New relationships feel amazing. New love is intoxicating. If I could bottle and sell the feelings evoked by new love I would be a billionaire. But like many things bottled, if cannot stay in there forever, and can become weaker and faint over time.

If you have been together for a short while, let’s say less than six months and you are ready to move in together and maybe even get married then you may be moving too fast. Here are the signs to look for if you or those close to you think you may need to slow things down.

5 Signs Your Relationship Is Moving Too Fast

They Seem Almost Perfect

So let’s be clear, no one is perfect. If your new love seems perfect then they are either hiding their true character from you, or you are allowing yourself to be blinded by lust and emotions. You are in the romantic, can’t get enough of each other stages.

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Relationships is the early stage feel the best because they are not based in reality and exist almost in a bubble. There’s no real history between the two of you. There is no turmoil, no frustrations. Just excitement and newness. Once the newness wears off, do you think you will truly know the person you are with?

You Don’t Know How They Handle Stress Or Difficult Situations

Life is stressful and the unexpected happens. In the early stages of relationships people will wear masks and put their best foot forward, however we all have a bad side. Some bad sides are worse than others.

Nothing will test a relationship and show you someone’s bad side, or best side for that matter, like dealing with professional stresses, financial issues, or emotional stress, crisis, or loss. If you don’t know how they handle life struggles firsthand, then you don’t know them.

You Don’t Feel Comfortable Discussing Certain Topics With Them

Topics like religion and politics are hot button issues for many people, but especially for people who do not know each other well and are not completely comfortable with each other

Do you know how your partner feels about recreational drug use, organized religion, or abortion? Whether you agree with each other or agree to disagree on the topics, you should know where they stand if you are planning a future together.

You Don’t Know Much About Their Past

They are so great, yet they’re single. Why did they get divorced or why have they never been married? Your partner’s past may give you somewhat valuable information about what you can expect in your future together.

Did they have domestic violence issues with an ex or jealous controlling tendencies? Are they a deadbeat dad or have they declared bankruptcy? If you cannot answer these questions with certainty you do not know your partner.

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You Don’t Know Their Family

To understand someone you need to know where they come from and where they have been. Have you met their parents? What is their relationship like with their parents? Are they close? Is the relationship respectful? It matters for many reasons.

Will your relationship require approval of their family? What does your partner’s family have to say about their exes. Remember, if this person is going to be part of your future then their family will be your family as well. Get to know them.

At the end of the day we all have to decide what’s best for us. Love can make us foolish and you cannot tell a fool anything. I recommend you ask yourself what’s the rush? Is this your MO? Is this their MO?

Are you repeating a bad pattern of fast tracking a relationship only to be disappointed and let down in the end? If you want this relationship to work and be different, then do something different. Slow it down, take your time, and don’t let emotions rule you. You can be a romantic and smart about your heart too.

What are your thoughts on moving too fast in a relationship? Do you tend to take it slow or go head first into any relationship? Do you think there is a specific timeline that is appropriate for moving in or getting married? Please share your thoughts and experience!

“Moving too fast in a relationship is like putting delicate clothes in a hot dryer. Things will heat up fast but permanent damage will be done and it will be hard or possibly impossible to fix.” - Brian Zillnek