6 Signs He's Hitting On You

Ok, so maybe you think that this topic is a no brainer. Maybe you are always certain when a guy is hitting on you, or when he is just being polite. In my experience, different men use different tactics to show their interest in a woman. For some men, they are not even aware of how their actions and behaviors change when they are flirting with a woman.

The dating game and the process of meeting someone and starting something new can feel like a game of cat and mouse. Everyone tries to read the other and plot their next move. This process can also be filled with uncertainty. Is he really interested in me? Is he hitting on me?

When a man is interested and hitting on you there are some sure signs of his intentions. You just need to know what to look for.

Signs He’s Hitting On You

He Gets Close

When a guy is hitting on you he will try to get as physically close to you as possible. I don’t mean in a gross, creepy kind of way. I mean he will want to be standing or sitting in close proximity to you. He wants you to be aware of presence.

He wants to be close enough to you to smell your perfume, stare into your eyes, and create some contact.

He Stares Into Your Eyes

Eye contact is a good way to establish a connection. Plus, when he is interested and flirting with you, he will want to stare into your eyes. The eyes send a strong message of interest or a lack of it. The amount of eye contact will depend on the personality of your guy.

A man who is more bold and aggressive may hold eye contact with you for a long time. While a guy is who is shy or unsure of your interest is more likely to make eye contact, look away, and then make eye contact again.

He Makes Lame Jokes

A man who is hitting on you will make attempts at being charming. One of the ways he will do this is by trying to be the funny man. When a guy is hitting on you he will try to show his cutesy, laid back side, which will include some jokes.

He knows that if he can get you to laugh, or at least smile, and he will have a shot.

He Lightly Touches You

He is hitting on you because he is attracted to you. And because he is attracted to you, he will want to touch you. He may lightly touch your arm, your hands, or even your lower back. He will use any excuse to try to make physical contact with you.

He is also looking for your reaction to his touch. If you retract from his touch he will know, or should know, that you are not interested. Whereas if he is close enough to you that your arms or legs brush one another, and you do not create space between you two, that you might be interested as well.

Offers To Help You

When a man is hitting on you he will try to be your knight in shining armor. He will offer to buy your drinks, carry things for you, help you move, and even do your work or homework. He wants to be there for you, and show you that he is a reliable, dependable gentleman.

If he is a co-worker he may bring you a coffee in the morning, offer to buy you lunch, and they will always want to help you with a work project.

Tries To Entice You

A man hitting on you will want you to feel just as attracted to him as he is to you. He wants to look hot for you. He will take extra care with his appearance. He may wear cologne, flex his muscles, and flash his pearly whites.

When you think about it, when a man is hitting on you he is usually pretty obvious. When in doubt, listen to gut, trust your instincts, and if all else fails refer to this blog for the signs a man is hitting on you.

What are your thoughts on the signs of a man hitting on you? Do you agree with my signs? What signs do you look for? Please share your thoughts and experience!

“The law of attraction says that like attracts like, and when you think and feel what you want to attract on the inside, the law will use people, circumstances and events to magnetize what you want.” - Rhonda Byrne

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6 Signs He’s In Love With Someone Else

Whether you are in a new relationship or have been in a long term relationship, feelings for one another may change. Perhaps you started dating and he wasn’t quite over his ex, or you have been together for a while and suspect that he is in love with someone else.

It can suck to even think about the possibility that your man is in love with another, especially if you have been together for some time and saw a future together.

Here’s the thing, his feelings for this other woman will not miraculously go away so you need to address it with him. If you have that feeling that his heart belongs to someone else, here are the signs to look for.

Signs He’s In Love With Someone Else

He Can’t Stop Talking About Her

When we are in love with someone that person is never far from our mind. When someone is on your mind their name tends to come out of your mouth a lot.

Whether she is the neighbor, a co-worker, or a friend of a friend, if your man is always talking about a particular woman he likely has feelings for her.

Has A Look In His Eyes When He Mentions Her

When the other woman's name comes up, do you see your man’s eyes change? The mere thought of her will make him giddy and happy, and the feelings will show in his eyes.

