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Should You Get Back With Your Ex? 5 Reasons To Go For It and 5 Reasons To Let It Go

Time and distance apart from someone can offer clarity. Unfortunately, time can also distort our memories and amplify reality. The farther we get from situations, the worse they may seem, and the more we minimize the significance of certain events.

It can be tricky when deciding if you should give a previous relationship another go, and get back with an ex. There is nothing wrong with considering another go with a former love.

Maybe the timing wasn’t right for either of you at the time, but things have changed and you have changed.

In making your decision on whether or not to try again with an ex, you have some things to consider.

5 Reasons You Should Get Back With Your Ex

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The Reason You Broke Up Is No Longer An issue

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Whether you broke up because of distance or just being too busy with creating a career or life for yourself, your life is now different. You are now living in the same city, and your education and career are where you want them to be.

You Have Changed

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You have realized that you are a different person, and don’t want the same things you used to. You broke up because he wanted to get married and settle down, and you didn’t want that life. You didn’t think you would ever want that life, but you have grown and changed and want to settle down now, preferably with him.

You Realized You Made A Mistake

You had unreasonable expectation for relationships and thought you could find better. You realized he was a wonderful man, and you blew it with your immaturity. No one is perfect and there is no such as Prince Charming. Recognizing he is a good man who truly loved you is a strong reason to consider getting back with an ex.

You Still Love Him

It’s not only that you still love him, but you are comparing every new guy to him. You cannot get over him, and miss him terribly. If your break up was amicable and in your heart and mind it never felt truly over, then you have a good reason to give it another try.

He Was The One

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Being with him felt a little too perfect, and it scared you. Now that you have had time apart from your ex, and perhaps dated a few others, you come to a realization that he may have been the one. You two had something special, and the chemistry and passion you experienced with him cannot be replicated.

5 Reasons Not To Get back With Your Ex

You Don’t Think You Can Do Better

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Low self-esteem can wreak havoc on our lives, and often makes people settle for relationships that are less than what they deserve because they do not think they can do any better. If your ex was lazy, rude, or abusive, trust me, you can do better.

You Are Lonely

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We all feel lonely from time to time, whether we are in a relationship or not. However, loneliness is not a reason to be in a relationship where you don’t feel valued, respected, or happy. Don’t let fear and moments of weakness be a determining factor in getting back with someone.

Pregnancy Or Children Together

Being with someone just because you have a child together is a bad idea. If you love them and want to be with them then that is one thing, but forcing a relationship because you are pregnant is not a reason to push a relationship that did not work. Learn how to co-parent together, and leave the romance out of it.

You Hate Being Single

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You have never been good at dating and meeting new people. In fact, you hate it. On days when you feel lonely, it may seem easier to just go back to what was familiar and comfortable. On those days remind yourself of all the reasons why it ended with your ex.

You Feel Pressured To Get Back With Them

Whether it’s your ex, or family and friends interfering, you should not let others opinions pressure you into being in a relationship you don’t want. No one knows what goes on behind closed doors, and what really happens between to people in a relationship when no one else is around.

You know why you do not want to be with your ex, and really shouldn’t have to explain your reasons to anyone.

You now have five reasons for and against getting back with your ex. Weigh the pros and cons and make the decision that makes the most sense to you and leads you down a path of happiness.

What are you thoughts on getting back with ex? Do you think once a relationship has ended that it can be rekindled and better the second time around? Please share your thoughts and experience!

“Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something: they're trying to find someone who's going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take.” -Anthony Robbins

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6 Signs He's A Player

Players…no matter your age group there are players out there on the hunt. Some men are not interested in having a committed relationship. It may be just who he is or he has been hurt or betrayed in the past and is in self preservation mode.

Regardless of his reasons for being a player, it is not okay for him to string a woman along and not be honest about his intentions.

A player likes to have women at his beck and call. He wants them when it’s convenient for him. No one wants to be led on or toyed with. If you do not want to get played, you need to know the signs of a player.

6 Signs He’s A player

Smooth Talker

Players are very charming when you first meet them. They always know just what to say to pull you in. Players are flirty wordsmiths, who know how to make you feel good about yourself in the beginning and crave their attention.

Very Confident

Confidence is sexy, but players are confident to the point of arrogance. Players are very sure of themselves, sure of their words, and sure that they can get can just about any girl they set their sights on.

