Betrayal By Your Partner...5 Questions To Ask Yourself Before Giving Them A Second Chance

Not everyone deserves a second chance. Some deeds are just unforgivable, and no one should feel obligated to forgive people who do them wrong. This is especially the case in romantic, intimate relationships.

Does choosing not to forgive someone who has hurt or betrayed make you a bad person? I say who cares. Will forgiving the betrayal give you closure or make the betrayal hurt less deep inside? Depends on you.

Whether or not you choose to forgive your mate or cut them from life, it is a completely different decision from giving them a second chance. If you are trying to decide whether or not to give someone a second chance ask yourself these questions.

5 Questions To Ask Before Giving Them A Second Chance

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Are They Owning Their Mistake?

In order to move forward and past a betrayal in a relationship, it is important for the partner at fault to own their actions and take responsibility. If your partner cannot or will not admit to their mistake, they are likely to repeat it.

Failure of a mate to take responsibility for their hurtful behaviors may be indicative of a lack of remorse for their actions, and lack of respect for their partner.

Are They Willing To Change?

If your partner has behaviors that contributed to their betrayal, whether it’s drinking or hanging out with bad influences, they need to be willing to change for second chances to be offered.

If your partner is unwilling to change they will repeat the same behaviors, or similar behaviors, and hurt you again.

Have They Made Promises Before?

Is this most recent betrayal a first? Or have they promised in the past to do better and be better? If your partner has repeatedly hurt and betrayed you in the past, only to say sorry, cry, beg forgiveness, and then do it all over again, they are not deserving of a second, third, and definitely not a fourth chance.

They have shown you they are not trustworthy or deserving of your love and commitment.

Do You Still Trust Them?

Trust is earned over time, but can be lost in a moments bad decision. In your heart of hearts, do you still trust your mate? If your partner has betrayed you, and you want to be able to forgive them and move on, but you no longer trust them, a second chance may not be in order.

A relationship without trust isn’t much of a relationship.

Do You Still Love Them?

Once a love betrays you, you will never see them the same again. After the betrayal, can you say that you still love them or would you be staying be out of obligation, fear of the unknown, or feeling you have already invested too much time to move on.

If you don’t feel love for them anymore, or even worse you resent or hate them, maybe it is time to move on.

Once a betrayal has been committed in your relationship, it is impossible not to see your partner differently. No one is entitled to be in your life, and you are not required to forgive them, although for your own emotional well being you will need to be able let go and move on.

Some couples are able to forgive and move on. Some will even say they are stronger after the betrayal, to which I say “if you say so”. Giving a betrayer a second chance is a very personal decision. It’s a decision that maybe others may not understand, but it’s your relationship so they don’t need to.

What are you thoughts on second chances and forgiving a betrayal? Please share your story and experience!

“For there to be betrayal, there would have to have been trust first.” - Suzanne Collins

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6 Signs Your Coworker Likes You (But Won’t Admit It)

Crushes aren’t just for teens, and why should they be. Crushes are sweet, and exciting no matter the age of those involved. Crushes can begin with a single interaction, or develop over time with day to day conversations or contact.

Relationships, love, and dating in the workplace can create complicated situations that are difficult to navigate. Before you make your feelings known to your office crush, you will want to be certain about how they feel about you. If they are crushing on you there are signs to look for.

6 Signs Your Co-Worker Is Crushing On You

Hangs Around Your Cubicle

When a co-worker is crushing on you they will find any reason to come to your desk. Their stapler is not working, they want to borrow a pen, or they have a question that really anyone could answer. Anything to engage with you and have your attention.

Brings You Coffee Or Gifts

Being thoughtful is their way of trying to win you over. An office mate who has feelings for you and is secretly crushing will bring you your favorite coffee in the morning, they will remember your birthday, and they will always try to be helpful to you in anyway they can.

Asks You To Lunch

Your co-worker just wants to spend time with you, preferably just the two of you, but they will make a group offer to grab lunch. They know that workplace romance is tricky and they don’t want to creep you out so they will try to make the lunch invites seem casual and friendly.

Always Next To You In Meetings

Somehow no matter who arrived first to the meeting, your crushing co-worker will end up next to you. If you think someone is crushing on you, pay attention to who they gravitate to when given the option of where to sit or stand.

Ask Questions About Your Life

Your crush will want to know if you’re single, or if you are in a relationship how things are going. They will asks about your weekend, trying to find out what you like to do and who you are spending time with.

