Rejection Lessons...Here's Why Being Rejected Is A Good Thing
Rejection hurts. It hurts to be rejected from something you wanted, or thought you wanted. I am a believer in “meant to be”. If you didn’t get the job you wanted or the guy you wanted then it was not meant to be.
Rejection, especially when it comes to love, can make you feel horrible. Rejection can come in the form of not returning feelings and requited love, to a refusal to commit to you, to even cheating or leaving you for another. It may be painful at the time, or for a while, but there are lessons to be learned from the rejection.
5 Takeaways From Rejection
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Maybe It Is You
I know that is not what you wanted to hear, but are you always finding yourself on the receiving end of rejection? You may be asking yourself if there is something wrong with you. Well it is not so much about there being something wrong with you, but the things you do and say.
You may be unintentionally pushing people away or scaring them off by your behavior.
Lowering Your Standards
When we lower our standards we resent it to a large degree. You choose to be in a relationship with some guy or a booty call to a guy who is not really into you or is no good. You know it deep down that you are being used or that he is no good, and push and sabotage subconsciously, hoping he will prove you wrong.
Blindspots
We all have blindspots, especially in relationships that we are determined to make work. Red flags will pop up all over the place but you may choose to ignore them, but eventually you will learn. Things will not work out with a guy full of red flags, but that take away will be to listen to your inner voice and your gut instincts.
With the next guy you will be more cautious, and will not be misled or fooled as easily.
You Are Strong
Rejection doesn’t feel good, but you get through it and live to fight another day. The first heartbreak is the worst. We think this guy is the “one” and if I am not with him I will never be happy. Of course this isn’t true because you will be happy again whether you are single or in another relationship. Rejection teaches us to be self reliant and to create our own happiness.
Leaves The Door Open
A rejection just means another chance at an opportunity. The best thing that can happen to your heart and your love life will be to get rejected from the wrong guy. Wasting time with the wrong man makes you unavailable for the right one.
Although you may feel like it at the time, rejection is not the end of the world. Learn from it, grow, and move the hell on.
How do you handle rejection? Yes it hurts, but do you take it as a lesson learned? If so, what lessons have you learned from being romantically rejected? Please share your thoughts and experience!
“Was I bitter? Absolutely. Hurt? You bet your sweet ass I was hurt. Who doesn't feel a part of their heart break at rejection. You ask yourself every question you can think of, what, why, how come, and then your sadness turns to anger. That's my favorite part. It drives me, feeds me, and makes one hell of a story.”
― Jennifer Salaiz
Conflicted About Him? Here's Why You Should Take Some Time Apart
A break from a relationship or a romantic situation does not have to mean a break up or the end of your romance. Time apart can be a good thing, and I am firm believer that distance provides clarity.
Maybe you are questioning if he is the one, you two are not getting along very well, or you have started to feel smothered or overwhelmed by the relationship. Whatever the reason, space can be a positive thing.
If you are in a relationship or in the beginning stages of a budding romance, but are having some doubts about the guy in your life, you may need to step back and take some time apart.
Reasons To Take Time Apart
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To Miss Them Or Not
The saying that absence makes the heart grow founder is often true. Time apart will give you a chance to miss your mate. Being a way from them may be difficult because you may be missing talking to them, smelling them, and touching them. Missing them is a good sign.
Time apart from your partner may also be a nice break, or feel like a relief. If you feel relieved to be away from your mate, it may be a sign that you need to make your break permanent.
Clarity
They say distance offers clarity, and I couldn’t agree more. Being in the day to day life of a relationship if you are dating, but especially if you live together, it can be hard to pinpoint the issues or the root cause of your doubts.
You need to give yourself space to have that aha moment. Figure out why you feel conflicted about this guy. Is he not who you thought he was or have you just outgrown the relationship? Distancing yourself will help you view him and your relationship more clearly.
Assessment
Much like clarity, time apart will give you the ability to assess your relationship and decide what you really want. Without being overwhelmed by all of your attraction and desire for your guy, time apart can give you the opportunity to assess him, assess the relationship, and decide if he is someone you want to be with long term.
If you feel as if you need some space from a romantic situation, take a break from the relationship. If you believe that you need time, then take the time you need, and don’t feel pressured to stay with someone or in a relationship if you are having doubts. If your partner says they won’t wait for you, then they are not the one for you.
What are your thoughts on taking time apart? Do you think time apart helps, or if there are problems in the relationship a break up should just happen? Please share your thought and experience on time apart!
