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Is Meeting The Right One Coincidence Or Fate?
Are you a believer in fate? Do you think that some things are just meant to happen no matter what we do? Or do you believe that life is a series of chances and choices and that anything can happen?
When it comes to love, I like the idea of both fate and coincidence bringing two people together who should be together. Love is wonderful, and finding the right one by coincidence is awesome, but finding the one via fate is amazing.
Both fate and coincidence are beyond our control. They just happen. Fate is what’s meant to be, no matter what you do, and coincidence is a matter of right place, right time. Is the love of your life fate or coincidence?
Fate
What is fate? Fate, also known as destiny, is the development of events beyond a person’s control, regarded as determined by a supernatural power. A relationship that is fated to happen is meant to be.
Now, just because a relationship with a certain person is meant to be doesn’t mean that the relationship is guaranteed to give you a happily ever after.
The relationship or relationships that are your destiny may be such because there is an experience you need to have or a lesson you need to learn, which could be good or bad.
Signs Your Relationship Is Fate
You Keep Crossing Each Others Path
You Share Similar Experiences, Both Past and Present
Feels Like Kindred Spirit
Invisible Forces Pulling You To Each Other
Coincidence
What is a coincidence? A coincidence is a remarkable concurrence of events or circumstances without apparent causal connection.
When I refer to a relationship as being coincidence I just mean that it is not about some cosmic force bringing two lovers together, but about two people who find each other attractive in a chance meeting by being at the right place at the right time.
Signs Your Relationship Is Coincidence
Grew Up In or Live-In Same City or Town
Mutual Friends or Coworkers
Dating App or Matchmaker
I know that fate and coincidence sound similar, but know that fate has been at work when you find out that you both went to the same college years before, or lived in the same city somewhere else and never met. Or were at the same party but never crossed paths. It was fate at work but the timing was off.
Personally, I can look back on relationships and easily identify the coincidence relationships versus fate relationships. I was once at a crossroads and had a decision to make about where I would move for my career. One path seemed very simple, more familiar, and almost easy. The other path was the unknown, it was scary, and it would be harder.
I sought the counsel of an older friend and mentor and she said to take the path of the unknown. She said that is where your destiny is, and you already know where the other path leads. I know it sounds kooky, but I followed her advice and she was absolutely right. That decision led me to where I am today. It let me to where I was always meant to be.
What are your thoughts on fate versus coincidence? Do you believe you are fated to be with one particular person? Do you think coincidental relationships are equally as important and special? Please share your thoughts and experience!
“Fate is the promise that life is not a random string of tragedy and comedy without meaning. Fate proclaims that our lives are in fact so meaningful, so necessary, that our stories are written by the gods and goddesses, by the heavens themselves. We may only glimpse our fate, hinted by the stars or the creases of our hands; but even this glimpse is evidence of our contract with the universe, that we are players in the great wheel of life and death and rebirth.” - Sy Montgomery, Spell of the Tiger
7 Signs He Truly Loves You
Being in love is such a wonderful feeling. It’s not just about how you feel about the other person, but also about how they make you feel about yourself and as a couple.
When you feel truly loved by someone you feel supported, and happy, and special. Being loved by that certain someone is like having a secret super power. I mean you were already awesome, but their love just somehow gives you an extra something.
You feel in love with them, and they tell you that they love you too. It is always nice to hear the words “I love you” from someone you love, but at the end of the day that’s all they are, just words. Actions are more of a true reflections of someone’s thoughts and feelings.
People can say anything, but real love requires effort and more than lip service. There are some undeniable signs that he truly loves you.
7 Signs He Truly Loves You
He Is Affectionate
The way he looks at you. The way he talks to you. The way he touches you. His body language and his non-sexual interactions with you will show you how much he cares.
He Cares About Your Happiness
A man who truly loves you will want you to be happy, even if that means an inconvenience or sacrifice on his part. You being happy makes him happy too. Your happiness is a priority to him.
He Is Supportive
A man who truly loves you will be your one man cheering section and your biggest fan. He will give you words of encouragement and will lift you up when you are feeling down. When he loves you, he is proud of you and believes in you.
