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Shakespeare Love...Which Female Character Best Represents The Way You Love?
If reading Shakespeare has taught me anything, it is that relationships are hard, life is not fair, and no, things do not always work out in the end. Those stories would fall into the tragedies, but life and relationships can truly be tragic. The great thing is that life can also be full of comedy and laughter as well.
I think by the end of my freshman year of high school I had read nearly every piece of work by William Shakespeare.
Every play I read I attempted to identify with a particular character, or at least recognize certain characteristics within myself. I have my favorites, and some that I find extremely unsatisfying or disappointing for a variety of reasons.
The Plays and The Ladies
MacBeth
Lady MacBeth is the wife of MacBeth and she is strong, tough, and an unstoppable force. She believes in her man, even if he doesn't believe in himself, and will not let anyone stand in the way of what she believes is rightfully hers and her man's.
If you love like Lady Macbeth, then you believe in tough love. You are a ride or die chick, and are always team Macbeth. Just remember taunting and emasculating behavior is not the best way to motivate your man. Maybe you are not always right.
Othello
Desdemona is a smart woman who speaks her mind, loves being a wife, and loves her man Othello. Desdemona is proud of her military husband and loves the life that they have created together. She loves her man to fault, and even when she realizes he has turned on her, and is going to kill her, she is still on his side.
If you love like Desdemona, then you are a loyal partner, and you love hard. You can be blind to your lover's faults at times, and only want to see the good in those you love. Be careful with your heart, and be sure that your partner is committed and deserving of your love.
Taming Of The Shrew
Katherine Minola is feisty, spirited, and not exactly wife material for the average man of her times. Kate is perceived to be a tough, ball busting woman, but she is actually very intelligent and thoughtful. Once the right man, her husband Petruchio comes along, Kate is able to let down her guard and be herself.
If you love like Kate, then you are a woman who knows her heart, and her mind, and will not settle for less. You can be tough, but you also have a soft heart, but only those special to you get to see it. Just remember that showing your softer side doesn't make you weak.
Romeo and Juliet
Juliet Capulet is a sweet innocent girl who falls head over heels in love with Romeo, in spite of her families rival with Romeo's family. While Juliet is sweet, she is also strong willed and refuses to marry Paris, the man her parents have chosen for her.
If you love like Juliet, then you are a passionate girl who follows your heart, and damn all of those who dare to try to stand in your way. You are willing to go to the end of the earth for your love, but maybe take it down a notch.
The Tempest
Miranda had been exiled with her father Prospero since she was three years old. Miranda is all that is good. She is a sweet innocent girl who blossomed into a beautiful young lady. Having always been an obedient daughter, Miranda makes the decision to go against her father to free Ferdinand, her love.
If you love like Miranda, then you love with all of your heart. You never want to hurt anyone, or see anyone in pain, but for love you are willing to take risks, and break some rules. Just try not fall in love so fast. He may be the one, but he may not be.
Shakespearean characters are extremely complex, but always fun to analyze and dissect. William Shakespeare wrote these stories in the late 1500s and the early 1600s, but I think we can all still see some similarities in human behavior and relationships in today's society.
We all love differently, which makes life so much more interesting. So which Shakespeare female character best represents the way you love? I was definitely able to pick myself out right away. Please share!
Drunk Shopping...The 5 Signs That You've Been Drunk Shopping
Drunk shopping...the billion dollar industry that no one really talks about. Are you familiar with drunk shopping? I know I had never heard of drunk shopping until a girlfriend of mine mentioned it. Once she explained what it was, I immediately recognized the behavior, and had to know more.
I started researching drunk shopping, and all that it entailed. There is a funny, silly, harmless element to it for most of us, but it is a behavior that can very problematic for others.
Drunk shopping is basically the act of making purchases while having had alcoholic beverages. Your inhibitions are lowered, your decision making skills are reduced, and your judgement is poor.
