose to ignore it because you actually like the current status quo. You are not ready to make a decision to move things to the next level, but you are enjoying the sexual tension and feelings it gives you.

The sexual tension and attraction may fizzle out over time on their own, which may mean it was never meant to be. Maybe you realize it was never about the person but the excitement from the fact that the relationship was taboo. No more dopamine hits and no more desire for them.

The second option is to discuss it and get it all out in the open. The conversation may be awkward, but if someone doesn’t make a move and ask the other out and address the sexual “elephant” in the room, then you will remain in a never-ending cycle of flirting and giddiness.

Life is too short to remain in limbo, so eventually something should happen one way or another.

The final and best option is consummation. The buildup of the sexual tension can mean a powerful sexual encounter once it actually happens. Of course, this will likely involve option two to some degree, but it doesn’t require some long-drawn-out discussion.

If the moment is right, and opportunity strikes, no words may be necessary. Your eyes and body language will do the talking, and the rest will hopefully be mind-blowing.

What are your thoughts on dealing with sexual tension? Do you address it, ignore it, or hope things unfold naturally somehow? Please share your thoughts and experience!

“Whatever we have, whatever “this” is, I’m not quite sure. I don’t really know. It doesn’t have a name. But I like it. It makes me feel silly, and vulnerable, loved, valued, and above all it makes me feel good. All at once.” ― Unknown

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8 Signs He's Falling Hard for You (And May Not Even Realize It)

Being in love is a wonderful feeling but when you are truly loved by that special someone there is something just magical about it. Crazy in love makes you feel, well a little crazy, but in the best way possible. And having that love returned by your crush or the guy you love makes you feel all gooey inside.

Sometimes you can be dating a guy or in a relationship and it feels like he is just going through the motions. Other times you can feel completely and totally loved even though the words may not have been spoken. If you are trying to figure out if he is as crazy about you as you are about him there are signs to look for.

8 Signs He’s Falling Hard For You

He Can’t Stay Away

When a man is crazy about you he cannot stay away for very long. He wants to see you, every day. He misses you when apart and if he can’t see you face to face he will want to FaceTime with you, talk on the phone, or just text with you. Anything to be near, talk to, or to see the face of the woman he’s crazy about.

Needs To Connect With You

A guy who is crazy about you will want to continually connect with you in some way. Whether it’s a physical connection and in person, or just a phone call or text, he desperately craves interaction with his love. His desire to connect is also about the mental, intellectual, and emotional connections you two have created.

Wants To Touch You

When a guy is crazy about you he will want to touch you a lot, and the touching will not be just about sex. When together he cannot keep himself from just kissing you or holding your hand, or just touching your hair. He wants to physically connect with you and express his feelings through touch. He would also love for these actions to be reciprocated.

He Can’t Stop Talking About You

A guy who is crazy about you will talk about you constantly without him even realizing it is happening. Your name comes out of his mouth constantly. He’s not doing it on purpose but he cannot help himself.

You are always on his mind. Plus he just likes talking about you and saying your name. Others tend to notice how frequently he mentions you.

He’s Willing To Change For You

None of us are perfect and a guy who is crazy about you may recognize he has some work to do if he wants to be with you. There could be some things about him that don’t necessarily mesh well with you and out of care for you, he is willing to change some behaviors or at least compromise to meet you halfway.

He’s Tolerating Your Crazy

When crazy about someone we tend to give them a pass on behaviors that we would find annoying or dealbreakers in others. You are far from perfect. You can be indecisive, moody, and you also snore, but he doesn’t care because he is crazy about you and loves you for you.

He Tells You

A guy who is crazy about you will have a hard time keeping his feelings to himself for long. A man who is serious about a future with you will never make you question where you stand with him. A guy who is crazy about you and in love with you will tell you his feelings because he doesn’t want to risk losing you.

You Just Know It

A man’s body language and actions will tell you everything you need to know about how he truly feels about you. The way he looks at you says it all. His eyes will show the depth of his feelings, as will his behavior. A man who is crazy about you will be consistent in his courtship and treatment of you.

When a man is crazy about you, he will be willing to be vulnerable and all in. He knows that letting you know how much you mean to him may give you the upper hand, but he won’t care because you are not a game to him. He cares about you and being with you, and expressing his feelings for you will start a new chapter in your relationship.

So while you will be able to tell how he feels about you, he won’t keep you waiting on confirmation.

What are your thoughts on the signs of a man crazy about you? Do you agree with the signs? How do you tell if a guy is crazy about you? Please share your advice or experience!