When asking questions they are trying to learn everything they can about you and find their way in. They want to find a way into your life and into your heart.

Tries To Meet Up Outside Of Work

Much like trying to go lunch, your crush will want to hang out with you outside of work. Whether they are trying to talk you into going out for happy hour or attending the office holiday party, they are looking for any excuse to hang out.

Work crushes are natural, normal, and somewhat sweet. But one has to be careful when testing the waters of mutual interest or venturing into a workplace relationship.

What are your thoughts on work crushes? Is there a coworker you think may be crushing on you? Are you crushing on a coworker? How do you handle these situations both past and present? Please share thoughts and experience!

“Some crushes just never went away. They built, instead, into something permanent, obsessive and all consuming.” ― Maya Banks, Rush

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Is Your Relationship Moving Too Fast?...5 Signs You Don't Know Your Partner

New relationships feel amazing. New love is intoxicating. If I could bottle and sell the feelings evoked by new love I would be a billionaire. But like many things bottled, if cannot stay in there forever, and can become weaker and faint over time.

If you have been together for a short while, let’s say less than six months and you are ready to move in together and maybe even get married then you may be moving too fast. Here are the signs to look for if you or those close to you think you may need to slow things down.

5 Signs Your Relationship Is Moving Too Fast

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They Seem Almost Perfect

So let’s be clear, no one is perfect. If your new love seems perfect then they are either hiding their true character from you, or you are allowing yourself to be blinded by lust and emotions. You are in the romantic, can’t get enough of each other stages.

Relationships is the early stage feel the best because they are not based in reality and exist almost in a bubble. There’s no real history between the two of you. There is no turmoil, no frustrations. Just excitement and newness. Once the newness wears off, do you think you will truly know the person you are with?

You Don’t Know How They Handle Stress Or Difficult Situations

Life is stressful and the unexpected happens. In the early stages of relationships people will wear masks and put their best foot forward, however we all have a bad side. Some bad sides are worse than others.

Nothing will test a relationship and show you someone’s bad side, or best side for that matter, like dealing with professional stresses, financial issues, or emotional stress, crisis, or loss. If you don’t know how they handle life struggles firsthand, then you don’t know them.

You Don’t Feel Comfortable Discussing Certain Topics With Them

Topics like religion and politics are hot button issues for many people, but especially for people who do not know each other well and are not completely comfortable with each other

Do you know how your partner feels about recreational drug use, organized religion, or abortion? Whether you agree with each other or agree to disagree on the topics, you should know where they stand if you are planning a future together.

You Don’t Know Much About Their Past

They are so great, yet they’re single. Why did they get divorced or why have they never been married? Your partner’s past may give you somewhat valuable information about what you can expect in your future together.

Did they have domestic violence issues with an ex or jealous controlling tendencies? Are they a deadbeat dad or have they declared bankruptcy? If you cannot answer these questions with certainty you do not know your partner.

You Don’t Know Their Family

To understand someone you need to know where they come from and where they have been. Have you met their parents? What is their relationship like with their parents? Are they close? Is the relationship respectful? It matters for many reasons.

Will your relationship require approval of their family? What does your partner’s family have to say about their exes. Remember, if this person is going to be part of your future then their family will be your family as well. Get to know them.

At the end of the day we all have to decide what’s best for us. Love can make us foolish and you cannot tell a fool anything. I recommend you ask yourself what’s the rush? Is this your MO? Is this their MO?

Are you repeating a bad pattern of fast tracking a relationship only to be disappointed and let down in the end? If you want this relationship to work and be different, then do something different. Slow it down, take your time, and don’t let emotions rule you. You can be a romantic and smart about your heart too.

What are your thoughts on moving too fast in a relationship? Do you tend to take it slow or go head first into any relationship? Do you think there is a specific timeline that is appropriate for moving in or getting married? Please share your thoughts and experience!

“Moving too fast in a relationship is like putting delicate clothes in a hot dryer. Things will heat up fast but permanent damage will be done and it will be hard or possibly impossible to fix.” - Brian Zillnek

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A Lack Of Intimacy...Where Did It Go and Why Do You Miss It?

Intimacy is a must for a romantic relationship, but everyone has their own definition of what intimacy is. When your relationship began your partner made you feel a certain way and you felt that special way about them as well.

Your partner once made you feel wanted, sexy, loved, and safe, but at some point one or both of your feelings and actions towards one another faded away.