Drunk shopping occurs more frequently with men than women, but many of us have done it at one time or another. It can be as benign as paying for a taxi or Uber to take you from bar to bar when you could have just walked a block over. It can also be as serious as doing a lot of online gambling while under the influence, which can be be very costly.
The 5 Signs Of Drunk Shopping
Unexpected Packages
If packages arrive at your home, and they consist of items you have no memory of purchasing, you were likely drunk shopping. Usually big tickets items, and clothing items are purchased while drunk shopping.
Bank Notifications
If your bank is sending your texts or emails regarding unusual or large purchases you may have been drunk shopping. Of course you want to be sure to check that you are not a victim of identity theft, but if you can track your previous online activity to the purchases, then you know you were the culprit.
Receipts For Unknown Purchases
If you sometimes find receipts in your car, purse, or wallet for food, alcohol, and Uber rides with no memory of the purchases, you were likely drunk shopping. The good thing is that at least you have a record of your purchases, and can call your credit card company if you deem necessary.
Hangover/Upset Stomach After Night Out
After a couple of drinks at your favorite bar, food that didn't appeal to you when you first arrived, suddenly starts to smell and look so good. Before you know if, you are ordering another round of drinks, getting wings, and mozzarella sticks.
Overeating, too much drinking, and lots of greasy food may leave you feeling miserable the next day. Not to mention that you spent way more than you planned too.
Lower Bank Balance Than You Thought
You check your bank balance or credit card statements and realize that you have spent way more than you thought. Spending too much money on your debit card or credit card can be addressed by setting limits that prevents over spending on any particular day or location.
If you recognize some of the signs of drunk shopping you are not alone. A study found that Americans are spending over $30 billion a year drunk shopping. Millions of people drunk shop every day, but it is important not to make a habit of this bad behavior. If you receive packages from drunk shopping, return them if you can.
Also consider just carrying cash on your nights out to keep a better handle on your spending. Lastly, maybe opt for a movie on Netflix on nights in with your glass of wine, rather than web surfing.
Any experience with drunk shopping? Please share.
My 5 Favorite Teas...It's Tea Time
I am a big tea drinker. I drink a least one cup of tea each day. The type of tea I drink depends on the weather and my mood. There is a certain etiquette to making, serving, and drinking tea, but I do none of those things.
I prefer my tea without milk, or any sweetener, but with the occasional lemon if I am slightly under the weather.
I own a beautiful tea set, and two lovely glass tea infusers that I keep at work, but honestly I can drink tea out of just about anything, so long as it is one of my favorites. While I have always enjoyed a cup of tea, my fondness has grown over the years. I graduated from Lipton bags of tea, to wonderful loose teas.
Tea Forte has become my go to tea not only because it has so many varieties of tea and flavors, but also because they are yummy and of good quality. Below you will find my five favorite teas, and I highly recommend them all. But if you are not sure what you are interested it, then I recommend going for the Tea Forte Sampler.
My 5 Favorite Teas
Moroccan Mint Green Tea
Moroccan Mint is my go to tea on a daily basis. I start my mornings with this light, refreshing tea. This tea blends fragrant moroccan nana mint leaves and hand-rolled rare gunpowder green tea. A fresh and crisp tea that is great both hot and iced.
African Solstice Herbal Tea
African Solstice tea is absolutely delicious. Drinking this tea feels like treating yourself. It comes from the soul of South Africa, antioxidant-rich rooibos herb blended with the taste of berries, blossoms, and a wisp of sweet vanilla. It is naturally caffeine free.
Naturally Caffeine-free infusions are created using hand-harvested herbs, aromatic flowers, healthful fruits, premium spices, roots, seeds and rare botanicals. This is a relaxing, snuggle up in your favorite chair kind of tea.
Lemon Sorbet Green Tea
Lemon Sorbet green tea is perfect for a summer day, or when you are trying to soothe a sore throat. This tea is fragrant fresh citrus and sweetness of wildflower honey. It is an organic product and gives a fragrant, sweet infusion with every cup. Being a green tea, it contains antioxidants and is naturally free of caffeine too.