He will brag and let you know how wonderful he is, and let you know how lucky you are to be with him.

No Meeting His Friends

A player will not introduce just any chick to his friends, or family, for that matter. Since a player is just using you for sex and something to do, he will not want you meeting important people in his life.

If you do meet his friends, they will often act strange around you. His friends will act as if there is a big secret or joke that you are not in on.

Non-Committal

You need a date to one of your friends from college wedding. He is the only guy you have been seeing but he tells you he probably won’t be able to make it. In fact, anytime you ask him to accompany you to something he is always busy or has some excuse.

He’s Secretive

A player likes to string multiple women along at any given time. When you are with him he may receive lots of text and do a lot of texting. He is very careful with his phone, ensuring you do not see who he is texting with.

He also has very strict rules about you going to his place. He will rarely have you over, but when he does you are on the clock and are not allowed to leave anything behind.

Prioritizes Sex

A player loves a booty call so watch out. He does not often, if ever, take you out for a meal or a date. He will go days or weeks without any contact, but then you will get an out of the blue text, usually late at night saying he wants to “meet” up.

There is nothing wrong with having a casual relationship with no commitment, as long as both parties are aware that the relationship is casual and is not going anywhere. That’s the problem with players. They want everything from you while giving you so little in return.

What is your experience with players? Do you think players ever change? Please share your thoughts and experience!

Dear Players: Go ahead and play your deceitful little games- lying and manipulating women to get laid-because that’s the only way you can get them interested. Maybe you will have a different perspective when you’re wiping the tears off your daughter’s face…because she dated a man like you. - Charles J. Orlando

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6 Ways To Let Him Know You Want A Physical Relationship

Not everyone wants or needs to be in a relationship to feel happy or complete in their life. Relationships are nice if you are with the right person, but also overrated if you are thinking that the relationship alone will fulfill you and give you a lifetime of joy.

More and more women are focusing on their education and careers, and putting marriage and family on the back burner. Many women are also choosing not to have children at all, and to have partners rather than spouses.

Relationship or not, a woman will still crave sexual intimacy. But the question is how to go about finding the right guy for the no strings attached relationship? And once you find him, how do you let him know that’s what you want?

As far as how to pick the guy, I say it’s all about personal preference. It will need to be someone with whom you have a strong physical attraction with and good sexual chemistry.

Whether you are bold or timid when it comes to seeking a lover, doing the six things I lay out in this blog should let him know what you are seeking. Either he will be interested and will reciprocate with similar signals or he will make it clear he’s not feeling it.

If he seems uninterested keep it moving because there are plenty of men who would gladly take his place.

6 Ways To Let Him Know You Want A Physical Relationship

Flirt

Flirt your little heart out. Flirt with your words and flirt with your body. Your flirting can be playful and subtle, or direct and obvious. How you flirt will need to depend on the personality of the person you are flirting with and where you are at when you are doing the flirting.

How you flirt in a bar will be completely different than how you flirt at work or at a PTA meeting.

Touch Him

Touch him occasionally, but don’t get inappropriate or creep him out. He may have the nicest chest or butt you’ve seen it a long time, and you just want grab him so bad, but you will need to resist.

Your touches should be subtle. Light touches to his shoulder, his forearm, or his hand. His body will respond and not pull away if he likes your hand on him.

Get Physically Close

We all have what we consider our personal space surrounding us. And it tends to bother us when people break this invisible barrier, unless of course it is someone we like or want to be physical with.

Test the waters and get close to him. If he is attracted to you he will be more than aware of your physical closeness, but will not move away. If he creates a physical distance he may not be interested.

Sex It Up

When I say sex it up, I mean look your best to attract him, but don’t try to be something that you’re not and overdo it. Dress and act as sexy as you feel comfortable with. You do not want to make yourself uncomfortable or feel insecure. Confidence is sexy, and he will be drawn to that.

Eye Contact

Strong eye contact is sexy, and says so much more than words at times. When eye contact is made between you and the one who is meant to be your lover or more, you will know it. You will feel it everywhere.

Tell Him

“Do you wanna bang” would not be my choice of words, but hey this is your sex life. If you are going for straight up directness, and feel like your invitation will be well received then go for it. Tell him what you want in your own words.

