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6 Ways To Let Him Know You Want A Physical Relationship
Not everyone wants or needs to be in a relationship to feel happy or complete in their life. Relationships are nice if you are with the right person, but also overrated if you are thinking that the relationship alone will fulfill you and give you a lifetime of joy.
More and more women are focusing on their education and careers, and putting marriage and family on the back burner. Many women are also choosing not to have children at all, and to have partners rather than spouses.
Relationship or not, a woman will still crave sexual intimacy. But the question is how to go about finding the right guy for the no strings attached relationship? And once you find him, how do you let him know that’s what you want?
As far as how to pick the guy, I say it’s all about personal preference. It will need to be someone with whom you have a strong physical attraction with and good sexual chemistry.
Whether you are bold or timid when it comes to seeking a lover, doing the six things I lay out in this blog should let him know what you are seeking. Either he will be interested and will reciprocate with similar signals or he will make it clear he’s not feeling it.
If he seems uninterested keep it moving because there are plenty of men who would gladly take his place.
6 Ways To Let Him Know You Want A Physical Relationship
Flirt
Flirt your little heart out. Flirt with your words and flirt with your body. Your flirting can be playful and subtle, or direct and obvious. How you flirt will need to depend on the personality of the person you are flirting with and where you are at when you are doing the flirting.
How you flirt in a bar will be completely different than how you flirt at work or at a PTA meeting.
Touch Him
Touch him occasionally, but don’t get inappropriate or creep him out. He may have the nicest chest or butt you’ve seen it a long time, and you just want grab him so bad, but you will need to resist.
Your touches should be subtle. Light touches to his shoulder, his forearm, or his hand. His body will respond and not pull away if he likes your hand on him.
Get Physically Close
We all have what we consider our personal space surrounding us. And it tends to bother us when people break this invisible barrier, unless of course it is someone we like or want to be physical with.
Test the waters and get close to him. If he is attracted to you he will be more than aware of your physical closeness, but will not move away. If he creates a physical distance he may not be interested.
Sex It Up
When I say sex it up, I mean look your best to attract him, but don’t try to be something that you’re not and overdo it. Dress and act as sexy as you feel comfortable with. You do not want to make yourself uncomfortable or feel insecure. Confidence is sexy, and he will be drawn to that.
Eye Contact
Strong eye contact is sexy, and says so much more than words at times. When eye contact is made between you and the one who is meant to be your lover or more, you will know it. You will feel it everywhere.
Tell Him
“Do you wanna bang” would not be my choice of words, but hey this is your sex life. If you are going for straight up directness, and feel like your invitation will be well received then go for it. Tell him what you want in your own words.
It’s a personal choice, and every woman has her reasons for opting for lovers over boyfriends and husband. Maybe she has been burned in the past with a bad divorce or horrible breakup, or she just knows herself and accept that she’s not the relationship type. Either way, no one is owed an explanation.
“It was the wildness of it that got me going: the primal lust, the sheer needs of two people in heat, quickly finding ways to express their sacred hunger to each other in animal passion.” ― Fiona Thrust, Naked and Sexual
5 Signs You're In The Friend Zone and How To Escape It
The friend zone is the place no one ever wants to be. By definition, the friend zone only really applies if one of you wants more than a friendship, but the other person doesn’t see you romantically. The friend zone is heartbreaking, but most of us have been there.
Unfortunately, if you have found yourself in the friend zone and now you want out, you will have some work to do. Once you have been friend zoned it is hard to escape.
The first thing you need to do is recognize and accept that you are in the friend zone. The next step will be planning your escape.
5 Signs You’re In The Friend Zone
They Ask For Relationship Advice
If your friend complains to you about their relationships and sex life, and seeks your advice you are in the friend zone. When someone wants to be more than friends they will want you to know that they are available, so talking about other love interests is not usually something they will do.
They Talk About People They Are Dating Or Interested In
When someone is romantically interested in you they do not express interest in others. So if your friend discusses people they are dating, or openly comment on guys and girls they find attractive, then they only see you as a friend.
They Don’t Care How They Look Around You
When we are interested or trying to attract someone we take care in our appearance around them. If your friend is willing to let you see them without their hair done, no make up on, or in their lazy day clothes they are not trying to attract you.
