5 Signs Of Emotional Blackmail...A Manipulation Tactic
Emotional blackmail is something that happens between a manipulative or abusive person and a victim. It is often described as threats and punishments that are meant to control another person's behavior, while not escalating to physical violence.
Unhealthy relationships often have emotional blackmail used by one or both people in the relationship. Emotional blackmail is a manipulation tactic used to control someone you have a close relationship with. It is done by both men and woman.
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Relationships with emotional blackmail are mentally and emotionally draining. It is important to know the signs of this unhealthy relationship so you can address it, end it, or stop doing it if you are the culprit.
5 Signs Of Emotional Blackmail
Withholding Sex
It’s one thing to be not in the mood, but it’s another thing to use the withholding of sex in your relationship to punish your partner or get your own way. Withholding sex to manipulate your partner into doing what you want them to do is emotional blackmail, and signs of an unhealthy relationship.
The Silent Treatment
Healthy relationships need communication. So refusing to talk to your partner or respond to calls or text as a tactic to punish is counterproductive, and also childish and petty.
It’s one thing to tell your partner to give you some space because you are upset, and do not want to discuss an issue while upset. It is another thing to just cut off all communication and completely ignore your partner.
Threatens To Leave Relationship
When someone in the relationship constantly drops the D word or threatens to break up because they are upset or angry they are being manipulative, and using the threat of leaving to make their partner comply.
Someone who threatens to end the relationship whenever they are angry or not getting their way is someone who is not ready or capable of having a healthy relationship.
If they want to leave, let them go.
Threatens To Withhold Access To Your Children
Unfortunately, children are often used as pawns when relationships sour. The threat of not being able to see your children is often used to keep people in bad and unhappy relationships.
Threats to keep children away from a parent, not because the parent is unfit, but in order to control the other parent is manipulative, selfish, and the act of a bad parent.
Guilt Trips
Your partner is sometimes in the wrong, but they never own their faults, and often place the blame on you. And then they make you feel guilty for even trying to bring up your concerns or issues. They gaslight you constantly, and make you feel bad anytime you call them on their crap.
They should offer frequent flyer miles for all the guilt trips they take you on, but instead all you get are mind games.
We all like to get our own way, but there are healthy ways to go about making it happen. In a healthy relationship you will need to compromise, which will mean that you will not have your way all of the time.
What are your thoughts on emotional blackmail in relationship? Do any of these signs resonate with you? Please share your thoughts and experience!
“I've been doing this a long time- manipulating people to get my way. That's why you think you love me. Because I've broken you down and built you back up to believe it. It wasn't an accident. Once you leave this behind..... you'll see that. -Caleb” ― CJ Roberts, Seduced In The Dark
April Book Club Recommendations
If you are like me you love a good book. I read all of the time, but tend to stick to one or two genres and authors. A great way to find new authors and be exposed to literature you would have never considered is by joining a traditional bookclub, or signing up for a book of the month club.
If you are already in a bookclub, but looking for some suggestions I am here to help. Or if you are just trying to figure out what to read next I think I have some great choices for you. I have read a couple of the below books, and plan to read the rest before summer.
Not sure if I will love them all, but that's the beauty of reading a book. You never know what you are going to get, or how it is going to end.
April Book Club Recommendations
The Priory Of The Orange Tree
The Silent Patient
A Place For Us
Becoming
Nine Perfect Strangers
Never Tell
The Priory Of The Orange Tree - Samanthan Shannon
The House of Berethnet has ruled Inys for a thousand years. Still unwed, Queen Sabran the Ninth must conceive a daughter to protect her realm from destruction--but assassins are getting closer to her door.
Ead Duryan is an outsider at court. Though she has risen to the position of lady-in-waiting, she is loyal to a hidden society of mages. Ead keeps a watchful eye on Sabran, secretly protecting her with forbidden magic.
Across the dark sea, Tané has trained all her life to be a dragonrider, but is forced to make a choice that could see her life unravel.
Meanwhile, the divided East and West refuse to parley, and forces of chaos are rising from their sleep.