It’s a personal choice, and every woman has her reasons for opting for lovers over boyfriends and husband. Maybe she has been burned in the past with a bad divorce or horrible breakup, or she just knows herself and accept that she’s not the relationship type. Either way, no one is owed an explanation.

“It was the wildness of it that got me going: the primal lust, the sheer needs of two people in heat, quickly finding ways to express their sacred hunger to each other in animal passion.” ― Fiona Thrust, Naked and Sexual

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6 Signs He’s Trying To Attract You

When a guy is interested in you and trying to attract you, he will behave a certain way to get your attention. It really is cute and quite sweet when you think about it. He may go about trying to attract you in a subtle way, or be blatant to test the waters to see if you are interested too.

Men and women use different tactics when trying to attract someone they are interested in. While women may seem obvious because they flip their hair, or laughs at a guy’s silly jokes to attract the guy they’re interested in, men are just as obvious if you know what signs to look for.

6 Signs He’s Trying to Attract You

He Dresses To Impress

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If he knows that he is going to be seeing you he will go out of his ways to look his best for you. If he knows your favorite style or favorite color he will tailor his look to attract you.

He Talks Louder

He may not be talking to you, but he wants you to hear everything he is saying. He will try to sound as cool, smart, or as funny as possible. He wants you to be aware of his presence and he wants your attention.

His Body Language

A guy who is trying to attract you will have very open, positive body language towards you. His feet will be pointed towards you and he may also mirror your behavior and subconsciously groom himself.

Funny Man

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When a guy is trying to attract you he will try to be funny and charming. He wants you to like him, and he recognizes that laughter is the way to make you feel relaxed around him and for him to endear himself to you.

Shares Your Interests

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If a guy is interested in you he will do his homework. He will find out everything he can about you, especially your likes, your dislikes, and your hobbies.

Your interests and hobbies are his way in. If he knows you’re into cycling he will learn all he can about cycling or even take it up himself, so he can talk about it with you and create commonality and bond.

Eye Contact

When a guy is trying to attract you he will first off start by making a lot of eye contact. He will look deep into your eyes and try to make a deep connection. As he gazes at you he will try to hold your gaze to make sure you know that he is interested.

You should now know the signs when a guy is trying to attract you. If you are interested in him as well, tell him so or at least let your body language do the talking. Hopefully he will find the courage to make a move.

Can you tell when a guy is trying to attract you? What are your thoughts on the signs that he is trying to win you over? Please share your thoughts and experience!

“You see in all my life I’ve never found what I couldn’t resist, what I couldn’t turn down. I could walk away from anyone I ever knew, but I can’t walk away from you.” - Billy Joel, Shameless (Performed by Garth Brooks)

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6 Signs He's Not The One...So Stop Wasting Your Time

You really want this relationship to work. You don’t want to be single again because you think it is hard out there, and you are not going back to that. So you have laser focus on making things work out with the guy you are currently dating or in a relationship with. There is just one problem. He is not the one and you know it deep down.

I am a determined woman too, so I get believing in yourself. You should believe in yourself and that you can accomplish just about anything if you put your mind to it. But I think making a relationship work with the wrong person may be too much even for you.

At some point in a relationship you realize it’s not working, but are not quite sure why that is. The reasons are obvious, usually in hindsight. You will save yourself some time and a lot of heartache by recognizing early on that he is not the one.

6 Signs He’s Not The One

You Are Hoping He Will Change

He is immature, unfocused, or flat out kind of jerky but there is hope right? Well at least you are hopeful that with time and your influence he will get better. You should be looking for a partner, not a project.

He is who he is, and if you cannot accept him for who he is and want him to change, then he is not the one for you.

You Don’t Like A Lot Of Things About Him

You don’t like his friends, his family, his hobbies, his taste in music, and the list could serious go on and on. This is still about making him a project. Do not lower your standards or pretend to be someone you are not for the sake of not being alone.

Being with someone you do not love or even like, will make you feel lonelier than you have ever felt before.

You Don’t Have A Lot In Common

You do not like the same things, but hey who does right? He’s cute, all your friends are married, and you’re not getting any younger so let’s make this happen. Sound familiar?

You do not have to be mirror images of each or have the exact same tastes, but common interests and hobbies are very important to long term happiness.