They Ask For Help
We usually feel comfortable asking our buddies and friends for help and favors. The damsel in distress kind of helps with trying to draw someone in, but if they are always asking you for rides, to watch their dog, or to help them move, they likely view you as a friend, and not a romantic interest.
They Encourage You To Date or Try To Fix You Up
We want the best for our friends and want them to be happy. However, if someone is romantically interested in you, they will not want to see you with anyone but them. So if your friend is setting you up with people or encouraging you to date, then they do not see you as a potential mate.
How To Escape The Friend Zone
Escaping the friend is hard but not impossible. Here’s the thing though. In order to escape the friend zone you have to be willing to give up any potential romantic relationship with the one you are crushing on. It may come down to you admitting your feelings and getting rejected.
You Will Need To Be Less Available
One of the ways to escape the friend zone is to become less available. I’m not saying nice guys finish last, but old Mr. Reliable can easily get friend zoned. Show them you have a life outside of your friendship and make them miss you and desire your presence more.
Make Your Feelings Known
If you truly want out of the friend zone you will need to be brave and put your feelings out there. Either your feelings will be reciprocated or they won’t but either way, you can be free of the friend zone.
Start Dating
I know it seems counterintuitive to start dating when you are interested in some one. But if you want out of the friend zone you will need to show your love interest that you are able and willing to move on if they only want to be friends. Plus, somehow the fact that someone else wants you makes you more desirable.
So let’s be honest, the best thing to do is to not let yourself end up in the friend zone. If you thought your way In with the guy or girl you like was friendship, you were likely wrong.
Now don’t get me wrong, friendship is the most important foundation for a great relationship. But if you are already interested in them romantically but playing the buddy role, your plan will likely backfire. If they are not feeling you, or do not realize you like them in that way you will get pigeon holed in the friend zone.
What are your thoughts on the friend zone and escaping? How would you get out of the friend zone? Please share your thoughts and experience!
“The reality of life is this: some people will never really love you back no matter what you do.” - Unknown
6 Signs He’s Trying To Attract You
When a guy is interested in you and trying to attract you, he will behave a certain way to get your attention. It really is cute and quite sweet when you think about it. He may go about trying to attract you in a subtle way, or be blatant to test the waters to see if you are interested too.
Men and women use different tactics when trying to attract someone they are interested in. While women may seem obvious because they flip their hair, or laughs at a guy’s silly jokes to attract the guy they’re interested in, men are just as obvious if you know what signs to look for.
6 Signs He’s Trying to Attract You
He Dresses To Impress
If he knows that he is going to be seeing you he will go out of his ways to look his best for you. If he knows your favorite style or favorite color he will tailor his look to attract you.
He Talks Louder
He may not be talking to you, but he wants you to hear everything he is saying. He will try to sound as cool, smart, or as funny as possible. He wants you to be aware of his presence and he wants your attention.
His Body Language
A guy who is trying to attract you will have very open, positive body language towards you. His feet will be pointed towards you and he may also mirror your behavior and subconsciously groom himself.
Funny Man
When a guy is trying to attract you he will try to be funny and charming. He wants you to like him, and he recognizes that laughter is the way to make you feel relaxed around him and for him to endear himself to you.
Shares Your Interests
If a guy is interested in you he will do his homework. He will find out everything he can about you, especially your likes, your dislikes, and your hobbies.
Your interests and hobbies are his way in. If he knows you’re into cycling he will learn all he can about cycling or even take it up himself, so he can talk about it with you and create commonality and bond.
Eye Contact
When a guy is trying to attract you he will first off start by making a lot of eye contact. He will look deep into your eyes and try to make a deep connection. As he gazes at you he will try to hold your gaze to make sure you know that he is interested.
You should now know the signs when a guy is trying to attract you. If you are interested in him as well, tell him so or at least let your body language do the talking. Hopefully he will find the courage to make a move.
Can you tell when a guy is trying to attract you? What are your thoughts on the signs that he is trying to win you over? Please share your thoughts and experience!
“You see in all my life I’ve never found what I couldn’t resist, what I couldn’t turn down. I could walk away from anyone I ever knew, but I can’t walk away from you.” - Billy Joel, Shameless (Performed by Garth Brooks)
6 Signs He's Not The One...So Stop Wasting Your Time
You really want this relationship to work. You don’t want to be single again because you think it is hard out there, and you are not going back to that. So you have laser focus on making things work out with the guy you are currently dating or in a relationship with. There is just one problem. He is not the one and you know it deep down.