The Silent Patient - Alex Michaelides
Alicia Berenson’s life is seemingly perfect. A famous painter married to an in-demand fashion photographer, she lives in a grand house with big windows overlooking a park in one of London’s most desirable areas. One evening her husband Gabriel returns home late from a fashion shoot, and Alicia shoots him five times in the face, and then never speaks another word.
Alicia’s refusal to talk, or give any kind of explanation, turns a domestic tragedy into something far grander, a mystery that captures the public imagination and casts Alicia into notoriety. The price of her art skyrockets, and she, the silent patient, is hidden away from the tabloids and spotlight at the Grove, a secure forensic unit in North London.
Theo Faber is a criminal psychotherapist who has waited a long time for the opportunity to work with Alicia. His determination to get her to talk and unravel the mystery of why she shot her husband takes him down a twisting path into his own motivations―a search for the truth that threatens to consume him....
A Place For Us - Fatima Farheen Mirza
As an Indian wedding gathers a family back together, parents Rafiq and Layla must reckon with the choices their children have made. There is Hadia: their headstrong, eldest daughter, whose marriage is a match of love and not tradition. Huda, the middle child, determined to follow in her sister’s footsteps. And lastly, their estranged son, Amar, who returns to the family fold for the first time in three years to take his place as brother of the bride. What secrets and betrayals have caused this close-knit family to fracture? Can Amar find his way back to the people who know and love him best?
A Place for Us takes us back to the beginning of this family’s life: from the bonds that bring them together, to the differences that pull them apart. All the joy and struggle of family life is here, from Rafiq and Layla’s own arrival in America from India, to the years in which their children—each in their own way—tread between two cultures, seeking to find their place in the world, as well as a path home.
Becoming - Michelle Obama
In a life filled with meaning and accomplishment, Michelle Obama has emerged as one of the most iconic and compelling women of our era. As First Lady of the United States of America—the first African American to serve in that role—she helped create the most welcoming and inclusive White House in history, while also establishing herself as a powerful advocate for women and girls in the U.S. and around the world, dramatically changing the ways that families pursue healthier and more active lives, and standing with her husband as he led America through some of its most harrowing moments. Along the way, she showed us a few dance moves, crushed Carpool Karaoke, and raised two down-to-earth daughters under an unforgiving media glare.
In her memoir, a work of deep reflection and mesmerizing storytelling, Michelle Obama invites readers into her world, chronicling the experiences that have shaped her—from her childhood on the South Side of Chicago to her years as an executive balancing the demands of motherhood and work, to her time spent at the world’s most famous address. With unerring honesty and lively wit, she describes her triumphs and her disappointments, both public and private, telling her full story as she has lived it—in her own words and on her own terms. Warm, wise, and revelatory, Becoming is the deeply personal reckoning of a woman of soul and substance who has steadily defied expectations—and whose story inspires us to do the same.
Nine Perfect Strangers - Liane Moriarty
Nine people gather at a remote health resort. Some are here to lose weight, some are here to get a reboot on life, some are here for reasons they can’t even admit to themselves. Amidst all of the luxury and pampering, the mindfulness and meditation, they know these ten days might involve some real work. But none of them could imagine just how challenging the next ten days are going to be.
Frances Welty, the formerly best-selling romantic novelist, arrives at Tranquillum House nursing a bad back, a broken heart, and an exquisitely painful paper cut. She’s immediately intrigued by her fellow guests. Most of them don’t look to be in need of a health resort at all. But the person that intrigues her most is the strange and charismatic owner/director of Tranquillum House. Could this person really have the answers Frances didn’t even know she was seeking? Should Frances put aside her doubts and immerse herself in everything Tranquillum House has to offer – or should she run while she still can?
It’s not long before every guest at Tranquillum House is asking exactly the same question.
Never Tell - Lisa Gardner
A man is dead, shot three times in his home office. But his computer has been shot twelve times, and when the cops arrive, his pregnant wife is holding the gun.
D. D. Warren arrives on the scene and recognizes the woman--Evie Carter--from a case many years back. Evie's father was killed in a shooting that was ruled an accident. But for D.D., two coincidental murders is too many.