When you find someone, who can make you laugh. Smile. Grow. Lust. Want. Crave. Feel. Make you mad but happy. Keep that. That’s euphoria. - Unknown

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8 Signs Of A Healthy Relationship Every Strong Couple Shares

The signs of an unhealthy relationship are pretty easy to spot, although they can go ignored occasionally by those in bad relationships. Sometimes we can become so hyper-focused on what is going wrong in relationships that we fail to see what makes good relationships great.

It is important to be able to recognize your healthy relationship and keep doing what is working.

Healthy relationships consists of simple, basic elements that are needed for each individual in the relationship to feel complete and happy. It seems so simple, but if you are with the wrong person it will be difficult to have a happy, healthy relationship.

Signs Of A Healthy Relationship

Trust and Honesty

Trust and honesty are the pillars of a healthy relationship. You should be able to be honest with your partner and trust what they are telling you and what they are doing when you two are apart. Being reliable and truthful, and holding yourselves accountable to each other, sets a strong foundation for an everlasting partnership and a healthy, happy relationship.

Free To Disagree/Compromise

In a healthy relationship, you will feel safe and comfortable disagreeing with your partner and finding common ground. Unless you are sharing a brain, you are going to have your own thoughts and opinions, and sometimes they will not be the same as your mate's, and that's okay. Or at least it should be okay.

There should not be fear that your partner will be angry or hold it against you that you occasionally disagree with them, or that you voice your opinion.

Separate Hobbies/Individuality

In a healthy relationship, you recognize the importance of having friends and hobbies outside of the relationship, and are comfortable doing things separately at times. If you are with the right one, you will have plenty in common, but there are things you will want and need to do with others.

When you come back together after having time apart, you will have missed each other and have interesting stories to share.

Friendship/Equality

A healthy relationship starts with a great friendship. You should truly like one another and enjoy each other's company. You have great talks, loads of things in common, and shared interests.

You are best friends, although you both still have other good friends. Your partner is the first person you want to share good news with, you vent to them, and cry on their shoulder when you are feeling sad or frustrated.

You Have Fun Together/Mutual Respect

In a healthy relationship you enjoy being together and have fun. You should be able to completely be yourself. You can be silly, and dorky, and cute and corny and there is no fear of judgement. You have lots of laughs, a similar sense of humor, and laugh at the same things.

Biggest Fans/Support

In a healthy relationship, your partner will be your biggest supporter, encourager, and fan. When you love someone you want to see them do well, and only want the best for them. Your partner should want to see you succeed in your career, your education, and the following of your dreams, within reason.

You Give Each Other Space/Healthy Boundaries

No matter how in love you are, everyone needs their alone time at some point. Respecting each other's right to physical and emotional space, including privacy, is important for a healthy relationship. I promise you, they are not going to fall out of love with you just because they spent a few hours reading or at the gym without you. They will actually appreciate and miss you more.

You Can Talk To Them/Open Communication

In a healthy relationship, open communication not only occurs regularly but is encouraged. You and your partner should feel comfortable expressing your thoughts and feelings without fear of being shut down. Active listening and hearing your partner out is also part of healthy communication. No relationship is perfect, and if you can’t talk about it, you can’t fix it.

As I said, it seems simple, but finding the right person to have a healthy relationship with is hard. It takes self-reflection, understanding your wants and needs, and a whole lot of patience. It is very easy to spot a bad relationship, and when things are not working, but what about the healthy relationships that are working?

If you are in a healthy relationship, recognize it for what it is, appreciate it, and continue to keep that relationship strong. If you do not have all the elements of a healthy relationship, you and your partner can actively work on improving it. What are your thoughts on healthy relationships? What signs do you look for in a healthy relationship? Please share your thoughts and experience!

"Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.” 
- Robert A. Heinlein, Stranger In A Strange Land

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How Two Type A Personalities Can Build a Healthy Relationship

It’s no secret that in order to have a healthy, successful relationship, you will need to be able to compromise with your partner. However, it is also no secret that some people are far less willing to compromise than others, relationship or not.

In relationships, one half of the couple tends to be more assertive and takes the lead, so to speak, while the other partner may be more passive or less decisive. But what happens when both partners are assertive decision-makers who like to have their own way?

What is a Type A personality? A Type A personality is a behavior pattern marked by high ambition, intense competitiveness, a constant sense of time urgency, and a strong drive to succeed. Coined in the 1950s by cardiologists, it describes a high-stress, fast-paced approach to life rather than a formal medical diagnosis

Type A personality individuals tend to be outgoing, ambitious, rigidly organized, highly status-conscious, impatient, anxious, proactive, and concerned with time management. Type A personalities are often successful and hard-working.