Green Mango Peach
Green Mango Peach is a lovely, tropical tasting green tea. The Mango peach tea is made with green tea leaves blended with cooling peppermint leaves, the heady nectar of mangos and the sweet taste of peach. This tea is refreshing and crisp, and great hot or iced.
Earl Grey
Earl Grey is a black tea, and perfect for those rainy, stay inside, cozy days. Earl Grey is often served with milk, but I drink it straight up, so to speak. Earl Grey is made with robust assam leaves with a light liquoring of cold-pressed, Italian Bergamot citrus, deeply aromatic with a bold flavor. Not for the faint of heart, Earl Grey is robust and full-bodied.
There are many health benefits to drinking tea, but I drink tea because it soothes, calms, and warms. Are you tea drinker? What's you favorite? If you are not a tea drinker, I say give some of my favorites a try.
5 Date Ideas To Really Get To Know The Other Person...
Dates are fun, exciting, and sometimes a little awkward. It can be challenging, to say the least, to put yourself out there and really get to know someone new. If you are dating, you are looking for companionship, romance, and possibly a life partner.
The first few dates with someone new can be full of fakeness, and false behaviors. The fakeness is often not intentionally deceitful, but we all wear masks, and try to put our best foot forward. But if we are putting our best foot forward, doesn't that mean we are hiding our not so good "club foot" so to speak to make a better impression.
If you are looking for a potential mate, and not just a hook up, then you may want to get to know the other person sooner rather than later, and not waste time dating someone with whom you have no real compatibility.
Date Ideas To Get To Know The Other Person
Bowling
Bowling is not just for non athletic people. Bowling is a lot fun, and will give you an opportunity to observe your date's skills, coordination, and best of all their level of competitiveness. Take this opportunity to see if your date knows how to loosen up, and not take themselves too seriously.
Hiking
Hiking is another great way to get to know your date. While walking there is lots of time to chat. You will get to see if they are athletic, if they are a complainer, and depending on the terrain you hike on, are they a team player by offering to assist you if needed.
Wine Tasting
So rule number one of wine tasting on a date, is do not get drunk. It is not cute, just sloppy. A wine tasting is supposed to be chill, so chill out with your date, and try to relax. Try some wine, get a little tipsy, and see how your mate handles themselves. Remember, you need to keep your wits about you, and be in the moment.
Cooking Class
No skills required, but it is nice to see how your date handles themselves in a kitchen. Cook a nice meal together, enjoy a glass of wine, and chat with others in your class as well. You get to observe how friendly and sociable your date is with new people.
Carnival/Amusement Park
I love an amusement park, but for as much fun as they are, they can be very frustrating and annoying. Chances are you will find yourself dealing with crowds, and long lines. Does your date get irritated and moody with impatience, or do they realize that lines are all part of the experience and take the opportunity joke and have fun? Their reaction will be very telling.
Honestly, there are so many things to do when you are dating to get to know a new romantic interest. These recommendations are meant for the first couple of dates. For that time when you are figuring out if you want to spend more time with them.
We all have deal breakers, but you will not find out most of those relationship "no go's" early on if you are just sitting in a movie theater, or at a noisy bar. So what are your recommendations for first dates? A nice quiet place, or somewhere with lots of excitement? Please share your advice and experience!
“There are three possible parts to a date, of which at least two must be offered: entertainment, food, and affection. It is customary to begin a series of dates with a great deal of entertainment, a moderate amount of food, and the merest suggestion of affection. As the amount of affection increases, the entertainment can be reduced proportionately. When the affection IS the entertainment, we no longer call it dating. Under no circumstances can the food be omitted.” - Judith Martin
30 Day Health and Fitness Challenge - Week 4
30 Day Fitness Challenge - Week 4
Welcome to the 4th and final week of the Health and Fitness Challenge. I hope you enjoyed weeks 1, 2, and 3 and have found your strength and stride. Just remember if you find what I have laid out below to be too hard, push through.