Flora Dane sees the murder of Conrad Carter on the TV news and immediately knows his face. She remembers a night when she was still a victim--a hostage--and her captor knew this man. Overcome with guilt that she never tracked him down, Flora is now determined to learn the truth of Conrad's murder.
But D.D. and Flora are about to discover that in this case the truth is a devilishly elusive thing. As layer by layer they peel away the half-truths and outright lies, they wonder: How many secrets can one family have?
Mirroring Behavior…What Is It and What Does It Tell You About Him?
Mirroring is the behavior in which one person subconsciously imitates the gestures, speech pattern, or attitude of another. Mirroring often occurs in social situations, particularly in the company of close friends or family.
The concept often affects other individuals' notions about the individual that is exhibiting mirroring behaviors, which can lead to the individual building rapport with others. - Wikipedia
Why Does He Mirror You?
We often mirror other people to create a connection or when we have a strong attraction. When a man is mirroring you, he is likely unaware that he is even doing it.
But if you find that when you and certain men interact that they mirror your body language and words, it means that he is likely interested in you romantically, or at the very least he is attracted to you.
Signs Of Mirroring
Words
The mirroring of words is common. When we are around certain people often we start to pick up their speech habits. Whether someone is a friend or a lover, we mimic their words because we feel close to them or want to be closer to them.
If a man is mirroring your words it means he feels close to you or wants to be closer to you. His mirroring of your words may indicate a romantic interest in you, or be indicative of how important you are to him. Either way, word mimicking is indicative of his feelings for you.
Body Language
Body language is our non-verbal form of communication that often says more than words at times. Mirroring body language is most often done subconsciously. The mirror may come in the form of crossing or uncrossing of arms and legs, but it can also be smiling, tilting of the head, and leaning in while talking.
A man will mirror the body language of a woman he is watching or interacting with if he is interested or attracted to her. A common trick to use if you want to know if someone is watching you is to check your watch or yawn.
If they have been watching you, they will subconsciously mirror your behaviors and check their watch or yawn as well.
Demeanor
Your demeanor is your outward behavior and how you carry yourself. How we behave and carry ourselves is often affected by our mood. A person’s demeanor can also be mirrored.
Whether you are feeling happy, sad or angry, if someone is feeling so connected to you that they mirror you, they may also start to mirror your moods and take on your demeanor.
The psychology behind mirroring behavior is pretty simple. Mirroring usually increases rapport and liking from the other person. We want to be liked, especially by certain people. When mirrored, we often have positive feeling for the other person.
So when you consider the fact that the mirroring is occurring because someone wants to create a bond with you or that they like you, mirroring behavior is effective. As long as the mirroring is not weird, literally copying behavior, and creeping people out.
What are your thoughts on mirroring behavior? Do you notice it often? Please share your thoughts and experience!
“Your eyes will contradict your words if your words contradict your thoughts and feelings.” ― Sam Owen, 500 Relationships And Life Quotes: Bite-Sized Advice For Busy People
5 Reasons Why You're Bad At Love
Some people are just bad at love. You love the idea of love, but cannot seem to ever get it right. Is that just who you are? Maybe. Are you destined to be alone or just float from relationship to relationship? Possibly. But it is also possible that you get wrong because you are not ready or make a series of bad choices.
Being bad at love doesn’t have to be a permanent situation. We all grow and change with time. If you want to find lasting love and have healthy relationships, you will need to identify why your other relationships didn’t work. You are bad at love for a reason.
5 Reasons Why You’re Bad At Love
Immature
You are not emotionally mature enough to have a healthy relationship. It takes maturity to respect differences of opinion, and to respect boundaries in a relationship. Relationships can be challenging at times, and being able to communicate calmly, openly, and respectfully is a must.
Had Bad Examples Growing Up
Whether you grew up in a broken home, or with two parents who didn’t love or respect one another, you did not have good examples of healthy relationships. If growing up you didn’t see healthy, loving relationships in your home or in your life, it can be challenging, though not impossible, to know what it takes to have good relationships.
Choose The Wrong People
You choose the wrong people. You choose partners based on looks, status, for how great they are on paper, and for how good you two look together. Instead, you should be choosing partners by your commonality, chemistry, and shared life goals, values, and interests.