Did one of you become too comfortable in your relationship where you stopped caring about the others happiness or was it just laziness and taking your partner for granted? Perhaps a little bit of all of the above?

What Is Intimacy?

Intimacy can be defined as a closeness either by friendship or familiarity. While the basic definition is closeness, I know that sex and physical closeness comes to mind for me with the word intimacy. Here are some examples of intimacy.

• Being Physical Close

• Long Talks

• Comfortable Silence

• Touching

• Sex

Where Did The Intimacy Go?

At some point in your relationship the intimacy left. There are no more loving words, or sweet kisses, and no hand holding, no comfortable silence, and no sex. Though not always the case, when intimacy leaves so does romantic love, and even friendship.

You may find yourself asking what happened, and why aren’t you and your partner intimate anymore. Was it because you had children and your relationship dynamic changed?

Or did you allow yourselves to focus more on work and other things outside of your relationship and fail to make each other a priority? Or you just grow apart, into the people you were always meant to be?

No matter the reason, course correction is usually possible, if the desire is there. Relationships require maintenance and effort, and when you and your partner stop caring enough to make the effort the relationship is doomed.

Why Do You Miss Intimacy?

Although you may not feel attracted to your partner, or even love them anymore, you still have a desire for intimacy. It is natural to want to feel desired and loved, especially by someone with whom you once felt loved and desired by.

When our relationships lack intimacy we can feel incomplete and like there is something missing from our life. Intimacy in the relationship is how you connect with one another, and whether or not you are having sex, without true intimacy in your relationship you will not feel fulfilled or happy.

What are your thoughts on intimacy or the lack of in relationships? Do you think you could endure a relationship lacking in intimacy? Have you dealt with or are you dealing with this issue in a relationship now? What did you do? Please share your thoughts and experience!

“It is not time or opportunity that is to determine intimacy;—it is disposition alone. Seven years would be insufficient to make some people acquainted with each other, and seven days are more than enough for others.” ― Jane Austen, Sense and Sensibility

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The Difference Between Loving Someone and Being In Love With Them

Love is a beautiful thing, and there is so much to love in this life. Love keeps us going when life is hard and can give us a reason to get up in the morning, when we otherwise would just hide under the covers. Love is a basic human need. We want to give love and we want to receive love.

What is love? A simple question for such a complex emotion. Love is an intensely strong emotion, but there is a difference between loving someone and being in love.

Many people recognize and acknowledge that there is a difference between in love and being in love, but it can be hard to describe the unique different feelings.

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Loving Someone

You can love many people at one time. We love our family, our friends, and we even love our pets. To love someone is to care deeply for them. You care about their well being, you care about their happiness, and you want the best for them.

When you love someone, they are important to you in a non romantic way. You are not likely to feel passion or desire for a person you love but are not in love with. Loving someone is a choice. We choose to love our family and friends and to have them in our life.

Being In Love

When truly in love with someone that special person has a claim on your heart like no other. When in love with someone you care for their happiness and well being just like you do when you love someone, but there are also other feelings that comes with being in love.

When in love with someone not only do want to bring them joy and happiness, but they are also a primary source of your happiness and joy. Falling in love and being in love with someone can feel like an unstoppable force. It is not something you choose, it just happens.

Being in love with someone is an incredible emotional state. The state of being in love is not just about how you feel about them, but really more about how they make you feel. To see, touch, and taste the one you are in love with can bring about pure euphoria.

The Difference Between Love and Being In Love

Though the feelings of loving and being in love with someone are similar, they are profoundly different at the same time. In all honesty, while I am giving you a definition to distinguish the two, you will likely know the answer instinctively if you ever question love versus in love.

The word “love” is often used in such a cavalier manner that it sometimes seems to diminish the true meaning. Loving someone is a big deal. Being in love with someone is a big deal.

What are your thoughts on love and being in love? Have you ever felt confused or conflicted about your feelings for someone? Have ever fallen out of love with someone but continued to care for them deeply? Please share your thoughts and experience!

There's no changing your mind about whom you love. That's part of the tough thing about being in love - it's sort of undeniable. - Piper Perabo

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7 Signs He’s Fighting His Feelings For You

Love is a complicated thing. Or is it that we just make it complicated? Either way, the heart can seem like a fickle thing as we try to find our way to the right one.

Believe it or not, some guys are just not open to love. The thought of being in a relationship and in love scares some men. He may have been hurt in the past, or dreads the idea of being tied down. Whatever his reasons, he is guarding his heart, and fighting his feelings for you.