“If someone makes you miserable more than they make you happy, then it is time to let them go, no matter how much you love them.” - Unknown
Must See TV…Binge Worthy Shows For The New Year
Winter break is a time to enjoy family and friends, and to decompress. Your holiday break is also a time for nesting, and staying inside to get cozy and avoid the winter weather. And what better way to decompress and get cozy inside than to do some binge watching on Netflix and Amazon Prime Video.
As the new year starts, many highly anticipated shows return. Here are four shows I think are completely binge worthy from first season to current season.
Binge Worthy Shows
The Expanse Season 4
Season 4 begins a new chapter for the series with the crew of the Rocinante on a mission from the U.N. to explore new worlds beyond the Ring Gate. Humanity has been given access to thousands of Earth-like planets which has created a land rush and furthered tensions between the opposing nations of Earth, Mars and the Belt.
Ilus is the first of these planets, one rich with natural resources but also marked by the ruins of a long dead alien civilization. While Earthers, Martians and Belters maneuver to colonize Ilus and its natural resources, these early explorers don’t understand this new world and are unaware of the larger dangers that await them. - Amazon Prime Video
The Expanse is one of my favorite shows. The stakes are always high, the action is never ending, and the special effects are impressive. I recommend you create a real viewing experience for this series. With a big screen television, good surround sound, and the lights out, you will almost start to feel like you are a crew member on the Rocinante.
Jack Ryan Season 2
After tracking a potentially suspicious shipment of illegal arms in the Venezuelan jungle, CIA Officer Jack Ryan heads down to South America to investigate. As Jack’s investigation threatens to uncover a far-reaching conspiracy, the President of Venezuela launches a counter-attack that hits home for Jack, leading him and his fellow operatives on a global mission spanning the United States, UK, Russia, and Venezuela to unravel the President’s nefarious plot and bring stability to a country on the brink of chaos. - Amazon Prime Video
I have always been a Tom Clancy fan, but was a little reluctant to see Jim from the office playing Jack Ryan. I was so wrong. It took me two years to watch an episode, although I added it to my watchlist some time ago. All I can say is that it was so worth the wait. Season one was action packed, heart stopping episode after episode. And season two doesn’t disappoint.
Lost In Space Season 2
Now stranded even deeper in space, the Robinsons band together to explore strange planets, face down new dangers and find their beloved Robot. - Netflix
I have never considered myself a sci-fi geek but apparently I am. I definitely love all things space. Season 2 picks up where season 1 left off with Robinson’s in peril and trying to get back to the rest of the new colony.
You Season 2
Meet Will Bettelheim. He’s not your regular Joe. He’s new to LA and has sworn off love. But love, like murder, has a way of tracking you down. - Netflix
The uber creepy stalker series is back for a second season. Will has changed his name and moved to LA to start fresh but the man formerly known as Joe cannot help but stalk, fall in love, and then kill. Season 2 stays true to form, and with no spoilers, ends the season with a twist.
All of the above shows are great, and I do no think you will be disappointed. The 4 shows I chose offer a good variety of action, adult, family friendly, and science fiction.
So what are your recommendations? What great shows am I missing that I need to give a look? Please share your thoughts and recommendations!
Does Size Matter In The Bedroom? 5 Women Share The Truth About Attraction and Intimacy
What happens in the bedroom doesn’t always necessarily stay in the bedroom. Women sometimes share their sexual experiences with their girlfriends, and men sometimes brag about their conquests. Whether the man or women are sharing the bedroom experience, penis size often comes up in these conversations.
As a woman, I have had my own experiences, and definitely have some interesting stories to tell, but I won’t. What I will share is that being a single woman in the dating world can make you feel a bit like Goldilocks. This one is too big, and this one is too small, but where oh where do I find the one that is just right.
Over the years I have heard many men brag about the size of their package, as if the thought of me dying by penis impalement was somehow enticing. Let’s just say, they were wrong. In fact, based on my research many men get this wrong.
Did you know that the average penis size is 5.17 inches? I know, I was a little disappointed too when I saw that number, but at the end of the day I recognize that it’s more about how you work it than what you are working with.
I decided to do some research on what other women thought of importance of penis sizes and what mattered the most to them in the bedroom. If you are a women you will not likely find the results surprising, but for some men this may be an eye opener.