You’re Selfish
Relationships are about sharing and compromise. Your priority is you, and you have trouble ever putting someone else first. To be a selfish or a giving person is a conscious choice. Of all the signs, this is the easiest to control and to change.
Your Genetic Makeup
This may surprise you but some people are genetically programmed to be bad at love. Scientists have found that your genes determine how well your body regulates oxytocin, which controls our behaviors, our ability to love, and how attached we become to others.
Your genes also determine your ability to be an emotionally supportive partner, which is a must for a long lasting relationship.
Your past doesn’t dictate your future. Just because you have a history of being bad at love does not mean it will always be that way. Know the signs, take your time, and choose your mate wisely. If you want it, you can have an amazing relationship.
What are your thoughts? Do you agree with the 5 signs? Are you bad at love? Please share your thoughts and experience!
“I loved myself and since I loved me, I loved him because I realized he was good for me. A type of self worth, a type of narcissistic love.” ― Dominic Riccitello
5 Texting Signs He Likes You: How To Read His Messages
We communicate in so many different ways now. Communication is no longer just about face to face chats or phone calls. Social media and texting has taken the place of our typical way of communicating.
Unlike in-person interactions, where we are able to read facial expressions and body language, texting removes this layer of contact.
I believe that a huge sign that someone is really into you, is that there is a big difference between the person you text with, and the person you talk to in person. I think you will often find that the more contradicting the behaviors are, the greater their feelings are for you.
If you can joke and flirt through text, and completely be your most authentic self, but when you are face to face, your interactions are almost opposite, that means some serious feelings are there. He is afraid to show you how he really feels, but he had been telling by text. You just need to know the signs.
Signs He Likes You Based On Text
He Initiate Contacts
Guys do not like to text much or spend a lot of time on phones in general. When a guy initiates contact with you out of the blue it is because you are on his mind, and he craves interaction with you.
So, if a guy is making an effort to reach out to you via text, it probably means he likes you.
He Responds Fast
We all have that friend that takes foorrrever to respond to a text, but when a guy is interested in you and you text him, he will respond right away. He responds quickly because he is excited to hear from you.
Studies have found that when we get a text message from someone we like or have feelings for, we will respond right away and type faster than usual.
He Keeps The Conversation Going
If a guy likes you, he will want to talk, text, and interact with you as much as possible for as long as possible. While texting with him you may feel that the conversation is winding down, but he keeps it going by introducing new topics. He doesn’t want it to end.
He Asks Questions About You
He wants to know everything about you. He asks about your family, your childhood, and wants to know all your likes and dislikes. He is trying to find some commonality between the two of you, and shared interests. The more he knows about you, the easier it will be for him to win you over.
He Gets Flirty
He is very flirty through text. His flirting may consist of sexual innuendos, which makes his intentions a bit more obvious. But his flirting can also be sweet, or cute with funny and silly emojis. Men are not big on emojis.
If a guy is sending emojis with hearts or kissey faces, he is trying to be cute and he wants you to know he’s interested.
Text messaging is one of the typical ways we communicate today. If you are unsure if the guy you are texting with is interested, these signs should help you recognize his feelings. What are your thoughts? Do you agree with the signs? Please share your thoughts and experience!
“In the bottom of my heart lies a secret which I have never told a soul in the world. There is an image of this person who is dearest to me and closer than anything else.” - Melanie Rock
5 Signs Your Relationship Will Last
Some relationships are not meant to last, but the ones that do tend to have some common elements. Love is a beautiful thing, but relationships are hard work.
Relationships will have ups and downs, which is normal, but it’s how you handle those challenges, and how you feel about each other that determines your relationship longevity.
No one can truly predict which relationships will stand the test of time, although there are usually some obvious red flags when it comes to those that won’t. But what about identifying relationships that will make it?
Today, the average marriage lasts about 8 years, and that’s including the waiting period for the divorce. So how do you know if your relationship will beat those odds?