If you find it to be too easy, do more. Let's push ourselves, our minds, and our bodies, and see what we can accomplish in these last 7 days.
Week 4 is more challenging than week three. Do your best and share your successes and challenges. Just 1 week to go!
Health
Take Out
Any One Of The Below, Plus The Two From Weeks 1, 2 and 3:
Sugar
Soda
White Bread
Alcohol
Fried Food
Red Meat
Pasta
Fast Food
Add In
15 Minutes Of Light Stretching Before Bed, 24 More Ounces of Water, 1-2 Cups of Green Tea Daily, 20 Minutes Of Extra Sleep By Going To Bed Earlier
Fitness
60 minutes cardio everyday - Walking, Running, Swimming, Elliptical, Cycling, etc.
Arms (Mon, Wed, Fri, Sun) - 20 Bicep Curls x2, 20 Shoulder Press Ups x2, 25 push ups
Planks - Daily 45 seconds x2
Legs (Tues, Thurs, Sat) - 25 Squats, Lunges 20 each leg, 25 Calf Raises
Abs - 60 Crunches daily, 25 Bicycles
Equipment Needed
Good Walking/Athletic Shoes
Gym Access/Great Walking or Hiking Trails Access
10-15 lbs. Free Weights
Please share your thoughts and progress on this week’s Health and Fitness Challenge!
Disclaimer: I am not a doctor, registered dietitian, or fitness expert. The purpose of my blog is to share my experiences with food, fitness, and life—not to dole out advice. When it comes to your health and fitness, do your research.
5 Signs You're Dealing With A Narcissist
The term narcissist seems to be thrown around a lot these days, but that doesn't mean the label doesn't necessarily apply to some people. I am not a psychologist, and perhaps you are not either, but I think it is important to recognize what is unhealthy behavior, and avoid it when possible.
So what exactly is the medical definition of narcissist you might be thinking. I think many of us have our own ideas or definitions of what a narcissist is, but the meaning is actually pretty straight forward.
A narcissist is defined as a person who has an excessive interest or admiration of themselves. For a narcissist, it is about them all of the time.
To have a narcissist in your life can be painful. They are self-centered, selfish, and take far more than they give. Your wants, needs, and feelings are rarely, if ever, taken into consideration. Statistically far more men than women are narcissists, approximately 50 to 75 of those diagnosed are men.
5 Signs You're Dealing With A Narcissist
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Appearance Is Everything
A narcissist is very focused on their looks, their clothes, and even the looks and clothes of those they surround themselves with. They are very jealous and envious individuals. The narcissist wants to always look good, be the center of attention, and to be admired.
They Are Braggarts
A narcissist is a name dropper. If they know or have met a celebrity, they make sure everyone is aware of this fact. They tend to have the most expensive clothes, shoes, cars, and jewelry they can afford, and love to share the cost of everything.
They Cannot Take Criticism
A narcissist can be very insensitive, self-serving, arrogant, and dismissive, but don't try telling them that. If they hurt your feelings, or treat you in an inconsiderate or unkind manner, they are more likely to gaslight you than they are to admit fault.
Its Always About Them
A narcissist always has time to talk about themselves, or celebrate their special occasions. Unfortunately when you need them, they cannot make time for you. If it is not about the narcissist, it is not of interest to them.
They Have A Sense Of Entitlement
In the mind of a narcissist, they are deserving of everything they want, regardless of whether or not they have earned it. They believe that they are special, and that they should always come first. The narcissist has an inflated sense of self, and often takes advantage of people.
The moral of the story is that you are not going to change a narcissist, but it is a diagnosable condition. Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is real, and treatable, but I do not recommend breaking your own heart trying to cure with love. The cause of NPD is not completely known, but genetics, environment, and early life experiences are believed to be contributing factors.
Do you have experience with narcissists? Did they get help and get better, or did you give up and move on? Please share your story or experience!