A man is only human, and bound to develops feelings when the right one enters his life. If there is a man in your life who you believe to have feelings for you, here are the 7 signs to look for. He may be very interested but hiding his feelings for you.

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7 Signs He’s Fighting His Feelings For You

Inconsistent Behavior

Some days he seems like he cannot get enough you, and other days you feel like he is ignoring you. When a guy is fighting feelings for you, his behavior can seem inconsistent and seem to be all over the place.

His feelings for you makes him want to stare at you, and spend time with you so he will give in to this desire occasionally.

Stares From A Distance

He’s giving off vibes that he’s not interested, but then you notice him staring at you from across the room. He will try to ignore you, and wants to be able to pretend that you are not there.

He may try to keep his distance from you, but if you are near, his eyes will find you.

Gets Close To You

When the two of you have to interact, he gets as close to you as possible. Although he may want to fight his feelings for you, when he gets the opportunity to be close to you he will take full advantage.

He wants to smell your hair, smell your perfume, and brush against you if possible.

Tries To Make You Jealous

He makes comments about other women in ways that feels like he is intentionally trying to make you jealous. He is almost like a child looking for a reaction. He is very frustrated, he’s confused, and he is conflicted about what he really wants.

He Knows Everything About You

It may not seem like he is listening or paying attention to you when you are talking to others but he is studying and learning everything about you. He is very interested.

He will also stalk your social media. He will be all over your Facebook and Instagram. He will even check out your Pinterest. This is a covert way for him to find out what you like, what you are doing, and who you are with.

Intense Mental and Physical Chemistry

Chemistry is a beautiful thing. In its simplest form it is just a connection with another person. You just click with someone. You feel an intense connection with him. He tries to hide his feelings, but he cannot help how drawn he feels to you.

He physically desires you, and the intensity of his feelings shows in his eyes when you catch him looking at you.

Body Language

A man’s body language will tell you a lot about how he is feeling about you, regardless of his attempts to hide his true feelings.

If you pay attention to his body language you will notice that he gives you lots of eye contact, he will mirroring your behavior, and gesture on appearance such as fixing tie, socks, or hair. He may also get fidgety, and plays with things such as buttons or a pen, and touch his face a lot out of nervousness.

Honestly, it is better for a man to fight his feelings for you if he is unsure what he wants, rather than string you along for months or years because he was not ready for a relationship.

What are your thoughts on handling a guy who is fighting his feelings for you? Do you make a move, give him time, or just ignore him and move on?

“I can love who I think you are, or you can allow yourself to be yourself so that I can love YOU.” ― Kate McGahan

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10 Communication Mistakes That Are Slowly Destroying Your Relationship

Do you know what the root cause of most relationship problems stem from? For many, the first thoughts that come to mind are finances or infidelity, which do cause relationships issues. But are cheating and financial disagreements the cause or the symptom of a bigger issue?

Good communication is key to maintaining a healthy relationship, but being able to communicate effectively with your partner is easier said than done. You can have disagreements and heated debates and still be communicating effectively.

In fact disagreements are healthy because it forces us to discuss our feelings and get everything out in the open.

Do not fool yourself into thinking that because you never disagree or argue with your partner that you have a healthy relationship because in fact, the experts would say that this is a not a sign of a thriving relationship, but of one lacking in trust, mutual respect, and authenticity.

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Poor or no communication in a relationship can cause a lot of stress, anxiety, resentment, and bad decisions to be made.

Do’s For Communicating With Your Partner

• Do Be Honest

• Do Listen Without Interrupting

• Do Be Receptive

• Do Be Kind

• Do Control Yourself

Don’ts For Communicating With Your Partner

• Don’t Yell

• Don’t Speak Disrespectfully

• Don’t Belittle

• Don’t Use Sarcasm

• Don’t Try To Control Their Response

When communicating with your partner you should always try to see their point of view, and focus less on proving your point. At the end of the day, no one wins if one of you is unhappy and feels unheard.

How you communicate with your partner can make or break your relationship. And break doesn’t necessarily mean breaking up. It just mean having a miserable partner who withdraws from you. Just remember that it’s okay to fight, but you need to fight fair.

What are your thoughts on communicating in a relationship? Do you agree with my do’s and don’ts? What would you add or remove from the list? Please share your thoughts and experience!