5 Signs Your Relationship Will Last
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You Are Friends
You actually like your partner as a person and consider them a friend. They are your person. You enjoy spending time with them, talking to them, and it’s just a lot of fun to be together.
You often confide in your partner, and seek their advice, and use them as a sounding board for your thought and ideas.
You Admire Each Other
You have a lot of respect and admiration for your partner. Sometimes you are in awe at the amazing person that they are, and you feel so lucky that they chose you as their mate. Your partner inspires you to do more, and be more.
You View Each Other Positively
In your heart and in your mind you view your partner in a positive light. You know they are not perfect, but you don’t secretly think they’re dumb, or lazy, or dishonest. You beam with pride when speaking about them to others, and could truly go on and on about all of their wonderful attributes.
You Consider Yourselves A Team
When either of you speaks, it is always “us” and “we” because you are a united front. You are a team, ready to take on any challenge together. It is never a “me” against you attitude, or about always being right.
You Would Choose Them Again
A huge sign that your relationship will last is, if knowing what you know now, you would still choose them again. They say hindsight is 20/20. So if you can honestly say it has all been worth it, and they are worth it, and you would do it all over again, then you have a relationship that is likely to stand the test of time.
I believe that finding the right person isn’t about luck. Being in a lasting relationship is about choosing the right person for you from the beginning, and choosing them over and over again.
If you are fortunate enough to be in a relationship with someone whom you truly believe to be your friend, whom you admire, and who you view in a positive light on a regular basis, you have chosen wisely. If you cannot say that this list applies to your partner or relationship, I think perhaps you should keep your options open.
What are your thoughts on the signs that your relationship will last? Do you agree with the signs? Please share your thoughts and experience!
“As much as I enjoy romance, it’s commitment that I need the most. I need to know a love I can depend on, a love that says, “I will be with you through it all. I love you. And I will love you even when you may not be all that lovable, for sometimes I'm not very lovable either. You can count on me - always.” ― Steve Goodier
6 Signs He's Not In Love With You Anymore
I know it sounds harsh to say that someone doesn’t love you. “He is not in love with you anymore” is definitely not the words anyone ever wants to hear, but it is sometimes the harsh reality.
Even though the words may not have been spoken, chances are the heart is more than aware that they are not loved by their partner.
You love your man, and may have had hopes that things would get better, or that his change in behavior towards you was just a phase. However, continued displays of unloving behavior is indicative that the love is gone. Denial ultimately does you no good, as it only offers a temporary state of make believe.
People fall out of love, it happens. If he doesn’t love you anymore, he may exhibit all or some of the signs below. The important thing for you to recognize is his overall change in attitude and behavior towards you.
6 Signs He Doesn’t Love You Anymore
You Annoy Him
One of the first signs that you will notice when your partner is falling out of love with you, is their tolerance level when it comes to you. You have always been indecisive about what movie to watch or where to eat, but unlike how they used to react your inability to make decisions, your partner now becomes clearly annoyed and angry with you.
Everything you do is annoying. You take too long to get ready, you breathe too loud, and even the way you dress or eat. They find fault with you because they are not in love, and they are emotionally done with the relationship.
He Doesn’t Care About Your Feelings
If your man has become insensitive or dismissive of your feelings, he is not in love with you anymore. You may find some inconsistencies in his behavior with this sign. He may reveal his true feelings by being cruel or insensitive, but then feel guilty about his behavior, and then will try to be nice or sweet again. His sweet behavior will not last because his feelings are gone.
His inconsistent behavior will give you emotional whiplash, but the hot and cold behavior is due to him feeling guilty about not loving you anymore.
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He Is Disrespectful
You may notice that the way your man speaks to you has changed. His words and his tone are often rude and disrespectful. He doesn’t care about or respect your opinion, your time, or your feelings.
He Doesn’t Communicate
Your guy used to call or text to let you know he’s running late or working late. But now it’s radio silence. No more cute check ins throughout the day to see how you are doing, or how your day is going, because you are not on his mind anymore, and he doesn’t care.
You will also find that he takes forever to respond to your calls or texts, if he responds at all.