He Is Protective
A man who loves you will be very protective of you. He will never want to see you hurting, and will always come to your defense. He also takes care to not be a source of pain for you by treating you with respect, and minding his actions and words.
He Is Thoughtful
A man who loves is always thinking of you. When he is out and about without you, many things will bring you to his mind. A song on the radio, a scent in the air, or even a location you once visited. He truly listens to you when you talk and remembers what you say and what you like.
He will pick up your favorite flowers for you just because, or fill up your gas tank without you asking.
He “Sees” You
A man can only truly love you if he sees and accepts the real you. If a man has seen the worst of you and still looks deep and lovingly into your eyes with no judgement he truly loves you.
He Misses You When Apart
It’s so cute how much a man in love misses you when you are apart. A man who truly loves you will miss you like crazy when he is away from you. He may not say it, but the phone calls, and texts he sends when you two are apart is his way of telling you he misses you.
Being in love is about an emotional connection. The connection is either there or it isn’t. When a man is in love with you it is usually pretty obvious whether he says the words or not. Strangers will be able to pick up on his love and adoration for you. It is quite special and sweet.
Are you able to recognize when a man truly loves you? Hearing the words is nice, but don’t get caught up in words. His actions are far more important and telling than any three words could ever be. So what are your thoughts on recognizing a man in love? Please share your thoughts and experience!
“I want you. All of you. Your flaws. Your mistakes. Your imperfections. I want you, and only you.” – John Legend
Soulmates...Meant To Be Or Nonsense For Romantics?
Soulmates...meant to be?
Once upon a time, when I was very young, I believed in the happily ever after. But then at some point reality hit me. Life is full of ups and downs, and no guarantees. Life will throw many curve balls, and one of them is love.
Love seems like such a simple concept in so many ways. You don't really have to think about it, you just feel it. You know it in your gut, and in your heart and mind that you love someone. But sometimes love evolves, or even fades away. We are talking romantic love.
Are you in love with someone right now? You may at some point, if you have not already, ask yourself if they are the "one". You may wonder if they are your soulmate. Soulmate has many definitions. The true meaning of soulmate is to have known and loved one another in many lives.
Death does not separate true love, and soulmates will always find their way back to one another.
The modern definition of soulmate is more simplistic. Soulmates are two people who are drawn to each other, and connect on every level. There is an intensity and passion between soulmates that is difficult, if not impossible, to replicate.
Do I believe in soulmates? Simple answer is no. Having a soulmate in theory sounds wonderful, and oh so romantic. But what if my soulmate gets hit by a bus? Am I doomed to a life of loneliness or lackluster relationships because the "one" is no longer here? That's depressing, not romantic.
But if you are going to find the closest thing to a "soulmate", or a person you can be very happy with, look to the list below for signs that you have met the one.
Signs You Have Found Your Soulmate
It Feels Right
You Just Know It
You Can Be Vulnerable And Be Yourself With Each Other
You Can Sense When They Are Hurting Or Are In Pain
You Admire And Challenge Each Other
You Have A Deep Connection And Friendship
There Is Amazing Chemistry Between You
Time Together Is Fulfilling
You Feel Like You Have Known One Another Forever
Being In Their Presence Has A Calming Or Euphoric Effect On You
Honestly, my theory on love and relationships is that you can find happiness and love with many people, albeit not all at the same time. There are those where the relationship is good, but not great. There are better relationships, and there are the best relationships.
The best relationship is when you truly click and get one another. The relationship in which you look at one another, and wonder where have they been all of your life. The laughs are good and plentiful, the sex is great, and hell even the disagreements are stimulating, and kind of hot.
So nope, I do not subscribe to the soulmate concept, but I think life should be the best it can be. No settling out of fear, loneliness, or desperation. There are over 5 billion people in our beautiful world. He or she is out there, and maybe searching for you as well. Or possibly even right in front of you.
Do you believe in soulmates? Have you found the one? Still searching? Or settled too soon? If you have found the "one" then enjoy and appreciate. If not, keep looking because the right one is out there. Please share your soulmate experience!
“A soul mate is not found. A soul mate is recognized.” – Vironika Tugaleva