So the question I pose is, “ can two Type A’s be able to make a relationship work?” Will a relationship of two Type A’s lack the balance all relationships need? Possibly. Or can two Type A’s who are extremely compatible strike the right balance and make things work? I have always believed that compatibility and chemistry are the most important elements for a lasting relationship.

I think two Type A’s can find everlasting love, and here’s how they would do it.

How To Make It Work With Two Type A Personalities

Choose Your Battles

We all like to have things our own way, but not all “wants” are that big of a deal to you, so why battle for it? Meaning, let the little things go, but speak up and stand up for what counts. If you don’t care all that much about where you go for dinner then let your partner pick, but if the new bedroom wall color matters then make your feelings known.

Be Considerate

Think about what your partner likes, wants, and needs. Let it be about them sometimes without it having to be a discussion or a fight. You are both Type A’s so you are known for speaking your mind. For example, you know a wet towel on the floor drives your partner crazy, and even though you don’t think it’s a big deal, you make the effort to pick up your towel.

There will be issues in your relationship that are not a big deal to you, such as a wet towel on the floor, but it costs you nothing to hang up the towel and avoid frustrating your partner.

Be Mature

Relationship maturity is as much about understanding yourself as it is about understanding your partner. As we grow, we learn, hopefully. Take the high road in disagreements, and fight fair because with your aggressive personalities things could get pretty heated with two Type A’s.

Communicate

Good communication is always a must for any healthy relationship, but with two Type A personalities the communication needs to be stepped up a notch because you both may be used to doing more talking than listening.

Respect Them

The Type A personality types are badasses. They are go-getters, who are often fearless. Give each other the kudos you deserve, respect who they are, and do not ask them to be less than they are for you.

Two mature Type A personalities in a relationship make the ultimate power couple. They know how to play off of each other’s strengths, and they understand the importance of knowing when to lead in the relationship, when to take a backseat, and when to allow their partner to shine.

What are your thoughts on two Type A’s making a relationship work? Are you a type A in a relationship with another type A? Is this relationship possible in your opinion? Please share your thoughts and experience!

“We need women who are so strong they can be gentle, so educated they can be humble, so fierce they can be compassionate, so passionate they can be rational, and so disciplined they can be free.” – Kavita Ramdas

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What Is Negging? How To Spot This Form Of Emotional Manipulation

We love new terms in the dating world and negging is a newer term for an old tactic. Some of you may have never heard the term “negging” but you have most likely experienced it. “Negging ("to neg", meaning "negative feedback") is an act of emotional manipulation whereby a person makes a deliberate backhanded compliment or otherwise flirtatious remark to another person to undermine their confidence and attempt to engender in them a need for the manipulator's approval.” - Wikipedia

So now that we know that negging is essentially a manipulation tactic used to knock you down a peg emotionally and psychologically, the question is how to recognize when it is being done to you and how to address it.

Negging can come in the form of words, negative body language, and even physical behavior such as moving away from your touch. They may even laugh at you or ignore you, but the goal is the same and that is to manipulate you with their negative feedback. In this blog, I list five signs to look for when you think negging is happening to you. I hope this helps to keep you away from relationships that do not feed your soul and make you happy.

5 Signs of Negging

Teasing or Making Fun Of You

Teasing can be in good fun and can be seen as flirtatious, but too much of it can start to feel like the other person is just being mean and intentionally hurting your feelings under the guise of “just joking”.

You two go out walking or for a hike and you hear jokes the whole time about how slow you are and need to be in better shape. Never mind the fact that their legs are six inches longer than yours or that they do this all the time.

Subtley Putting You Down

Negative comments about your looks, your cooking, and even your intelligence are all negging tactics and subtle ways to put you down and make you feel bad about yourself. It is also a way to make themselves feel superior to you.

Disregarding Your Feelings

They use negging as a way to disregard your feelings and turn the tables on you. According to them, their mean jokes directed at you are fun and are all in good fun but you are just too sensitive and you have no sense of humor.

Disregarding Your Boundaries

You have told them your preferences many times. Whether you have said you do not like a certain food or to be touched or talked to a certain way they start negging to get around those boundaries. They will call you ungrateful or unappreciative of all of their efforts despite you expressing your likes and wants.

Comparing You To Others

A person who negs will want to take you down a notch and they will do that by trying to destroy your self-worth and self-esteem. They will compare you to other women who they view as smarter or prettier than you. They will say or indirectly imply that you should be thankful that someone like them would even give someone like you the time of day because they usually date women who are much hotter and prettier and skinnier than you are. But of course, if that were true then why is he dating or in a relationship with you?