“To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others.” - Tony Robbins

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Here's Why You Should Never Outgrow Crushes and Falling In Love...10 Health Benefits Of Being In Love

Aging doesn’t have to mean the end of passion, love, and romance. Flirting, crushes, and new love isn’t just for teens. You really can find new love at any age. Aging gives you life experience, and hopefully wisdom, but you are never too old to be crazy in love.

If a death, a divorce, or the end to a long term relationship occurs, you may find yourself single again at just about any age or stage in life. For some, the thought of being single again seems scary and like the end of romantic companionship.

For others, they recognize the opportunity for new relationships and new beginnings.

While the thought of you, your parents or grandparents dating later in life sounds unfathomable, research shows that regardless of age, as human we often want love and companionship.

There are a few differences in what younger adults look for in a relationship, versus what older adults want in a relationship, according this Psychology Today article.

Younger adults want love, communication, trust, attraction, and compatibility. Older adults wants are slightly different with honesty, communication, companionship, respect, and positive attitude being their top five relationship priorities.

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Whether you are single and in your 30’s, or divorced or windowed in your 60’s, the desire for love, sex, romance, and companionship do not go away. Falling in love and being in love makes you happy, and happy people tend have healthier, better qualities of life.

10 Heath Benefits Of Falling In Love and Being In Love

• Less Likely To Suffer From Depression

• Lower Blood Pressure

• Better Stress Management/Less Stress

• Less Substance Abuse

• Sick Less Often

• Faster Recovery From Illness

• Less Pain

• Better Self Care

• Less Anxiety

• Longer Life Span

Who knew that romantic emotions had so many health benefits. The feeling of crushing on someone or falling in love makes you feel like you are floating. It is one of the best feelings, a feeling worth experiencing many times throughout our lives. So I guess when you think about how you feel when in love, you can see why it is hard to feel depressed, stressed, or unrelaxed.

What are your thoughts on love at any age? Do you have a story of unexpected love coming into your life? Do you find that as you age you become more open or more closed off to new relationships and love? Please share your story and experience!

“Love is ageless and colorless. It is a spiritual force that binds two hearts and two souls together as one.” - Ellen J. Barrier, The Price Wr Must Pay Our Father’s Sin

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Why Do They Stay? The Reasons People Say They Stay In Unhappy Relationships

When two people are in love and happy, staying in a marriage or relationship for eternity may not seem long enough. But what about when they are unhappy and no longer in love? Many people stay in unhappy, and unhealthy relationships, but why?

It is no secret that people stay in unhappy relationships for many different reasons. Some people feel trapped and try to plot their escape, while others seek counseling or spiritual guidance to make the relationship bearable.

Many children grow up in homes with parents who do not love each, and because of this they vow that they will never settle for such a relationship, and then life happens and cycles get repeated.

The older we get, the more people we know who are divorced, planning to leave their relationship, or are miserable but have their reasons for staying. After discussions with people in my life, and research on this topic, I found some answers as to why people stay in unhappy relationships.

Why She Stays In An Unhappy Relationship

For The Children

Ideally, children are raised in a healthy, two parent home, but for many reasons the two parent home is becoming less and less of the norm.

Being a single parent, and raising children on your own is hard. The thought of it is scary, so some women stay in a relationship with someone they are unhappy with because they believe it is ultimately what is best for the children and themselves.

Financial Reasons

Depending on where you live, everything is expensive. A woman may be miserable in a relationship, but if she is a stay at home mom, or a full time student who relies on her partner for financial support, she may stay. She may have no income of her own, little job experience, or large gaps in her employment history.

Personal Beliefs

There are still many people who believe marriage is forever, regardless of how unhappy they are, and do not consider divorce an option. A woman may also feel like a failure if her marriage doesn’t work, and possibly face negative consequences from her religious community if she divorces.

Fear Of Going It Alone

Some women are not independent and believe they need a man to be with them and take care of them. Their fear of being alone, or the thought of not being able to find someone else makes them feel extremely vulnerable.

Being on your own, especially after having a partner to rely on for years, can be frightening for some.

““There is no such thing as a “broken family.” Family is family, and is not determined by marriage certificates, divorce papers, and adoption documents. Families are made in the heart. The only time family becomes null is when those ties in the heart are cut. If you cut those ties, those people are not your family. If you make those ties, those people are your family. And if you hate those ties, those people will still be your family because whatever you hate will always be with you.” — C. Joybell C.”

Why He Stays

For The Children

Men will stay in an unhappy relationship for the children out of fear that if they break up or divorce they will lose access to their children. Times are changing , but historically when a couple divorced, the woman gained full physical custody of the children.