“Narcissists are consumed with maintaining a shallow false self to others. They're emotionally crippled souls that are addicted to attention. Because of this they use a multitude of games, in order to receive adoration. Sadly, they are the most ungodly of God's creations because they don't show remorse for their actions, take steps to make amends or have empathy for others. They are morally bankrupt.” - Shannon L. Alder
5 Benefits Of Dead Sea Mud Masks...My New Favorite Beauty Product!
I am not really one for trying new things. Once I find a product I like, I tend to be brand loyal and stick with what I know. Historically, I usually only change things up when a product is discontinued, hard to come by, or they change the formula, to my dismay.
I have been working on being more open to trying new things, and I was in the market for a new exfoliator and face mask. I started my research a few weeks ago to find just the right face mask for my skin type. I Googled of course, and then starting searching on Amazon.
After I narrowed my choice down to three face mask brands, I settled on New York Biology Dead Sea Mud Face Mask, which had great reviews.
I have been very fortunate most of my life when it comes to my skin. I never had acne as a teenager, but my skin does to run a bit more on the oily side, which helps when it comes to skin aging. I am in my forties, and while my skin is wrinkle free, I have started to notice larger pores and some loss of elasticity.
Although I have no desire to go back to my twenties, and I am very proud of my age, I still want to look good.
There are many benefits to using dead sea mud and I plan to reap all of the them.
5 Benefits Of Dead Sea Mud Mask
Brightens Skin
Reduces Pores
Removed Toxins From Skin
Improved Skin Elasticity
Treats And Prevents Acne
Once my Dead Sea Mud Mask arrived I was very eager to try it. I read the ingredients and was pleasantly surprised that I recognized all of the ingredients including Sunflower Oil, Shea Butter, Jojoba Oil, and Aloe Vera. The mask is charcoal colored, creamy and smooth in texture, and has a very light scent.
I followed the directions to apply a thin layer of mud to my clean face avoiding mouth and eye areas. After 10 minutes I used warm water to gently remove the mask, by using circular motions. I dried my face and moisturized with my favorite night cream, Resilience Lift Night by Estee Lauder.
It has been four weeks since I started using New York Biology Dead Sea Mud Mask, and I have noticed positive changes in my skin. After using the mask twice a week, my skin is brighter, softer, and my pores appear to be smaller. I highly recommend adding this mask to your beauty regimen. I am excited to see how my skin looks in another four weeks!
What are you using as part of beauty regimen? Do you have a favorite mask or exfoliator? Please share! - t
7 Signs He’s Definitely Interested In You...
We have all been there. It can be both exciting, and torturous all at the same time trying to figure out if a guy is interested in you romantically. You try to decipher if he likes you just as a friend, or if there is a possibility of more. His lack of confession may be confusing, and seem like he is playing games.
Take comfort that it is not always about playing games or being a player. Just like women, men want to protect their egos and their hearts too.
He wants to know how you feel before he puts himself out there. But as much as he may try to hide it, there are some definite signs that he has feelings for you, and is interested.
7 Signs He's Interested In You
The Way He Looks At You
A guy who is interested will lock eyes with you a lot. I call it the love gaze. He cannot help himself. And it's not just about the eye contact itself, but the look in his eyes. His desire for you, and his happiness to be in your presence is difficult for him to hide.
Check for dilated pupils. When someone is looking at someone they are interested in their pupils dilate.
The eyes truly are windows to the soul. An interested man's eyes will beam at you. Pay attention to the way he looks at you versus how he looks at everyone else. The difference will be obvious, even if he tries to mask it.
The Way He Remembers
When a man is interested he pays attention. He will remember your favorite food, your favorite color, and of course your birthday. He will even remember your allergies, and pet peeves if you have mentioned them. He wants to know everything about you. The more he knows about you, the better chance he will have of winning you over.
We tend to remember what we care about. Sure, he may just have a great memory, but we all data dump useless information. Your guys knows your likes and dislikes because you are important to him.