Gina 38, Hairstylist, Engaged
Gina has dated a lot of guys and says does not think that size matters, for the most part, but would prefer an average size penis. She shared a story of having sex with a guy whose penis was so small that the condom kept coming off.
Gina’s large penis experience left her with abdominal pain, and rethinking the idea that bigger was better. Gina thinks that 6 or 7 inches is the perfect size for her.
Missy 44, Personal Trainer, Married
Missy believes that penis size only matters in the extreme. She said she would not be interested in a very large or small penis, but it really comes down to how much you are into the guy and the chemistry you two have.
Missy also thinks that overall bedroom skills are more important than penis size. If a man knows how to mentally stimulate a woman, use his mouth, and work his hips, he will blow her mind.
Nikki 35, Nurse, Single
Nikki is single and dates a lot. She says that penis size has never mattered to her. Nikki believes in the overall pleasure experience, and says there are many ways for a man to satisfy a woman in the bedroom that doesn’t involve his penis.
Pamela 39, Administrator, Married
Pamela says she loves a big penis, but also said that ultimately size doesn’t matter to her. Pamela says there is way more to sex than just penis to vagina penetration. She shared that she is into dirty talk, sex toys, and BDSM. Her bedroom, her rules.
Rebecca 40, Military, Divorced
Rebecca says she has not had as many sexual partners as some of her friends, but says that she has experienced a very large penis and a very small penis. The guy with the large penis was her boyfriend for 2 years.
Rebecca said that some days she just dreaded his penis. She preferred being on top with him because she could control his entry, but she found doggie style to be too painful. Rebecca found the small penis guy to be lacking in skills, and said his thrust felt pointless.
According to women, when it comes down to it, a man’s penis size is not that important to the overall pleasure for a sexual encounter. Women say size doesn’t matter unless the penis is well above or below average. Average size is just right.
So if there are any guys reading this, the one thing you should take take away from this blog is the importance of foreplay, especially if you’re not packing. Be generous in bed. Give and you shall receive.
What are your thoughts on the importance of penis size in the bedroom? Does it matter to you? Do you have a preference? Please share your thoughts and experience!
The Look Back and The Signs Of Secret Longing
The look back, is the turn back of one or both people after they have said their goodbyes. They don't want their time together to end, but feelings have not been verbalized.
I like to people watch because I find human behavior so interesting. As humans we do so many subtle things that mean so much. One particular behavior has recently caught my eye, and that is the look back. Some of you may be wondering what the heck is the “look back”, but others knew right away.
Once I noticed it, I mean really noticed it, I had to know more. I started to notice it in the morning drop offs with parents and their children at my daughter's school.
I also noticed when I saw a groups of friends parting ways after a movie. But the big stand out was with couples, and what appeared to be the slow budding romances.
Why The Look Back
To some degree this blog goes hand in hand with my recent “ Love…Being, Falling, Crazy In It” blog. The look back in the case of love and lust is often about regret. It is the silent “one last look at you before I leave you, because believe me, I don’t want to leave you".
The look can be subtle or smoldering, but either way it is still telling. The return look is just as telling, and important. If only one of the two looks back, it does not bode well for a future dalliance.
Just about every romantic movie I have seen has the look back moment. I had to think back over the years for the look back moments in my history. I admit that in the past I fought the temptation to look back sometimes. I wanted to look back, to see him again yes, but also to know if he was looking back at me.
When your eyes meet that one final time on the look back, it sends your heart fluttering, and you feel warm and tingly all over. It puts a smile on your face, and thoughts in your mind that will leave you restless.
Movies That Have Memorable Look Back Moments
Sixteen Candles
Sense and Sensibility
Bridget Jones's Diary
Waiting to Exhale
Dirty Dancing
The Titanic
Love Actually
The Notebook
Does a look back at someone after you, or they have started to walk away mean nothing, or everything? I suppose one could say it depends, and that may be true.
In the case of love and lust, only the two looking back at each other know why they couldn't resist that one last glance, but there are signs of secret longing you can look for.
Signs Of Secret Longing
The Look Back
Prolonged Goodbyes
Intense Eye Contact
They Flush and Blush In Your Presence
They Cannot Stay Away From You
What are your thoughts on the look back and secret longing? Have you ever experienced this feeling and behavior? Please share your thoughts or experience!