I am a determined woman too, so I get believing in yourself. You should believe in yourself and that you can accomplish just about anything if you put your mind to it. But I think making a relationship work with the wrong person may be too much even for you.
At some point in a relationship you realize it’s not working, but are not quite sure why that is. The reasons are obvious, usually in hindsight. You will save yourself some time and a lot of heartache by recognizing early on that he is not the one.
6 Signs He’s Not The One
You Are Hoping He Will Change
He is immature, unfocused, or flat out kind of jerky but there is hope right? Well at least you are hopeful that with time and your influence he will get better. You should be looking for a partner, not a project.
He is who he is, and if you cannot accept him for who he is and want him to change, then he is not the one for you.
You Don’t Like A Lot Of Things About Him
You don’t like his friends, his family, his hobbies, his taste in music, and the list could serious go on and on. This is still about making him a project. Do not lower your standards or pretend to be someone you are not for the sake of not being alone.
Being with someone you do not love or even like, will make you feel lonelier than you have ever felt before.
You Don’t Have A Lot In Common
You do not like the same things, but hey who does right? He’s cute, all your friends are married, and you’re not getting any younger so let’s make this happen. Sound familiar?
You do not have to be mirror images of each or have the exact same tastes, but common interests and hobbies are very important to long term happiness.
You Cannot Be Yourself With Him
You have to pretend with him, and tolerate behavior you secretly disapprove of. You bite you tongue to avoid rocking the boat. He likes to see you all dolled up, but you prefer little to no make up and jeans and comfy clothes.
If you cannot truly be yourself with your partner then you are with the wrong person and will not be happy in the long run. By pretending, you are not being true to yourself or the relationship.
You Make Excuses For Him
Your friends and family recognize that he is not right you and they are not fans. You constantly find yourself justifying and defending his behavior and attitude.
The problem is that you feel the same way your family and friends do deep down. Otherwise you would tell them to respect your man and your relationship and to stay out of your relationship. But you don’t because you agree with them to some degree.
It Feels Hard
The early stages of a relationship should feel effortless, without the need for masks and pretenses. As the relationship progresses, more work and compromise will be needed to maintain but it shouldn’t feel hard. The relationship should not feel like a struggle to just maintain it.
The truth is that not every relationship is worth fighting for. If you are not feeling fulfilled and happy by your relationship it may be time to stop wasting your time. It may be time to move on no matter how much time you have invested in the relationship. Know when to cut your loses and get back in the market.
Do you agree with the signs that he’s not the one? What are your thoughts on when it’s time to let go? Please share your thoughts and experience!
“...unrequited love does not die; it's only beaten down to a secret place where it hides, curled and wounded. For some unfortunates, it turns bitter and mean, and those who come after pay the price for the hurt done by the one who came before.” ― Elle Newmark, The Book of Unholy Mischief
Psychological Abuse...5 Signs You Need To Recognize
It is no secret that many people think that our society has too many “weak” people. Perhaps they are right, but that is a deep dive is for another blog. What I do know is that people often try to justify their nasty behavior by calling the other person weak.
Not that what was done or said was cruel or hurtful, but if you weren’t such a big baby I could mistreat or insult you without consequences.
I agree that it seems people are offended by everything these day. But sometimes individuals can be downright cruel or abusive, and do not want to own their crap so they gaslight. It’s you, not me. You made say those horrible things to you.
You made me betray you and treat you poorly. They take zero ownership of their own bad behavior.
Psychological abuse is basically emotional abuse. Psychological abuse is a form of abuse, characterized by a person subjecting or exposing another person to behavior that may result in psychological trauma, including anxiety, chronic depression, or post-traumatic stress disorder.
Psychological and emotional abuse can happen in just about any relationship, but it most often occurs in our closest relationships with those we trust and should be safe with.
5 Signs Of Psychological Abuse
Shaming
An emotional abuser will make you feel ashamed of your body, your looks, your intelligence, and even your parenting skills. They put you down and shame to make you work harder to please them.
Like a narcissist, the psychological abuser enjoys making you jump through hoops to try and please them, only to make you feel like a failure when you do not live up to their unrealistic demands.
Blaming
Emotional abusers are great at blame shifting. They will blame their abusive behavior on work stresses, alcohol, and especially you. They will not take responsibility for their actions.