He Doesn’t Want To Be Intimate
Your man has gone from barely being able to keep his hands off you, to rarely touching you or initiating sex. When you do have sex, he seems to be going through the motions, or treating it like a chore, but he is not emotionally present.
This sign can be a little tricky because some men will still have sex with you even if they have a woman on the side, or are planning on leaving you.
He Doesn’t Tell You He Loves You
If your guy doesn’t say I love you anymore, or has to be prompted by you saying it first, he doesn’t feel it. Of course, love is not just about words, it is about actions as well, so if he doesn’t say it, and he doesn’t show it, he is not in love anymore.
If you are trying to determine whether or not he is no longer in love with you, it comes down to the changes in your relationship. How were things in the beginning, and how are they now? Your man’s love for you over time should have deepened and become stronger, but if he is displaying the above signs, then that is not the case.
What are your thoughts on the signs? Do you call it quits or stick it out hoping things will get better? Please share your thoughts and experience!
“How do you know when it's over?" "Maybe when you feel more in love with your memories than with the person standing in front of you.” ― Gunnar Ardelius, I Need You More Than I Love and I Love You to Bits
5 Binge-Worthy Shows You Should Be Watching
As you may, or may not know, I have a small Netflix addiction. But as a busy working mom, I do not get to indulge as much as I would like to. I always try to make time for the important people in my life, while keeping up with my favorite hobbies of writing and reading. During that time there has been, and continues to be, many televisions shows that look interesting to me, and have great reviews.
Unfortunately it is hard to find the time to watch everything I fancy, and the DVR will only hold so much. But once I catch up on my viewing, I like to share my intel. Maybe you have seen some of these shows already, want to watch for them first time, or want to watch them again.
5 Binge-Worthy Shows
The Expanse
“A police detective in the asteroid belt, the first officer of an interplanetary ice freighter and an earth-bound United Nations executive slowly discover a vast conspiracy that threatens the Earth's rebellious colony on the asteroid belt.” - IMDB
I first heard of this show when it was getting cancelled by the Syfy channel, and getting picked up by Amazon. The premise sounded interested, so when it became available on Amazon Prime, I thought I would give it a try, and by episode two I was sold.
I binge watched all three seasons in a weekend, and it was so worth it. Many consider this series to be Game of Thrones in space, and I really cannot disagree. Season 4 of The Expanse returns at the end of 2019.
Killing Eve
“After a series of events, the lives of a security operative and an assassin become inextricably linked.” - IMDB
Killing Eve had been getting rave reviews, but I never had the opportunity to watch it on television. While doing a trial subscription with Hulu, I found my opportunity to see what all the buzz was about. It was so worth it. The psychology behind Villanelle, who is the assassin/ sociopath/stalker is very riveting. Season 2 premieres April 7th.
The Haunting Of Hill House
“Flashing between past and present, a fractured family confronts haunting memories of their old home and the terrifying events that drove them from it.” - IMDB
I have seen so many versions of the Haunting of Hill House story that I wasn’t sure I wanted to bother with this one. But my daughter wanted to watch it, , not by herself though, so we decided to give it a try together. I have to say that this Netflix series is by far my favorite. It’s dark, and creepy, and sad, all wrapped into one, with a satisfying ending. No word on if there will be a second season, but the window was left open to do another season.
You
“A clever bookstore manager relies on his savvy Internet know-how to make the woman of his dreams fall in love with him. “ - IMDB
“You” is really a tale of stalking. Stalking in the worse kind of way. Joe is geeky cute, smart, and charming, and totally cray cray. He meets this girl Beck, and he just has to know everything about her, and have her. She is perfect, or so he thinks. Joe will not let anything, or anyone stand in his way of having Beck as his girl.
This show is very easy to get wrapped up in, and crave more episodes, although it does require suspense of disbelief a few time. Season 2 will premiere in 2019 on Netflix.
Black Mirror
“An anthology series exploring a twisted, high-tech world where humanity's greatest innovations and darkest instincts collide.” - IMDB
I am not going to lie, Black Mirror is dark and kind of weird. But also entertaining, and a great way to kill time. The great thing about Black Mirror being an anthology series is that each episode is stand alone, and offers lot of viewing choices.