“…There is the heat of Love, the pulsing rush of Longing, the lover’s whisper, irresistible—magic to make the sanest man go mad.” ― Homer, The Iliad
The Pheromone Effect and Why You Crave Him
Sometimes a guy comes along and you find him irresistible. Literally irresistible. I mean you can barely stop yourself from pouncing on him like a wild animal catching its prey.
There is just something about him, but you cannot explain it. He isn’t necessarily the most handsome man you have ever met, but still you are drawn to him. You crave him in every way. When you see him, or just think about him, you want to do things with him and to him that even shock you.
So what is it about him and why do you desire him so bad? Is it possible that it is the pheromone effect?
The Pheromone Effect
A pheromone is a chemical that animals produce, which changes the behavior of another animal of the same species. Pheromones can trigger behaviors, and is known as behavior-altering agents.
Although the pheromone effect in nature is known to trigger behaviors such as fear and mating in animals and insects, the affects on human behavior is more theory and continues to be studied.
While the affects of pheromones in humans is up for debate by some, others believe in the power of pheromones so strongly that they have bottled pheromones. Some people call pheromones a love potion, and whether or not you are a believer, for about $100 you can buy and spray on some sex appeal to attract the one you desire.
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How Does The Pheromone Effect Work
Some studies have shown that for humans it’s all about smell. Our olfactory receptors can detect odors and smells on a subconscious level. Smells that you are completely unaware of. Just take a man’s perspiration for example.
By a man’s sweat, a woman may be able to detect a man’s testosterone level, which may make her crave his sperm and want to mate with him. It is a very primal reaction.
Humans are after all just animals. Animals who have learned to control and suppress their animal instincts.
Are you a believer in the pheromone effect? I am. The pheromone effect is separate from compatibility and attraction, although the two can overlap. Is it pheromones that creates amazing emotional and sexual chemistry between two people? Probably.
What are your thoughts on the pheromone effect? Have you ever had an unexplainable pull or attraction to someone? Have you ever used a pheromone spray? Please share your thought and experience!
“I want you to want me, I need you to need me, I'd love you to love me” - I Want You To Want Me, Cheap Trick
Traditional Relationships VS Modern Relationships...Which Is Better?
In today’s world there is a struggle between the old and the new. There are those that are strongly committed to traditional ways of living, including relationships and marriage. There are also people who want to make their own rules and rail against the thought of what is traditional.
I recently read an article which said that traditional relationships tend to last longer. Cue my mental eye roll as I prepare to be told how men being the bread winners with the little woman staying home cooking and cleaning is the key to everlasting love. But that is not quite what the article said.
The article said that traditional relationships with clearly defined roles tend to last longer, and I can see how that makes sense. But I also think that a more modern relationship can also have roles within the relationship and be just as long lasting. Notice the word “lasting”, not the word happiness is being used, but we will get to that.
Traditional Relationship
There are many types of traditional relationships and home lives, but the basic traditional relationship involves a male and female with the man typically being the more dominant partner while the woman is more submissive.
In this context, submissive does not mean voiceless, but the woman will follow the man’s lead and play a more supporting role in the relationship.
The traditional relationship also has more clearly defined roles for the couple. For example the man could be the sole provider or primary breadwinner. The man would also take care of home repairs, trash, and vehicle maintenance.
For the woman, she would take care of the cooking, the cleaning, and be the primary caretaker of any children. Although this type of relationship may seem antiquated and would not work for some, it works for many, and the relationships do tend to last longer.
Modern Relationships
Modern relationships make their own rules. They break free of the stereotypical roles of relationships and marriage, and define their own coupledom. Just like the traditional relationships, there are many types of modern relationships.
A modern relationship may be an unmarried couple living together. Or a married couple who both work and share chores, taking turns as needed. A common modern couple is two working parents, who make decisions together, and share chores.
The roles are less clearly defined and each are expected to work together to get household chores done and the children taken care of equally.
In a modern relationship, the woman may be the breadwinner, and the man may play a more supporting role. While modern relationships offer equality to both partners, the undefined roles may result in frustrations and resentment as one half of the couple feels like the other is not pulling their weight.
Studies show that modern relationships do not usually last as long as traditional relationships, but why is that? I don’t think it’s about more morals, or good and bad people. But more perhaps that a person who sees themselves as a traditionalist is less likely to divorce than a more modern minded person is, no matter how miserable they are.
Quantity and quality are not remotely the same thing, and a longer marriage does not mean years of happiness. People stay in relationships for many reason, and love isn’t actually at the top of the list.