The psychological abuser is also a notorious gaslighter, and will somehow turn every bad decision they make into being your fault.
Controlling
Emotional abusers are controlling. They want to make all the decision, and control all the money, and to control the relationship. The more control they have in the relationship, then the more power they have over you.
The psychological abuser will make you question your ability to make decisions on your own. They convince you that you need them and that without them you would be a complete failure. They “remind” you that you cannot make it on your own.
Isolating
Isolation is a common tactic for an emotional abuser. By limiting contact with people outside the relationship, the abuser is able to make their partner more mentally and emotionally dependent on them. They don’t like your family and friends and convince you that they are bad for your relationship.
Mood Swings
Emotional abusers moods are unpredictable. One moment they are happy and light hearted and the next they are sullen and angry. You have to walk on eggshells with this person because you never know when their mood will turn.
You will find the relationship both mentally and physically draining, but you do not want to give up. You so desperately want the Prince Charming you fell in love with to return. The problem is that he was never Prince Charming. It was just an act to win you over.
Psychological abuse is just as damaging as physical abuse, the only difference is that it leaves invisible scars. No relationship, and no one, man or woman is worth tolerating any type of abuse.
Since psychological abuse is often invisible to others, victims often feel alone, and convince themselves that because they are not being physically hurt that it is not that bad.
Victims of abuse are not alone, and there are many people and organizations available to help. If you or someone you know is the victim of physical, sexual, or psychological abuse please contact Live Your Dream or RAINN for help.
What are your thoughts on psychological abuse? Do you agree with the signs? Please share your thoughts or experience!
“If you alter your behavior because you are frightened of how your partner will react, you are being abused.” ― Sandra Horley
5 Signs Of Emotional Blackmail...A Manipulation Tactic
Emotional blackmail is something that happens between a manipulative or abusive person and a victim. It is often described as threats and punishments that are meant to control another person's behavior, while not escalating to physical violence.
Unhealthy relationships often have emotional blackmail used by one or both people in the relationship. Emotional blackmail is a manipulation tactic used to control someone you have a close relationship with. It is done by both men and woman.
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Relationships with emotional blackmail are mentally and emotionally draining. It is important to know the signs of this unhealthy relationship so you can address it, end it, or stop doing it if you are the culprit.
5 Signs Of Emotional Blackmail
Withholding Sex
It’s one thing to be not in the mood, but it’s another thing to use the withholding of sex in your relationship to punish your partner or get your own way. Withholding sex to manipulate your partner into doing what you want them to do is emotional blackmail, and signs of an unhealthy relationship.
The Silent Treatment
Healthy relationships need communication. So refusing to talk to your partner or respond to calls or text as a tactic to punish is counterproductive, and also childish and petty.
It’s one thing to tell your partner to give you some space because you are upset, and do not want to discuss an issue while upset. It is another thing to just cut off all communication and completely ignore your partner.
Threatens To Leave Relationship
When someone in the relationship constantly drops the D word or threatens to break up because they are upset or angry they are being manipulative, and using the threat of leaving to make their partner comply.
Someone who threatens to end the relationship whenever they are angry or not getting their way is someone who is not ready or capable of having a healthy relationship.
If they want to leave, let them go.
Threatens To Withhold Access To Your Children
Unfortunately, children are often used as pawns when relationships sour. The threat of not being able to see your children is often used to keep people in bad and unhappy relationships.
Threats to keep children away from a parent, not because the parent is unfit, but in order to control the other parent is manipulative, selfish, and the act of a bad parent.
Guilt Trips
Your partner is sometimes in the wrong, but they never own their faults, and often place the blame on you. And then they make you feel guilty for even trying to bring up your concerns or issues. They gaslight you constantly, and make you feel bad anytime you call them on their crap.
They should offer frequent flyer miles for all the guilt trips they take you on, but instead all you get are mind games.
We all like to get our own way, but there are healthy ways to go about making it happen. In a healthy relationship you will need to compromise, which will mean that you will not have your way all of the time.
What are your thoughts on emotional blackmail in relationship? Do any of these signs resonate with you? Please share your thoughts and experience!
“I've been doing this a long time- manipulating people to get my way. That's why you think you love me. Because I've broken you down and built you back up to believe it. It wasn't an accident. Once you leave this behind..... you'll see that. -Caleb” ― CJ Roberts, Seduced In The Dark
April Book Club Recommendations
If you are like me you love a good book. I read all of the time, but tend to stick to one or two genres and authors. A great way to find new authors and be exposed to literature you would have never considered is by joining a traditional bookclub, or signing up for a book of the month club.