You Cannot Be Yourself With Him

You have to pretend with him, and tolerate behavior you secretly disapprove of. You bite you tongue to avoid rocking the boat. He likes to see you all dolled up, but you prefer little to no make up and jeans and comfy clothes.

If you cannot truly be yourself with your partner then you are with the wrong person and will not be happy in the long run. By pretending, you are not being true to yourself or the relationship.

You Make Excuses For Him

Your friends and family recognize that he is not right you and they are not fans. You constantly find yourself justifying and defending his behavior and attitude.

The problem is that you feel the same way your family and friends do deep down. Otherwise you would tell them to respect your man and your relationship and to stay out of your relationship. But you don’t because you agree with them to some degree.

It Feels Hard

The early stages of a relationship should feel effortless, without the need for masks and pretenses. As the relationship progresses, more work and compromise will be needed to maintain but it shouldn’t feel hard. The relationship should not feel like a struggle to just maintain it.

The truth is that not every relationship is worth fighting for. If you are not feeling fulfilled and happy by your relationship it may be time to stop wasting your time. It may be time to move on no matter how much time you have invested in the relationship. Know when to cut your loses and get back in the market.

Do you agree with the signs that he’s not the one? What are your thoughts on when it’s time to let go? Please share your thoughts and experience!

“...unrequited love does not die; it's only beaten down to a secret place where it hides, curled and wounded. For some unfortunates, it turns bitter and mean, and those who come after pay the price for the hurt done by the one who came before.” ― Elle Newmark, The Book of Unholy Mischief

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5 Reasons Why You're Bad At Love

Some people are just bad at love. You love the idea of love, but cannot seem to ever get it right. Is that just who you are? Maybe. Are you destined to be alone or just float from relationship to relationship? Possibly. But it is also possible that you get wrong because you are not ready or make a series of bad choices.

Being bad at love doesn’t have to be a permanent situation. We all grow and change with time. If you want to find lasting love and have healthy relationships, you will need to identify why your other relationships didn’t work. You are bad at love for a reason.

5 Reasons Why You’re Bad At Love

Immature

You are not emotionally mature enough to have a healthy relationship. It takes maturity to respect differences of opinion, and to respect boundaries in a relationship. Relationships can be challenging at times, and being able to communicate calmly, openly, and respectfully is a must.

Had Bad Examples Growing Up

Whether you grew up in a broken home, or with two parents who didn’t love or respect one another, you did not have good examples of healthy relationships. If growing up you didn’t see healthy, loving relationships in your home or in your life, it can be challenging, though not impossible, to know what it takes to have good relationships.

Choose The Wrong People

You choose the wrong people. You choose partners based on looks, status, for how great they are on paper, and for how good you two look together. Instead, you should be choosing partners by your commonality, chemistry, and shared life goals, values, and interests.

You’re Selfish

Relationships are about sharing and compromise. Your priority is you, and you have trouble ever putting someone else first. To be a selfish or a giving person is a conscious choice. Of all the signs, this is the easiest to control and to change.

Your Genetic Makeup

This may surprise you but some people are genetically programmed to be bad at love. Scientists have found that your genes determine how well your body regulates oxytocin, which controls our behaviors, our ability to love, and how attached we become to others.

Your genes also determine your ability to be an emotionally supportive partner, which is a must for a long lasting relationship.

Your past doesn’t dictate your future. Just because you have a history of being bad at love does not mean it will always be that way. Know the signs, take your time, and choose your mate wisely. If you want it, you can have an amazing relationship.

What are your thoughts? Do you agree with the 5 signs? Are you bad at love? Please share your thoughts and experience!

“I loved myself and since I loved me, I loved him because I realized he was good for me. A type of self worth, a type of narcissistic love.” ― Dominic Riccitello

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5 Signs He Likes You Based On His Texts

We communicate in so many different ways now. Communication is no longer just about face to face chats or phone calls. Social media and texting has taken the place of our typical way of communicating.

Unlike in-person interactions, where we are able to read facial expressions and body language, texting removes this layer of contact.

I believe that a huge sign that someone is really into you, is that there is a big difference between the person you text with, and the person you talk to in person. I think you will often find that the more contradicting the behaviors are, the greater their feelings are for you.

If you can joke and flirt through text, and completely be your most authentic self, but when you are face to face, your interactions are almost opposite, that means some serious feelings are there. He is afraid to show you how he really feels, but he had been telling by text. You just need to know the signs.

