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Here's Why Some Women Make Men Nervous
It goes without saying that some women have an out of this world effect on some, if not most men. She walks into the room or just makes eye contact with men and they become nervous. But why do they become nervous? It is about attraction or intimidation?
Strong, confident, and powerful women are forces to be reckoned with, and it takes a special type of man to handle all that she is. Confidence is often said to be sexy., but it is not just about the physical aspect of her effect.
Here’s Why Some Women Make Men Nervous
She’s A Boss
She’s a boss. I mean she may literally be the actual work boss. She is in charge, sure of herself, and has power over the people who work for her.
Or maybe she’s an independent woman handling her business, either way, her mere presence is commanding. A boss woman may make some men feel unneeded, unaccomplished, and unworthy. She brings out their insecurities.
They Are Drawn To Her
Men are drawn to her. Whether or not they find her beautiful or sexy, there is just something about her that makes some men nervous in her presence. Her confidence and independence are sexy.
This woman is sure of herself and knows that she can get what she wants and knows how to go about doing it.
She Unintentionally Emasculates Them
She does not do it on purpose, but she tends to emasculate some men. Some men have fragile egos that constantly need stroking, and some women make it clear that they do not need a man for anything. She does not want his help and does not need his help, but is all fine and dandy, but it can make a man feel useless and less than.
She Is Very Open and Direct
She is very open and direct. When a woman knows herself and knows what she wants she may be very opinionated, very demanding, and very forward in her approach to men. She is not one to sit back and let life happen to her.
She takes charge. She goes after the career she wants and the men she wants.
She Is Unpredictable
She is unpredictable. She will keep you on your toes. She is not like other women. Sometimes she is soft and other times she is hard. She is passionate and then she is disinterested.
She does not care what anyone else thinks. She knows her mind and expresses her thoughts and opinions when it suits her.
Women who make men nervous play by their own rules. They do not let society dictate how they act and how they handle situations and life in general. She can be all things, and most importantly, she is completely comfortable being herself.
What are your thoughts on women who make some men nervous? Are you that woman? Are you a man who has met these women? Does this type attract or repel? Please share your thoughts and experience with being this woman or being attracted to her!
"When I dare to be powerful, to use my strength in the service of my vision, then it becomes less and less important whether I am afraid." - Audre Lorde
Breadcrumbing...4 Signs He Is Stringing You Along
You may or may not have heard the term breadcrumbing. Breadcrumbing is more commonly known as stringing along. Stringing another person along is a cruel and selfish act often found in faux relationships.
Faux relationships are just what you think they are. They are fake. Faux relationship are not real, at least to one of the people in the relationship.
The term breadcrumbing means to offer a little bit of attention and affection here and there to keep someone coming back, without giving them what they really want. In the case of relationships, you may want someone’s love, time, or a commitment, and they offer just enough of themselves to make you think there is hope of a future together.
In order to breadcrumb someone, the breadcrumber may hang out with their target occasionally, and give a booty call here or there, making them hope there is more to the faux relationship. All the while they are keeping them as a backup plan.
If you are unsure if someone is breadcrumbing you, this blog will help you recognize the signs
4 Signs Of Breadcrumbing
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Ghosts You A Lot
When someone is breadcrumbing they tend to drop in and out of your life a lot. They will go long periods of time without seeing you, texting you, and responding to your call or texts.
Won’t Define Relationship
You have no idea if you are lovers, a couple, or just friends. When you ask them how they feel about you, or try to get them to define your relationship, they dodge the question.
Won’t Let You End It
You realize that they never have any intentions of committing to you or formalizing your relationship in any way so you pull away. You cut off contact with them, and start seeing other people and moving on. Just when you are fine with letting them go, here they come wooing you once again.
Caring Then Distant
Once they realize they are losing you, and that your feelings may be changing, they start to give you all the affection and attention you had been craving. They sucker you back in. Once they think they have you back, they suddenly they become distant or disappear again.
Breadcrumbers are selfish, insecure people who will string you along for as long as you allow it. They count on you falling for their manipulations. But remember this, a breadcrumber actually needs you more than you need them. You are a security blanket and a back up plan for them.
They are sad people, but don’t allow them to use you and take advantage of your heart for their own selfish purposes.
What are your thoughts on breadcrumbers? Do you have experience with stringing someone along on being strung along by someone? Please share your thoughts and experience!
5 Signs You're In The Friend Zone and How To Escape It
The friend zone is the place no one ever wants to be. By definition, the friend zone only really applies if one of you wants more than a friendship, but the other person doesn’t see you romantically. The friend zone is heartbreaking, but most of us have been there.
Unfortunately, if you have found yourself in the friend zone and now you want out, you will have some work to do. Once you have been friend zoned it is hard to escape.
The first thing you need to do is recognize and accept that you are in the friend zone. The next step will be planning your escape.