If you are already in a bookclub, but looking for some suggestions I am here to help. Or if you are just trying to figure out what to read next I think I have some great choices for you. I have read a couple of the below books, and plan to read the rest before summer.
Not sure if I will love them all, but that's the beauty of reading a book. You never know what you are going to get, or how it is going to end.
April Book Club Recommendations
The Priory Of The Orange Tree
The Silent Patient
A Place For Us
Becoming
Nine Perfect Strangers
Never Tell
The Priory Of The Orange Tree - Samanthan Shannon
The House of Berethnet has ruled Inys for a thousand years. Still unwed, Queen Sabran the Ninth must conceive a daughter to protect her realm from destruction--but assassins are getting closer to her door.
Ead Duryan is an outsider at court. Though she has risen to the position of lady-in-waiting, she is loyal to a hidden society of mages. Ead keeps a watchful eye on Sabran, secretly protecting her with forbidden magic.
Across the dark sea, Tané has trained all her life to be a dragonrider, but is forced to make a choice that could see her life unravel.
Meanwhile, the divided East and West refuse to parley, and forces of chaos are rising from their sleep.
The Silent Patient - Alex Michaelides
Alicia Berenson’s life is seemingly perfect. A famous painter married to an in-demand fashion photographer, she lives in a grand house with big windows overlooking a park in one of London’s most desirable areas. One evening her husband Gabriel returns home late from a fashion shoot, and Alicia shoots him five times in the face, and then never speaks another word.
Alicia’s refusal to talk, or give any kind of explanation, turns a domestic tragedy into something far grander, a mystery that captures the public imagination and casts Alicia into notoriety. The price of her art skyrockets, and she, the silent patient, is hidden away from the tabloids and spotlight at the Grove, a secure forensic unit in North London.
Theo Faber is a criminal psychotherapist who has waited a long time for the opportunity to work with Alicia. His determination to get her to talk and unravel the mystery of why she shot her husband takes him down a twisting path into his own motivations―a search for the truth that threatens to consume him....
A Place For Us - Fatima Farheen Mirza
As an Indian wedding gathers a family back together, parents Rafiq and Layla must reckon with the choices their children have made. There is Hadia: their headstrong, eldest daughter, whose marriage is a match of love and not tradition. Huda, the middle child, determined to follow in her sister’s footsteps. And lastly, their estranged son, Amar, who returns to the family fold for the first time in three years to take his place as brother of the bride. What secrets and betrayals have caused this close-knit family to fracture? Can Amar find his way back to the people who know and love him best?
A Place for Us takes us back to the beginning of this family’s life: from the bonds that bring them together, to the differences that pull them apart. All the joy and struggle of family life is here, from Rafiq and Layla’s own arrival in America from India, to the years in which their children—each in their own way—tread between two cultures, seeking to find their place in the world, as well as a path home.
Becoming - Michelle Obama
In a life filled with meaning and accomplishment, Michelle Obama has emerged as one of the most iconic and compelling women of our era. As First Lady of the United States of America—the first African American to serve in that role—she helped create the most welcoming and inclusive White House in history, while also establishing herself as a powerful advocate for women and girls in the U.S. and around the world, dramatically changing the ways that families pursue healthier and more active lives, and standing with her husband as he led America through some of its most harrowing moments. Along the way, she showed us a few dance moves, crushed Carpool Karaoke, and raised two down-to-earth daughters under an unforgiving media glare.
In her memoir, a work of deep reflection and mesmerizing storytelling, Michelle Obama invites readers into her world, chronicling the experiences that have shaped her—from her childhood on the South Side of Chicago to her years as an executive balancing the demands of motherhood and work, to her time spent at the world’s most famous address. With unerring honesty and lively wit, she describes her triumphs and her disappointments, both public and private, telling her full story as she has lived it—in her own words and on her own terms. Warm, wise, and revelatory, Becoming is the deeply personal reckoning of a woman of soul and substance who has steadily defied expectations—and whose story inspires us to do the same.