My recommendation is to call out negging when you see. Tell them you do not like the negative comments. After the first warning regarding their negging behavior, there should be no other warnings. You just need to walk away from that toxic person because they will eventually destroy your self-esteem.

What are your thoughts on negging? Do you have any experience with negging? Please share your thoughts and how you handled negging situations!

“Don’t waste another minute dealing with a toxic, negative, energy-draining person. Some people are wired for negativity. They love being argumentative, combative, and abusive. Run for your life as quickly as possible.” – Les Brown

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5 Signs He’s Deeply In Love With You

When you think you have found the one, you want to know if they feel the same way. It may be hard to tell if the guy you have fallen for is feeling the same way, and while you may crave to hear those three little words, just remember actions always speaks louder than words.

There are always signs early on and throughout relationships that are excellent barometers for determining the health and status of your partnership. Whether those signs are indicating a strong commitment from a loving man or red flags telling you to run the other way. The truth is plain to see if you are paying attention and know what to look for. Here are 5 signs he is deeply in love with you.

5 Signs He Is Deeply In Love With You

He Is Always Team You

A man deeply in love is always team “wife or partner”. He takes the you and me against the world to heart. He is not taking his family’s side over yours and he is definitely not taking his friend’s side over yours. He always thinks about your thoughts and feelings first because he loves you and wants to make and keep you happy. Even if he disagrees with you, that is a private conversation between the two of you and he never entertains outside interference in the relationship.

This man is also your biggest supporter and cheerleader. He wants to see you succeed, even if that means your success outpaces his because he views it as a win for you as a win for you both.

He Won’t Let You Struggle

Marriage and relationships can be tough at times and when you add children to the mix life can become extremely challenging. Whether you are a working mom or a stay-at-home wife or mom, the man who deeply loves you will pull his share and then some when needed. He does not wait to be asked or directed, but instead, he steps in to be a reliable helpmate because he cares about your mental and emotional well-being.

He’s Mentally and Emotionally Present

A man deeply in love does not make a habit of coming home from work and plopping down in front of the television or hopping on video games and not engaging with his partner. Sure, we all need and are entitled to some “me” time, but you will not have to compete with your partner’s phone to get their attention or just to spend time with them. In fact, a man deeply in love cannot wait to spend time with you and to talk and share, or just veg out watching Netflix with you.

He’s Honest With You

A man deeply in love is open and honest with you. He communicates with you about how he is feeling and what he is thinking. He is willing to share his fears, his concerns, and his pet peeves in your relationship in a respectful and constructive manner.

He is also honest about the who, what, when, where, and why. He’s not keeping secrets or being sneaky. If you wanted to see his phone, messages, or emails he would let you because he has nothing to hide and he wants you to know that you can trust him.

He Is Putting In The Work

A man deeply in love wants his relationship to last and for that to happen, he knows it requires work and dedication on both your parts. If that means listening more, putting in more effort, or even going to couples therapy he is willing to do it because to him it is worth it.

There are ebbs and flows in most relationships. Passion may wane but I believe love should still be present if the relationship is to survive. There should be no expectation of perfection but if he consistently has your back, is a great helpmate, is present for you, is honest, and is doing his best to maintain a healthy and loving relationship with you then he may be a keeper.

What are your thoughts on signs a man is deeply in love? Do you agree with my list? What would add or remove? Please share your thoughts and experiences!

"The greatest happiness of life is the conviction that we are loved; loved for ourselves, or rather, loved in spite of ourselves." –Victor Hugo

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5 Signs He’s Emotionally Immature

Emotional maturity usually comes with time, age, and life experiences but that is not always the case. Some people have arrested development and maturity stops prematurely.

Emotional maturity is defined as a tendency to express emotions without restraint or disproportionate to the situation. Someone who is emotionally immature may not take situations seriously or may overreact to what others consider normal circumstances.

Emotionally immature people tend to make everything about them and struggle with rational and critical thinking.

5 Signs He Is An Emotionally Immature Man

Liar Liar

Liar liar pants on pants on fire. Emotionally immature men lie all the time. They cannot help themselves because well…they’re immature. They fail to grasp that while their tendency to lie and over-exaggerate used to work years ago when the women they dated were young and immature as well, most of those women have matured and can see right through them.

The lies literally fool no one. It’s embarrassing.

Cheater

Emotionally immature men tend to be cheaters because often like a child, they are selfish, entitled, and don’t think things through, including what the consequences might be for their actions.

These men also tend to be impetuous and poor communicators, falling in and out of love easily. A mature man can say I don’t love you any more or it’s over, or say I’m not interested so move on. You know, like a mature adult.