Also I would think a person with their own income, who is financially independent, is more likely to call it quits on an unhappy relationship than one who is financially dependent.
What are your thoughts on traditional relationships versus modern relationships? I really want to hear your thoughts and opinions on this topic. Please share!
“We accept the love we think we deserve.” ― Stephen Chbosky, The Perks of Being a Wallflower
Betrayal By Your Partner...5 Questions To Ask Yourself Before Giving Them A Second Chance
Not everyone deserves a second chance. Some deeds are just unforgivable, and no one should feel obligated to forgive people who do them wrong. This is especially the case in romantic, intimate relationships.
Does choosing not to forgive someone who has hurt or betrayed make you a bad person? I say who cares. Will forgiving the betrayal give you closure or make the betrayal hurt less deep inside? Depends on you.
Whether or not you choose to forgive your mate or cut them from life, it is a completely different decision from giving them a second chance. If you are trying to decide whether or not to give someone a second chance ask yourself these questions.
5 Questions To Ask Before Giving Them A Second Chance
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Are They Owning Their Mistake?
In order to move forward and past a betrayal in a relationship, it is important for the partner at fault to own their actions and take responsibility. If your partner cannot or will not admit to their mistake, they are likely to repeat it.
Failure of a mate to take responsibility for their hurtful behaviors may be indicative of a lack of remorse for their actions, and lack of respect for their partner.
Are They Willing To Change?
If your partner has behaviors that contributed to their betrayal, whether it’s drinking or hanging out with bad influences, they need to be willing to change for second chances to be offered.
If your partner is unwilling to change they will repeat the same behaviors, or similar behaviors, and hurt you again.
Have They Made Promises Before?
Is this most recent betrayal a first? Or have they promised in the past to do better and be better? If your partner has repeatedly hurt and betrayed you in the past, only to say sorry, cry, beg forgiveness, and then do it all over again, they are not deserving of a second, third, and definitely not a fourth chance.
They have shown you they are not trustworthy or deserving of your love and commitment.
Do You Still Trust Them?
Trust is earned over time, but can be lost in a moments bad decision. In your heart of hearts, do you still trust your mate? If your partner has betrayed you, and you want to be able to forgive them and move on, but you no longer trust them, a second chance may not be in order.
A relationship without trust isn’t much of a relationship.
Do You Still Love Them?
Once a love betrays you, you will never see them the same again. After the betrayal, can you say that you still love them or would you be staying be out of obligation, fear of the unknown, or feeling you have already invested too much time to move on.
If you don’t feel love for them anymore, or even worse you resent or hate them, maybe it is time to move on.
Once a betrayal has been committed in your relationship, it is impossible not to see your partner differently. No one is entitled to be in your life, and you are not required to forgive them, although for your own emotional well being you will need to be able let go and move on.
Some couples are able to forgive and move on. Some will even say they are stronger after the betrayal, to which I say “if you say so”. Giving a betrayer a second chance is a very personal decision. It’s a decision that maybe others may not understand, but it’s your relationship so they don’t need to.
What are you thoughts on second chances and forgiving a betrayal? Please share your story and experience!
“For there to be betrayal, there would have to have been trust first.” - Suzanne Collins
6 Signs Your Coworker Likes You (But Won’t Admit It)
Crushes aren’t just for teens, and why should they be. Crushes are sweet, and exciting no matter the age of those involved. Crushes can begin with a single interaction, or develop over time with day to day conversations or contact.
Relationships, love, and dating in the workplace can create complicated situations that are difficult to navigate. Before you make your feelings known to your office crush, you will want to be certain about how they feel about you. If they are crushing on you there are signs to look for.
6 Signs Your Co-Worker Is Crushing On You
Hangs Around Your Cubicle
When a co-worker is crushing on you they will find any reason to come to your desk. Their stapler is not working, they want to borrow a pen, or they have a question that really anyone could answer. Anything to engage with you and have your attention.
Brings You Coffee Or Gifts
Being thoughtful is their way of trying to win you over. An office mate who has feelings for you and is secretly crushing will bring you your favorite coffee in the morning, they will remember your birthday, and they will always try to be helpful to you in anyway they can.
Asks You To Lunch
Your co-worker just wants to spend time with you, preferably just the two of you, but they will make a group offer to grab lunch. They know that workplace romance is tricky and they don’t want to creep you out so they will try to make the lunch invites seem casual and friendly.
