6 Signs He's Not The One...So Stop Wasting Your Time
You really want this relationship to work. You don’t want to be single again because you think it is hard out there, and you are not going back to that. So you have laser focus on making things work out with the guy you are currently dating or in a relationship with. There is just one problem. He is not the one and you know it deep down.
I am a determined woman too, so I get believing in yourself. You should believe in yourself and that you can accomplish just about anything if you put your mind to it. But I think making a relationship work with the wrong person may be too much even for you.
At some point in a relationship you realize it’s not working, but are not quite sure why that is. The reasons are obvious, usually in hindsight. You will save yourself some time and a lot of heartache by recognizing early on that he is not the one.
6 Signs He’s Not The One
You Are Hoping He Will Change
He is immature, unfocused, or flat out kind of jerky but there is hope right? Well at least you are hopeful that with time and your influence he will get better. You should be looking for a partner, not a project. He is who he is, and if you cannot accept him for who he is and want him to change, then he is not the one for you.
You Don’t Like A Lot Of Things About Him
You don’t like his friends, his family, his hobbies, his taste in music, and the list could serious go on and on. This is still about making him a project. Do not lower your standards or pretend to be someone you are not for the sake of not being alone.
Being with someone you do not love or even like, will make you feel lonelier than you have ever felt before.
You Don’t Have A Lot In Common
You do not like the same things, but hey who does right? He’s cute, all your friends are married, and you’re not getting any younger so let’s make this happen. Sound familiar?
You do not have to be mirror images of each or have the exact same tastes, but common interests and hobbies are very important to long term happiness.
You Cannot Be Yourself With Him
You have to pretend with him, and tolerate behavior you secretly disapprove of. You bite you tongue to avoid rocking the boat. He likes to see you all dolled up, but you prefer little to no make up and jeans and comfy clothes.
If you cannot truly be yourself with your partner then you are with the wrong person and will not be happy in the long run. By pretending, you are not being true to yourself or the relationship.
You Make Excuses For Him
Your friends and family recognize that he is not right you and they are not fans. You constantly find yourself justifying and defending his behavior and attitude.
The problem is that you feel the same way your family and friends do deep down. Otherwise you would tell them to respect your man and your relationship and to stay out of your relationship. But you don’t because you agree with them to some degree.
It Feels Hard
The early stages of a relationship should feel effortless, without the need for masks and pretenses. As the relationship progresses, more work and compromise will be needed to maintain but it shouldn’t feel hard. The relationship should not feel like a struggle to just maintain it.
The truth is that not every relationship is worth fighting for. If you are not feeling fulfilled and happy by your relationship it may be time to stop wasting your time. It may be time to move on no matter how much time you have invested in the relationship. Know when to cut your loses and get back in the market.
Do you agree with the signs that he’s not the one? What are your thoughts on when it’s time to let go? Please share your thoughts and experience!
“...unrequited love does not die; it's only beaten down to a secret place where it hides, curled and wounded. For some unfortunates, it turns bitter and mean, and those who come after pay the price for the hurt done by the one who came before.” ― Elle Newmark, The Book of Unholy Mischief