No Accountability For Behavior

Elements of their personal and professional life are a mess. They have bad relationships with family and exes, but let them tell it, it was them, not me.

What he doesn’t understand is the common denominator factor. He will complain about family, friends, and exes without failing to see that while people and circumstances changed, he continues to have the same issues. Why is this? Because he’s the problem. He’s emotional immature and lacks self-awareness.

Self-Centered

He thinks everything revolves around him. While not nearly as charming or handsome as he thinks he is to women, his personality and lack of maturity leave something to be desired.

The emotionally immature man makes everyone else’s feelings and situations about him. How will it affect him, he often wonders.

Defensive and Easily Offended

The emotionally immature man is a big baby. He whines, he pouts, and he lashes out if he doesn’t get his way. You didn’t want to do what he wanted, how dare you? Don’t his feelings and desires come first?

Not giving him his way? Prepare for gaslighting. He feels disrespected, or unappreciated that you want what you want and are not catering to him.

A relationship with an emotionally immature man is exhausting and not worth it because if you recognize the signs now, he will never catch up to your level of maturity.

What are your thoughts? Recognize the signs from a past or present relationship? Please share your thoughts and experiences!

Immature people always try to win an argument, even at the cost of a relationship. - Unknown

8 Signs He’s Crazy About You

Being in love is a wonderful feeling but when you are truly loved by that special someone there is something just magical about it. Crazy in love makes you feel, well a little crazy, but in the best way possible. And having that love returned by your crush or the guy you love makes you feel all gooey inside.

Sometimes you can be dating a guy or in a relationship and it feels like he is just going through the motions. Other times you can feel completely and totally loved even though the words may not have been spoken. If you are trying to figure out if he is as crazy about you as you are about him there are signs to look for.

8 Signs He’s Crazy About You

He Can’t Stay Away

When a man is crazy about you he cannot stay away for very long. He wants to see you, every day. He misses you when apart and if he can’t see you face to face he will want to FaceTime with you, talk on the phone, or just text with you. Anything to be near, talk to, or to see the face of the woman he’s crazy about.

Needs To Connect With You

A guy who is crazy about you will want to continually connect with you in some way. Whether it’s a physical connection and in person, or just a phone call or text, he desperately craves interaction with his love. His desire to connect is also about the mental, intellectual, and emotional connections you two have created.

Wants To Touch You

When a guy is crazy about you he will want to touch you a lot, and the touching will not be just about sex. When together he cannot keep himself from just kissing you or holding your hand, or just touching your hair. He wants to physically connect with you and express his feelings through touch. He would also love for these actions to be reciprocated.

He Can’t Stop Talking About You

A guy who is crazy about you will talk about you constantly without him even realizing it is happening. Your name comes out of his mouth constantly. He’s not doing it on purpose but he cannot help himself.

You are always on his mind. Plus he just likes talking about you and saying your name. Others tend to notice how frequently he mentions you.

He’s Willing To Change For You

None of us are perfect and a guy who is crazy about you may recognize he has some work to do if he wants to be with you. There could be some things about him that don’t necessarily mesh well with you and out of care for you, he is willing to change some behaviors or at least compromise to meet you halfway.

He’s Tolerating Your Crazy

When crazy about someone we tend to give them a pass on behaviors that we would find annoying or dealbreakers in others. You are far from perfect. You can be indecisive, moody, and you also snore, but he doesn’t care because he is crazy about you and loves you for you.

He Tells You

A guy who is crazy about you will have a hard time keeping his feelings to himself for long. A man who is serious about a future with you will never make you question where you stand with him. A guy who is crazy about you and in love with you will tell you his feelings because he doesn’t want to risk losing you.

You Just Know It

A man’s body language and actions will tell you everything you need to know about how he truly feels about you. The way he looks at you says it all. His eyes will show the depth of his feelings, as will his behavior. A man who is crazy about you will be consistent in his courtship and treatment of you.

When a man is crazy about you, he will be willing to be vulnerable and all in. He knows that letting you know how much you mean to him may give you the upper hand, but he won’t care because you are not a game to him. He cares about you and being with you, and expressing his feelings for you will start a new chapter in your relationship.

So while you will be able to tell how he feels about you, he won’t keep you waiting on confirmation.

What are your thoughts on the signs of a man crazy about you? Do you agree with the signs? How do you tell if a guy is crazy about you? Please share your advice or experience!

When you find someone, who can make you laugh. Smile. Grow. Lust. Want. Crave. Feel. Make you mad but happy. Keep that. That’s euphoria. - Unknown

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