5 Signs You’re In The Friend Zone
They Ask For Relationship Advice
If your friend complains to you about their relationships and sex life, and seeks your advice you are in the friend zone. When someone wants to be more than friends they will want you to know that they are available, so talking about other love interests is not usually something they will do.
They Talk About People They Are Dating Or Interested In
When someone is romantically interested in you they do not express interest in others. So if your friend discusses people they are dating, or openly comment on guys and girls they find attractive, then they only see you as a friend.
They Don’t Care How They Look Around You
When we are interested or trying to attract someone we take care in our appearance around them. If your friend is willing to let you see them without their hair done, no make up on, or in their lazy day clothes they are not trying to attract you.
They Ask For Help
We usually feel comfortable asking our buddies and friends for help and favors. The damsel in distress kind of helps with trying to draw someone in, but if they are always asking you for rides, to watch their dog, or to help them move, they likely view you as a friend, and not a romantic interest.
They Encourage You To Date or Try To Fix You Up
We want the best for our friends and want them to be happy. However, if someone is romantically interested in you, they will not want to see you with anyone but them. So if your friend is setting you up with people or encouraging you to date, then they do not see you as a potential mate.
How To Escape The Friend Zone
Escaping the friend is hard but not impossible. Here’s the thing though. In order to escape the friend zone you have to be willing to give up any potential romantic relationship with the one you are crushing on. It may come down to you admitting your feelings and getting rejected.
You Will Need To Be Less Available
One of the ways to escape the friend zone is to become less available. I’m not saying nice guys finish last, but old Mr. Reliable can easily get friend zoned. Show them you have a life outside of your friendship and make them miss you and desire your presence more.
Make Your Feelings Known
If you truly want out of the friend zone you will need to be brave and put your feelings out there. Either your feelings will be reciprocated or they won’t but either way, you can be free of the friend zone.
Start Dating
I know it seems counterintuitive to start dating when you are interested in some one. But if you want out of the friend zone you will need to show your love interest that you are able and willing to move on if they only want to be friends. Plus, somehow the fact that someone else wants you makes you more desirable.
So let’s be honest, the best thing to do is to not let yourself end up in the friend zone. If you thought your way In with the guy or girl you like was friendship, you were likely wrong.
Now don’t get me wrong, friendship is the most important foundation for a great relationship. But if you are already interested in them romantically but playing the buddy role, your plan will likely backfire. If they are not feeling you, or do not realize you like them in that way you will get pigeon holed in the friend zone.
What are your thoughts on the friend zone and escaping? How would you get out of the friend zone? Please share your thoughts and experience!
“The reality of life is this: some people will never really love you back no matter what you do.” - Unknown
5 Signs He Likes You Based On His Texts
We communicate in so many different ways now. Communication is no longer just about face to face chats or phone calls. Social media and texting has taken the place of our typical way of communicating.
Unlike in-person interactions, where we are able to read facial expressions and body language, texting removes this layer of contact.
I believe that a huge sign that someone is really into you, is that there is a big difference between the person you text with, and the person you talk to in person. I think you will often find that the more contradicting the behaviors are, the greater their feelings are for you.
If you can joke and flirt through text, and completely be your most authentic self, but when you are face to face, your interactions are almost opposite, that means some serious feelings are there. He is afraid to show you how he really feels, but he had been telling by text. You just need to know the signs.
Signs He Likes You Based On Text
He Initiate Contacts
Guys do not like to text much or spend a lot of time on phones in general. When a guy initiates contact with you out of the blue it is because you are on his mind, and he craves interaction with you.
So, if a guy is making an effort to reach out to you via text, it probably means he likes you.
He Responds Fast
We all have that friend that takes foorrrever to respond to a text, but when a guy is interested in you and you text him, he will respond right away. He responds quickly because he is excited to hear from you.
Studies have found that when we get a text message from someone we like or have feelings for, we will respond right away and type faster than usual.
He Keeps The Conversation Going
If a guy likes you, he will want to talk, text, and interact with you as much as possible for as long as possible. While texting with him you may feel that the conversation is winding down, but he keeps it going by introducing new topics. He doesn’t want it to end.
He Asks Questions About You
He wants to know everything about you. He asks about your family, your childhood, and wants to know all your likes and dislikes. He is trying to find some commonality between the two of you, and shared interests. The more he knows about you, the easier it will be for him to win you over.
He Gets Flirty
He is very flirty through text. His flirting may consist of sexual innuendos, which makes his intentions a bit more obvious. But his flirting can also be sweet, or cute with funny and silly emojis. Men are not big on emojis.
If a guy is sending emojis with hearts or kissey faces, he is trying to be cute and he wants you to know he’s interested.
Text messaging is one of the typical ways we communicate today. If you are unsure if the guy you are texting with is interested, these signs should help you recognize his feelings. What are your thoughts? Do you agree with the signs? Please share your thoughts and experience!
“In the bottom of my heart lies a secret which I have never told a soul in the world. There is an image of this person who is dearest to me and closer than anything else.” - Melanie Rock