Always Next To You In Meetings
Somehow no matter who arrived first to the meeting, your crushing co-worker will end up next to you. If you think someone is crushing on you, pay attention to who they gravitate to when given the option of where to sit or stand.
Ask Questions About Your Life
Your crush will want to know if you’re single, or if you are in a relationship how things are going. They will asks about your weekend, trying to find out what you like to do and who you are spending time with.
When asking questions they are trying to learn everything they can about you and find their way in. They want to find a way into your life and into your heart.
Tries To Meet Up Outside Of Work
Much like trying to go lunch, your crush will want to hang out with you outside of work. Whether they are trying to talk you into going out for happy hour or attending the office holiday party, they are looking for any excuse to hang out.
Work crushes are natural, normal, and somewhat sweet. But one has to be careful when testing the waters of mutual interest or venturing into a workplace relationship.
What are your thoughts on work crushes? Is there a coworker you think may be crushing on you? Are you crushing on a coworker? How do you handle these situations both past and present? Please share thoughts and experience!
“Some crushes just never went away. They built, instead, into something permanent, obsessive and all consuming.” ― Maya Banks, Rush
Is Your Relationship Moving Too Fast?...5 Signs You Don't Know Your Partner
New relationships feel amazing. New love is intoxicating. If I could bottle and sell the feelings evoked by new love I would be a billionaire. But like many things bottled, if cannot stay in there forever, and can become weaker and faint over time.
If you have been together for a short while, let’s say less than six months and you are ready to move in together and maybe even get married then you may be moving too fast. Here are the signs to look for if you or those close to you think you may need to slow things down.
5 Signs Your Relationship Is Moving Too Fast
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They Seem Almost Perfect
So let’s be clear, no one is perfect. If your new love seems perfect then they are either hiding their true character from you, or you are allowing yourself to be blinded by lust and emotions. You are in the romantic, can’t get enough of each other stages.
Relationships is the early stage feel the best because they are not based in reality and exist almost in a bubble. There’s no real history between the two of you. There is no turmoil, no frustrations. Just excitement and newness. Once the newness wears off, do you think you will truly know the person you are with?
You Don’t Know How They Handle Stress Or Difficult Situations
Life is stressful and the unexpected happens. In the early stages of relationships people will wear masks and put their best foot forward, however we all have a bad side. Some bad sides are worse than others.
Nothing will test a relationship and show you someone’s bad side, or best side for that matter, like dealing with professional stresses, financial issues, or emotional stress, crisis, or loss. If you don’t know how they handle life struggles firsthand, then you don’t know them.
You Don’t Feel Comfortable Discussing Certain Topics With Them
Topics like religion and politics are hot button issues for many people, but especially for people who do not know each other well and are not completely comfortable with each other
Do you know how your partner feels about recreational drug use, organized religion, or abortion? Whether you agree with each other or agree to disagree on the topics, you should know where they stand if you are planning a future together.
You Don’t Know Much About Their Past
They are so great, yet they’re single. Why did they get divorced or why have they never been married? Your partner’s past may give you somewhat valuable information about what you can expect in your future together.
Did they have domestic violence issues with an ex or jealous controlling tendencies? Are they a deadbeat dad or have they declared bankruptcy? If you cannot answer these questions with certainty you do not know your partner.
You Don’t Know Their Family
To understand someone you need to know where they come from and where they have been. Have you met their parents? What is their relationship like with their parents? Are they close? Is the relationship respectful? It matters for many reasons.
Will your relationship require approval of their family? What does your partner’s family have to say about their exes. Remember, if this person is going to be part of your future then their family will be your family as well. Get to know them.
At the end of the day we all have to decide what’s best for us. Love can make us foolish and you cannot tell a fool anything. I recommend you ask yourself what’s the rush? Is this your MO? Is this their MO?
Are you repeating a bad pattern of fast tracking a relationship only to be disappointed and let down in the end? If you want this relationship to work and be different, then do something different. Slow it down, take your time, and don’t let emotions rule you. You can be a romantic and smart about your heart too.
What are your thoughts on moving too fast in a relationship? Do you tend to take it slow or go head first into any relationship? Do you think there is a specific timeline that is appropriate for moving in or getting married? Please share your thoughts and experience!
“Moving too fast in a relationship is like putting delicate clothes in a hot dryer. Things will heat up fast but permanent damage will be done and it will be hard or possibly impossible to fix.” - Brian Zillnek