He Let’s You Vent
Guys generally dislike drama and long conversations, especially via text and over the phone. But if a guy is willing to let you vent to him, he may be a keeper. Not only does he let you vent, but he tries to come up with solutions for your problems, and to cheer you up. A fella doing all of this is probably already in love.
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The foundation of any good relationship is a strong friendship. A guy who is willing to listen to your frustrations, is a guy who is demonstrating that he can be there for you as a friend, and maybe more as well.
His Body Language
A guy's body language can tell you almost everything you want to know, without him having to say a word. He may show that he is nervous by being fidgety in your presence. Your guy's nervousness is because he cares about what you think of him. He may also be smiling really big, which is telling you that he is happy to see you.
Take a look at where he looks when something funny happens and you are in a group setting. Does he look to you first? If yes, he feels closest to you than any other person in the room.
Also notice where is feet are point in group setting. Is he facing your direction? His feet point towards where he wants to look. He want to keep you in his line of sight.
The Time and Effort He Gives You
We are all busy, and our time is valuable. So a guy who is willing to make time for you is showing you how important you are to him. Whether it is giving you a ride to the airport, or helping you with a school or work project, he is showing you that you mean something to him.
We make time for what is important to us. If he is interested, he will make the time and effort to see you. And if he is unable to see you, he will find a way to communicate with you to let you know you are on his mind.
He Asks About Your Day
This goes hand in hand with letting you vent. When a man asks you about your day, he is telling you he cares. He wants to know what is going on in your life, because he wants to be part of it.
Asking about your day is a big deal. He knows it can lead to a long conversation, and possible venting, and he's okay with that because you are a priority to him.
Your Gut Feeling
Even though we sometimes play coy or oblivious, we are usually aware deep down when someone is romantically interested. If he seems interested, then he probably is interested. You can either give him time to make his move, or you can take the lead.
Yes, guys can be confusing at times, and almost seem wishy washy. But just remember, just as you are trying to figure out how he feels about you, he is doing the same with you. Someone has to be willing to put themselves out there if anything is to ever happen.
Now you know the signs to look for in your crush. Is he interested? What are your thoughts? What other signs do you look for?
"The extreme form of passionate love is secret love." - Japanese Proverb
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Long Distance Love...The Dos And Don’ts Of Long Distance Relationships
You have found yourself in a relationship where you, and your love are miles apart. Maybe it started out that way, or life happened, and one of you moved for employment or education reasons.
Either way, you know that if this relationship is going to stand a chance, you are going to have to do things a little different to maintain your connection.
Let me just say that I do believe that a long distance relationship can work, but it takes commitment, a lot of patience, trust, and great communication. The success of a long distance relationship is based on the foundation of the relationship.
If the relationship had issues and was shaky before the distance, it will not likely last. But if the relationship was solid, well grounded, and both people envisioned a similar future together, then the relationship has a strong chance of survival.
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Do's Of Your Long Distance Relationship
Do Set Relationship Expectations/Goals
Do Set Ground Rules
Do Communicate Regularly
Do Visit Each Other
Do Know Each Other's Schedules
Do Facetime
Do Have Sexy/Flirty Phone Calls
Don'ts Of Long Distance Relationships
Don't Expect Perfection and Magic Every Time You See Each Other
Don't Look For A Place Holder While Apart From Your Love
Don't Be Dishonest With Each Other
Don't Make Bad Decisions On Nights With Friends
Don't Forget Why Your Love Is Important To You
Don't Drunk Call While Angry Or Upset
Don't Be Overly Needy Or Jealous
A long distance relationship will only work if those involved are independent, self-sufficient, and willing to work hard to maintain their relationship. Absence really can make the heart grow fonder.
Absence can also shed light on some relationship problems, and perhaps show you what is not meant to be. A strong relationship should be able to survive distance, whether it is for a semester, or a year long deployment.
I personally know that a long distance relationship can work, but I also know the struggle as well. I have had two long distance relationships. My first long distance relationship didn't work, and I think that was because we were young, and not as committed as we needed to be to make it work. Immaturity, a lack of trust, and jealousy wreaked havoc on the relationship.