Nine Perfect Strangers - Liane Moriarty
Nine people gather at a remote health resort. Some are here to lose weight, some are here to get a reboot on life, some are here for reasons they can’t even admit to themselves. Amidst all of the luxury and pampering, the mindfulness and meditation, they know these ten days might involve some real work. But none of them could imagine just how challenging the next ten days are going to be.
Frances Welty, the formerly best-selling romantic novelist, arrives at Tranquillum House nursing a bad back, a broken heart, and an exquisitely painful paper cut. She’s immediately intrigued by her fellow guests. Most of them don’t look to be in need of a health resort at all. But the person that intrigues her most is the strange and charismatic owner/director of Tranquillum House. Could this person really have the answers Frances didn’t even know she was seeking? Should Frances put aside her doubts and immerse herself in everything Tranquillum House has to offer – or should she run while she still can?
It’s not long before every guest at Tranquillum House is asking exactly the same question.
Never Tell - Lisa Gardner
A man is dead, shot three times in his home office. But his computer has been shot twelve times, and when the cops arrive, his pregnant wife is holding the gun.
D. D. Warren arrives on the scene and recognizes the woman--Evie Carter--from a case many years back. Evie's father was killed in a shooting that was ruled an accident. But for D.D., two coincidental murders is too many.
Flora Dane sees the murder of Conrad Carter on the TV news and immediately knows his face. She remembers a night when she was still a victim--a hostage--and her captor knew this man. Overcome with guilt that she never tracked him down, Flora is now determined to learn the truth of Conrad's murder.
But D.D. and Flora are about to discover that in this case the truth is a devilishly elusive thing. As layer by layer they peel away the half-truths and outright lies, they wonder: How many secrets can one family have?
Mirroring Behavior…What Is It and What Does It Tell You About Him?
Mirroring is the behavior in which one person subconsciously imitates the gestures, speech pattern, or attitude of another. Mirroring often occurs in social situations, particularly in the company of close friends or family.
The concept often affects other individuals' notions about the individual that is exhibiting mirroring behaviors, which can lead to the individual building rapport with others. - Wikipedia
Why Does He Mirror You?
We often mirror other people to create a connection or when we have a strong attraction. When a man is mirroring you, he is likely unaware that he is even doing it.
But if you find that when you and certain men interact that they mirror your body language and words, it means that he is likely interested in you romantically, or at the very least he is attracted to you.
Signs Of Mirroring
Words
The mirroring of words is common. When we are around certain people often we start to pick up their speech habits. Whether someone is a friend or a lover, we mimic their words because we feel close to them or want to be closer to them.
If a man is mirroring your words it means he feels close to you or wants to be closer to you. His mirroring of your words may indicate a romantic interest in you, or be indicative of how important you are to him. Either way, word mimicking is indicative of his feelings for you.
Body Language
Body language is our non-verbal form of communication that often says more than words at times. Mirroring body language is most often done subconsciously. The mirror may come in the form of crossing or uncrossing of arms and legs, but it can also be smiling, tilting of the head, and leaning in while talking.
A man will mirror the body language of a woman he is watching or interacting with if he is interested or attracted to her. A common trick to use if you want to know if someone is watching you is to check your watch or yawn.
If they have been watching you, they will subconsciously mirror your behaviors and check their watch or yawn as well.
Demeanor
Your demeanor is your outward behavior and how you carry yourself. How we behave and carry ourselves is often affected by our mood. A person’s demeanor can also be mirrored.
Whether you are feeling happy, sad or angry, if someone is feeling so connected to you that they mirror you, they may also start to mirror your moods and take on your demeanor.
The psychology behind mirroring behavior is pretty simple. Mirroring usually increases rapport and liking from the other person. We want to be liked, especially by certain people. When mirrored, we often have positive feeling for the other person.
So when you consider the fact that the mirroring is occurring because someone wants to create a bond with you or that they like you, mirroring behavior is effective. As long as the mirroring is not weird, literally copying behavior, and creeping people out.
What are your thoughts on mirroring behavior? Do you notice it often? Please share your thoughts and experience!
“Your eyes will contradict your words if your words contradict your thoughts and feelings.” ― Sam Owen, 500 Relationships And Life Quotes: Bite-Sized Advice For Busy People
5 Reasons Why You're Bad At Love
Some people are just bad at love. You love the idea of love, but cannot seem to ever get it right. Is that just who you are? Maybe. Are you destined to be alone or just float from relationship to relationship? Possibly. But it is also possible that you get wrong because you are not ready or make a series of bad choices.