Signs He Likes You Based On Text

He Initiate Contacts

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Guys do not like to text much or spend a lot of time on phones in general. When a guy initiates contact with you out of the blue it is because you are on his mind, and he craves interaction with you.

So, if a guy is making an effort to reach out to you via text, it probably means he likes you.

He Responds Fast

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We all have that friend that takes foorrrever to respond to a text, but when a guy is interested in you and you text him, he will respond right away. He responds quickly because he is excited to hear from you.

Studies have found that when we get a text message from someone we like or have feelings for, we will respond right away and type faster than usual.

He Keeps The Conversation Going

If a guy likes you, he will want to talk, text, and interact with you as much as possible for as long as possible. While texting with him you may feel that the conversation is winding down, but he keeps it going by introducing new topics. He doesn’t want it to end.

He Asks Questions About You

He wants to know everything about you. He asks about your family, your childhood, and wants to know all your likes and dislikes. He is trying to find some commonality between the two of you, and shared interests. The more he knows about you, the easier it will be for him to win you over.

He Gets Flirty

He is very flirty through text. His flirting may consist of sexual innuendos, which makes his intentions a bit more obvious. But his flirting can also be sweet, or cute with funny and silly emojis. Men are not big on emojis.

If a guy is sending emojis with hearts or kissey faces, he is trying to be cute and he wants you to know he’s interested.

Text messaging is one of the typical ways we communicate today. If you are unsure if the guy you are texting with is interested, these signs should help you recognize his feelings. What are your thoughts? Do you agree with the signs? Please share your thoughts and experience!

“In the bottom of my heart lies a secret which I have never told a soul in the world. There is an image of this person who is dearest to me and closer than anything else.” - Melanie Rock

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5 Signs Your Relationship Will Last

Some relationships are not meant to last, but the ones that do tend to have some common elements. Love is a beautiful thing, but relationships are hard work.

Relationships will have ups and downs, which is normal, but it’s how you handle those challenges, and how you feel about each other that determines your relationship longevity.

No one can truly predict which relationships will stand the test of time, although there are usually some obvious red flags when it comes to those that won’t. But what about identifying relationships that will make it?

Today, the average marriage lasts about 8 years, and that’s including the waiting period for the divorce. So how do you know if your relationship will beat those odds?

5 Signs Your Relationship Will Last

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You Are Friends

You actually like your partner as a person and consider them a friend. They are your person. You enjoy spending time with them, talking to them, and it’s just a lot of fun to be together.

You often confide in your partner, and seek their advice, and use them as a sounding board for your thought and ideas.

You Admire Each Other

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You have a lot of respect and admiration for your partner. Sometimes you are in awe at the amazing person that they are, and you feel so lucky that they chose you as their mate. Your partner inspires you to do more, and be more.

You View Each Other Positively

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In your heart and in your mind you view your partner in a positive light. You know they are not perfect, but you don’t secretly think they’re dumb, or lazy, or dishonest. You beam with pride when speaking about them to others, and could truly go on and on about all of their wonderful attributes.

You Consider Yourselves A Team

When either of you speaks, it is always “us” and “we” because you are a united front. You are a team, ready to take on any challenge together. It is never a “me” against you attitude, or about always being right.

You Would Choose Them Again

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A huge sign that your relationship will last is, if knowing what you know now, you would still choose them again. They say hindsight is 20/20. So if you can honestly say it has all been worth it, and they are worth it, and you would do it all over again, then you have a relationship that is likely to stand the test of time.

I believe that finding the right person isn’t about luck. Being in a lasting relationship is about choosing the right person for you from the beginning, and choosing them over and over again.

If you are fortunate enough to be in a relationship with someone whom you truly believe to be your friend, whom you admire, and who you view in a positive light on a regular basis, you have chosen wisely. If you cannot say that this list applies to your partner or relationship, I think perhaps you should keep your options open.

What are your thoughts on the signs that your relationship will last? Do you agree with the signs? Please share your thoughts and experience!