There is also the cost of child support that plays a role in him staying.

Cheaper To Keep Her

I honestly hate this saying, but I do get the real financial meaning behind it. Many of us know men who have had a seemingly good life, and a nice home, but then got a divorce. The wife had custody of the children and stayed in the family home, while he moved into a small apartment since that was all he could afford after paying spousal and child support.

Doesn’t Want To Start Over

Some men will stay in an unhappy relationship out of sheer laziness. I have heard men say they didn’t like their spouse and didn’t want to be married to them anymore, but they also didn’t want to have to do the dating thing, or get back out there on the single scene.

Men also have said they didn’t want the hassle of getting a divorce and splitting everything up.

There is no one way to find happiness again or turn around a bad relationship. Everyone in an unhappy relationship has their own reasons for staying, and for leaving. When children are involved, a lot extra care is needed. The reality is that your children will recognize your unhappiness, and they will be affected whether you choose to stay or leave.

What are your thoughts on staying in an unhappy relationship? Would you stay? Have you stayed? What would make you stay in an unhappy relationship? Please share your thoughts and experience!

“Divorce isn’t such a tragedy. A tragedy’s staying in an unhappy marriage, teaching your children the wrong things about love. Nobody ever died of divorce.” ― Jennifer Weiner

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6 Signs He's Hitting On You

Ok, so maybe you think that this topic is a no brainer. Maybe you are always certain when a guy is hitting on you, or when he is just being polite. In my experience, different men use different tactics to show their interest in a woman. For some men, they are not even aware of how their actions and behaviors change when they are flirting with a woman.

The dating game and the process of meeting someone and starting something new can feel like a game of cat and mouse. Everyone tries to read the other and plot their next move. This process can also be filled with uncertainty. Is he really interested in me? Is he hitting on me?

When a man is interested and hitting on you there are some sure signs of his intentions. You just need to know what to look for.

Signs He’s Hitting On You

He Gets Close

When a guy is hitting on you he will try to get as physically close to you as possible. I don’t mean in a gross, creepy kind of way. I mean he will want to be standing or sitting in close proximity to you. He wants you to be aware of presence.

He wants to be close enough to you to smell your perfume, stare into your eyes, and create some contact.

He Stares Into Your Eyes

Eye contact is a good way to establish a connection. Plus, when he is interested and flirting with you, he will want to stare into your eyes. The eyes send a strong message of interest or a lack of it. The amount of eye contact will depend on the personality of your guy.

A man who is more bold and aggressive may hold eye contact with you for a long time. While a guy is who is shy or unsure of your interest is more likely to make eye contact, look away, and then make eye contact again.

He Makes Lame Jokes

A man who is hitting on you will make attempts at being charming. One of the ways he will do this is by trying to be the funny man. When a guy is hitting on you he will try to show his cutesy, laid back side, which will include some jokes.

He knows that if he can get you to laugh, or at least smile, and he will have a shot.

He Lightly Touches You

He is hitting on you because he is attracted to you. And because he is attracted to you, he will want to touch you. He may lightly touch your arm, your hands, or even your lower back. He will use any excuse to try to make physical contact with you.

He is also looking for your reaction to his touch. If you retract from his touch he will know, or should know, that you are not interested. Whereas if he is close enough to you that your arms or legs brush one another, and you do not create space between you two, that you might be interested as well.

Offers To Help You

When a man is hitting on you he will try to be your knight in shining armor. He will offer to buy your drinks, carry things for you, help you move, and even do your work or homework. He wants to be there for you, and show you that he is a reliable, dependable gentleman.

If he is a co-worker he may bring you a coffee in the morning, offer to buy you lunch, and they will always want to help you with a work project.

Tries To Entice You

A man hitting on you will want you to feel just as attracted to him as he is to you. He wants to look hot for you. He will take extra care with his appearance. He may wear cologne, flex his muscles, and flash his pearly whites.

When you think about it, when a man is hitting on you he is usually pretty obvious. When in doubt, listen to gut, trust your instincts, and if all else fails refer to this blog for the signs a man is hitting on you.

What are your thoughts on the signs of a man hitting on you? Do you agree with my signs? What signs do you look for? Please share your thoughts and experience!

“The law of attraction says that like attracts like, and when you think and feel what you want to attract on the inside, the law will use people, circumstances and events to magnetize what you want.” - Rhonda Byrne

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