The successful long distance relationship worked because there were lots of calls, love letters, and weekend visits to each other.
I am sure that many of you have experienced long distance love. I know people who have horror stories, and I also know some who were more in love and committed than ever before after reuniting, and being co-located. Moral of the story is that you both have to want it to work, but it also cannot be forced. What is your love distance relationship story? Please share your experience!
"I can bear the distance but cannot imagine a life without you. For you I will go through the distance and the heartaches. You are my one and only." - Montana Lee
5 Ways To Get Over Someone You’re Still In Love With...
You cringe at the thought of letting go and moving on. You want to fight to be with the one you love. Unfortunately, there comes a time in many relationships where we have to let go. The relationship is no longer fulfilling, or your other half just doesn’t love you anymore.
Sometimes the love is still there, but the relationship just doesn’t work and is not meant to be. Or maybe you have grown apart, or lack compatibility.
It's a possibility you were always the only one in love. The person you gave your heart was never available to you. They were never available emotionally or physically. Perhaps they belonged to another.
Whatever the circumstances, you recognize that it is time to move, heal your heart, and find your happy again. But where do you start?
Healing a broken heart can be a slow and painful process if you were truly in love. In all honesty, you may always love that someone just a little bit forever, but there are things you can do to help you move on.
5 Ways To Get Over Someone You’re In Love With...
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Get Busy
Get busy and stay busy. Finding things to do is a great distraction from your broken heart. I recommend joining clubs, lots of exercise, and starting a new hobby.
Not only will staying busy keep you from cyberstalking your ex, though I am sure you will a little or a lot in the beginning, you will also find some self-improvement happening.
As you start new hobbies, and work on that body, you will find that your confidence and self esteem grows. Plus your back on the market, and you want to be at your best.
Spend Time With Friends
Hanging out with your friends will be fun, relaxing, and another great distraction. A girl's night out, or a weekend trip may be just the prescription needed for an aching heart. Your pals can be great listeners and shoulders to cry on, but don't push it. They have heard it all already, and have been listening to your love woes for quite a while before you decided to call it quits.
Make A List
Make a list of all the reasons the relationship couldn't and didn't work. When you sit down to write your list think about all the things that annoyed you, made you feel bad about yourself, and hurt your feelings in your relationship. Was your love kind, honest, and trustworthy? Did you really have much in common? Was it an abusive relationship? Were they your forever person?
Break ups happen for a reason. One or both of you didn't want to be in the relationship any longer. Do not romanticize the relationship. Be honest about their faults, and about how the relationship made you feel.
Be Open
Dating after a difficult break up will be the most exciting, and scariest thing you will do. The good, and the bad thing, is that there are many ways to meet new people. It used to be that you would go to clubs and bars to meet someone. But with all of the online dating possibilities, you can learn a lot about a potential mate without leaving your home.
The important thing to remember is to be open. Chances are there is someone you already know, who's currently in your life in some capacity, who is your best potential mate. But regardless of whether or not you have met the "one" or if you have to toss a lot of fish back into the sea until you find just what you need, be open to the possibilities.
Give It Time
I know it sounds cliche, but it is true that time heals all wounds. When you are in the middle of heartbreak, you wonder was there something wrong with you. When will you start to feel like yourself again? How will you ever go on?
The answer is "you just do". One day at a time. Resist the urge to look at old pictures, old text messages, or anything else that reminds you of them.
Return any of their belongings you might have, especially your favorite article of clothing of theirs that you cannot stop smelling because it still has their scent on it. Let go.
We have all been there. No one escapes heartbreak in this life, even if you were the one to initiate the break-up. These 5 ways to get over someone you are still in love will work. Just be strong, be patient, and know that you are enough.
Do you relate to this blog? Have you ever broken up with someone you were still in love with? How did you get over them? How long did it take to move on and let go? Please share!
“Sometimes the hardest part isn’t letting go but rather learning to start over.” - Nicole Sobon