“As much as I enjoy romance, it’s commitment that I need the most. I need to know a love I can depend on, a love that says, “I will be with you through it all. I love you. And I will love you even when you may not be all that lovable, for sometimes I'm not very lovable either. You can count on me - always.” ― Steve Goodier

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5 Signs You Are Looking For Love In All The Wrong Places

We all know these people, perhaps maybe you are one of them. Amazing people, who make bad relationship choice, after bad relationship choice. The friends and family members, who are either head over heels in love, or miserable and depressed because they had another relationship failure, and cannot bear the thought of being alone.

If you want love, and a long lasting relationship, but cannot seem to ever make it happen, you may be looking for long in the wrong places.

5 Signs You’re Looking For love In All The Wrong Places

Always Getting Ghosted

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You thought things were going great, and that you were really going somewhere with this new relationship, until he stopped taking your calls, or returning your text.

Lots Of One Night Stands

You seem to never lack male companionship, and by male companionship, I mean you have lots of sleepovers. Which is fine if that’s all you’re interested in. But one night stands or random hookups are not likely to lead to long-lasting relationships.

Lots Of Failed Relationships

You have had a lot of relationships, but they never seem to work out. You enter the relationship with high hopes, always believing this is the one. But something always seems off, things go wrong, and you are usually left feeling disappointed.

Lots Of Drama In Relationships

When a relationship there seems to be non stop drama. The drama may be due to you picking the wrong one, trying to force what isn’t meant to be, or just sabotaging the relationship. Either way, the relationships always seems to be emotional rollercoasters.

Feel incomplete When Single

You hate being single. Instead of using your singledom to have fun with friends, recharge, and figure out what you really want from a partner and in a relationship, you spend the whole time desperately trying to find another partner and relationship.

As the saying goes, “if you are unhappy single, you will be unhappy in a relationship…eventually”. Happiness comes from within, and a partner or relationship should add to it, not be the sole reason for it.

What are your thoughts on looking for love? Do agree with my signs? Please share your thoughts and experience!

“If you’re searching for that one person that will change your life, take a look in the mirror.” - Unknown

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What Men Want In A Relationship...According To Men

We all have wants and needs for an ideal relationship. Women tend to have strong opinions about what they want in a relationship, and often set relationship goals. Men are no different. Communication is often a biggie for women in relationships, but men have a slightly different list.

In the beginning, a relationship may be based on attraction, but that will not be enough to sustain a relationship in the long run. There are elements needed in a relationship for both individuals to feel emotionally and mentally satisfied and fulfilled.

In my opinion, men are pretty simple and straight forward creatures. This blog is specifically discussing things men want in a relationship. Here are the top six things men want in a relationship, based on discussions with the guys in my life.

6 Things He Wants In A Relationship

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Respect

Respect is a must for any healthy relationship. Men want to be treated with respect in a relationship. Although what one considers respectful or disrespectful may vary, it goes without saying that yelling, cursing, and talking to your man any way you choose is not respectful.

Affection

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Men want and crave affection just like women do. You can show him affection by rubbing his back, or with a soft kiss on the lips. But affection can also be shown with sweet, loving words. Tell him how much you miss him. Let him know that you appreciate him. Let him know how much he means to you.

Good Sex

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I think it goes without saying that a man wants good sex in a relationship. Not sure what he likes? Make the effort, and find out how to please him. I’m just guessing, but I think there are some universal ways to please a man, but your man may have a particular preference in the bedroom, or kitchen counter, or wherever the mood strikes.

Space

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We all need alone time, and time outside of our relationship. Your man needs his space to do his hobbies, hang with buddies, or just to be alone with his thoughts. The good thing about him needing space is that you get have your time as well.

Good Conversation

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Physical attraction, and great sex are important for a relationship, but good conversation is just as important in the long run. If you can have good conversations, that likely means you are compatible, and share things in common. Your man wanting to talk to you is a good thing.

Support

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He wants to feel supported by you. Your man wants to feel like you have his back, and that you are always team “him”. It’s you and him against the world so to speak. Your words of encouragement, and belief in him mean a lot, because you mean a lot to him.

I think that men and women often want the same things in relationships, but the orders of priority are different. Men want communication in a relationship as well, but that is not necessarily high on their list of needs in a relationship.

What are your thoughts on what men want in a relationship? Do you agree with my list? What would you add or remove from list? Please share experience or opinion!

"What women want: To be loved, to be listened to, to be desired, to be respected, to be needed, to be trusted, and sometimes, just to be held. What men want: Tickets to the World Series." — Dave Berry

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