All of the above shows are excellent. And yes, I am sure you notice a trend in my viewing choices. With the exception of The Expanse, all the shows are dark, but great studies in human behavior. Although not for the faint of heart, these shows are highly entertaining. So pick one to start watching. I do no think you will be disappointed.
Fall In Love ....5 Ways To Meet Someone New
A new day means an opportunity for a new beginning. A new beginning for whatever you want. The possibilities really are endless. If you are single and want to change that, right now might be that time. Find the relationship you’ve been hoping for now.
Relationships cannot be forced, and neither can love. It has to happen naturally, but in order for it to happen, you have to be open and willing to put yourself out there a little bit more. There are many ways to meet new people, you just need to decide which method works best for you.
Ways To Meet New People
Online Dating
Online dating is a great way find others, like yourself, who are also searching, without having to leave your home. You can swipe right, chat them up, or choose to meet up. You decide what your level of comfort is, and what works for you.
Mutual Acquaintance
Meeting someone through a mutual acquaintance is like having a mini background check conducted on a potential mate. The acquaintance knows you both, a little or a lot, and can vouch for each of you to some degree.
Events
Weddings are great places to meet people, and so are sporting events, outdoor festivals, and concerts. Just be careful of the beer goggles if you are looking for love. While events are great places to meet someone new, they are also places to get very intoxicated as well.
Groups/Clubs
Whether you join a hiking club, a sailing club, or a running club, you are sure to meet others with similar interests, and plenty of potential mates. Shared interests and commonality is important when finding a new mate. Groups and clubs are great places to find potential mates whose lifestyle is compatible with yours.
Matchmaker
A matchmaker is a bit of an old fashioned concept, but is also pretty successful in setting up compatible people. Matchmakers can be unbiased, but shrewd observers in the game of love. You tell them what you are looking for, and they will try to match you with someone who meets those qualities.
As you can see, there are many ways to meet new people if you are willing to maybe try something new, or step out of your comfort zone. What are your thoughts on the best ways to meet new people? Where did you meet your current or last partner? Please share your story or experience!
"Love is like a friendship caught on fire. In the beginning a flame, very pretty, often hot and fierce, but still only light and flickering. As love grows older, our hearts mature and our love becomes as coals, deep-burning and unquenchable." — Bruce Lee
5 Signs You Are Looking For Love In All The Wrong Places
We all know these people, perhaps maybe you are one of them. Amazing people, who make bad relationship choice, after bad relationship choice. The friends and family members, who are either head over heels in love, or miserable and depressed because they had another relationship failure, and cannot bear the thought of being alone.
If you want love, and a long lasting relationship, but cannot seem to ever make it happen, you may be looking for long in the wrong places.
5 Signs You’re Looking For love In All The Wrong Places
Always Getting Ghosted
You thought things were going great, and that you were really going somewhere with this new relationship, until he stopped taking your calls, or returning your text.
Lots Of One Night Stands
You seem to never lack male companionship, and by male companionship, I mean you have lots of sleepovers. Which is fine if that’s all you’re interested in. But one night stands or random hookups are not likely to lead to long-lasting relationships.
Lots Of Failed Relationships
You have had a lot of relationships, but they never seem to work out. You enter the relationship with high hopes, always believing this is the one. But something always seems off, things go wrong, and you are usually left feeling disappointed.
Lots Of Drama In Relationships
When a relationship there seems to be non stop drama. The drama may be due to you picking the wrong one, trying to force what isn’t meant to be, or just sabotaging the relationship. Either way, the relationships always seems to be emotional rollercoasters.
Feel incomplete When Single
You hate being single. Instead of using your singledom to have fun with friends, recharge, and figure out what you really want from a partner and in a relationship, you spend the whole time desperately trying to find another partner and relationship.
As the saying goes, “if you are unhappy single, you will be unhappy in a relationship…eventually”. Happiness comes from within, and a partner or relationship should add to it, not be the sole reason for it.
What are your thoughts on looking for love? Do agree with my signs? Please share your thoughts and experience!
“If you’re searching for that one person that will change your life, take a look in the mirror.” - Unknown