Being bad at love doesn’t have to be a permanent situation. We all grow and change with time. If you want to find lasting love and have healthy relationships, you will need to identify why your other relationships didn’t work. You are bad at love for a reason.
5 Reasons Why You’re Bad At Love
Immature
You are not emotionally mature enough to have a healthy relationship. It takes maturity to respect differences of opinion, and to respect boundaries in a relationship. Relationships can be challenging at times, and being able to communicate calmly, openly, and respectfully is a must.
Had Bad Examples Growing Up
Whether you grew up in a broken home, or with two parents who didn’t love or respect one another, you did not have good examples of healthy relationships. If growing up you didn’t see healthy, loving relationships in your home or in your life, it can be challenging, though not impossible, to know what it takes to have good relationships.
Choose The Wrong People
You choose the wrong people. You choose partners based on looks, status, for how great they are on paper, and for how good you two look together. Instead, you should be choosing partners by your commonality, chemistry, and shared life goals, values, and interests.
You’re Selfish
Relationships are about sharing and compromise. Your priority is you, and you have trouble ever putting someone else first. To be a selfish or a giving person is a conscious choice. Of all the signs, this is the easiest to control and to change.
Your Genetic Makeup
This may surprise you but some people are genetically programmed to be bad at love. Scientists have found that your genes determine how well your body regulates oxytocin, which controls our behaviors, our ability to love, and how attached we become to others.
Your genes also determine your ability to be an emotionally supportive partner, which is a must for a long lasting relationship.
Your past doesn’t dictate your future. Just because you have a history of being bad at love does not mean it will always be that way. Know the signs, take your time, and choose your mate wisely. If you want it, you can have an amazing relationship.
What are your thoughts? Do you agree with the 5 signs? Are you bad at love? Please share your thoughts and experience!
“I loved myself and since I loved me, I loved him because I realized he was good for me. A type of self worth, a type of narcissistic love.” ― Dominic Riccitello
5 Signs He Likes You Based On His Texts
We communicate in so many different ways now. Communication is no longer just about face to face chats or phone calls. Social media and texting has taken the place of our typical way of communicating.
Unlike in-person interactions, where we are able to read facial expressions and body language, texting removes this layer of contact.
I believe that a huge sign that someone is really into you, is that there is a big difference between the person you text with, and the person you talk to in person. I think you will often find that the more contradicting the behaviors are, the greater their feelings are for you.
If you can joke and flirt through text, and completely be your most authentic self, but when you are face to face, your interactions are almost opposite, that means some serious feelings are there. He is afraid to show you how he really feels, but he had been telling by text. You just need to know the signs.
Signs He Likes You Based On Text
He Initiate Contacts
Guys do not like to text much or spend a lot of time on phones in general. When a guy initiates contact with you out of the blue it is because you are on his mind, and he craves interaction with you.
So, if a guy is making an effort to reach out to you via text, it probably means he likes you.
He Responds Fast
We all have that friend that takes foorrrever to respond to a text, but when a guy is interested in you and you text him, he will respond right away. He responds quickly because he is excited to hear from you.
Studies have found that when we get a text message from someone we like or have feelings for, we will respond right away and type faster than usual.
He Keeps The Conversation Going
If a guy likes you, he will want to talk, text, and interact with you as much as possible for as long as possible. While texting with him you may feel that the conversation is winding down, but he keeps it going by introducing new topics. He doesn’t want it to end.
He Asks Questions About You
He wants to know everything about you. He asks about your family, your childhood, and wants to know all your likes and dislikes. He is trying to find some commonality between the two of you, and shared interests. The more he knows about you, the easier it will be for him to win you over.
He Gets Flirty
He is very flirty through text. His flirting may consist of sexual innuendos, which makes his intentions a bit more obvious. But his flirting can also be sweet, or cute with funny and silly emojis. Men are not big on emojis.
If a guy is sending emojis with hearts or kissey faces, he is trying to be cute and he wants you to know he’s interested.
Text messaging is one of the typical ways we communicate today. If you are unsure if the guy you are texting with is interested, these signs should help you recognize his feelings. What are your thoughts? Do you agree with the signs? Please share your thoughts and experience!
“In the bottom of my heart lies a secret which I have never told a soul in the world. There is an image of this person who is dearest to me and closer than anything else.” - Melanie Rock