You will likely recognize this look as to how he used to look at you when you were first falling in love.

Suddenly Stops Talking About Her

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If your man was mentioning a certain woman all of the time and then suddenly stops saying her name it may be indicative of him having feelings for her. He has just wised up and realized that he was bringing her up too much, and him talking about her all the time was making you suspicious.

So now he never says her name anymore, but she is still there, often in his thoughts.

His Moods Depends On Her

On days when he has interacted with her he is happy, excited, and oddly more loving with you. But when he doesn’t see or interact with her he is grouchy, moody, and easily annoyed by you.

When he is missing her or feeling resentful that he cannot be with her, his mood and behavior will reflect his thoughts and heart.

He Wants You To Be More Like Her

Suddenly everything you do, say, eat, or wear is up for scrutiny and comparison. You may start to notice him suggesting different clothes, perfume, hair styles, and even new bedroom tricks for you.

If he is in love with another woman, but in a relationship with you, he may try to turn you into a version of her.

Your Gut Is Telling You

Deep inside we know when a guy is crazy in love with us, and we also know when he is falling out of love with us. If your man is in love with someone else, you will feel it. Horrible, I know.

The thought that your man or the guy you are in love with is in love with someone else is painful. But isn’t it better to know and be able to deal with it or move on? Or would you rather not know, and hope that his feelings the for the other woman is just a faze?

Either way, I think your man loving another woman is a hard reality that will eventually need to be faced. You deserve better than playing second fiddle to anyone else.

What are your thoughts on the signs that a man is in love with someone else? Have you eve been in this situation? Please share your thoughts and experience.

“The only thing more unthinkable than leaving was staying; the only thing more impossible than staying was leaving. I didn't want to destroy anything or anybody. I just wanted to slip quietly out the back door, without causing any fuss or consequences, and then not stop running until I reached Greenland.” ― Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat, Pray, Love

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5 Reasons To Take It Slow With A New Relationship

New romance and love feels incredible. There is no denying that we can feel an indescribable happiness and joy when when we are starting a new relationship and falling in love. Love makes us feel like we are floating on air.

With so much incredible happiness and joy, can come feelings of wanting it to never end, and thoughts of speeding things along to solidify your relationship. You may see this man or woman as your forever person, even though you have only been dating for a few month.

Despite the urges you may have to move in together, put a ring on it, or start having babies, here are a few reasons to take it slow.

Reasons To Take It Slow

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Enjoy The Newness

There is no feeling like new love. The giddiness and excitement of seeing each other and being together is a feeling that cannot be replicated. You will find that if you start rushing things, the feelings of new love and excitement will quickly leave, and be replaced with your typical relationship issues all too soon.

Feel Comfortable

While the early stages of a relationship are filled with butterflies and new feelings, you may also find that you are filled with some anxiety and self consciousness.

If you allow your relationship to slowly grow and unfold over time, you will find that you start to feel more comfortable around your love, and more comfortable being your true self.

No Pressure

When relationships are new and growing, there is a certain amount of pressure we put on ourselves to be interesting and fun, and everything we think they want us to be. But if you allow your relationship the time it needs to flourish, you will not feel pressured to make sure they stick around because you will know where you stand with them.

Learn About Each Other

There is no doubt that many people wear masks when first meeting people. We put our best “face” forward when starting a new relationship. Not to say that people are necessarily fake, but no one is perfect, and we do not want to show what might be considered as our bad side.

More Likely To Last

Studies show that relationships that take it slow in the beginning and allow things to develop organically over time are likely to last longer. I think the reasons above are why slow growing relationships tend to last.

You cannot have a truly loving and committed relationship if you do not know them and they do not know who you really are.

Some will argue that when you know you know, and there is no reason to wait to start your life together. But I say if they are the one, waiting a little longer to move in together, get pregnant, or getting married will not change what is meant to be.

What are your thoughts on taking things slow with a new relationship?

“But new love only lasts so long, and then you crash back into the real people you are, and from as high as we were, it's a very long fall, and we hit the ground with a thud.” ― Marya Hornbacher, Madness: A Bipolar Life

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4 Signs He's Stringing You Along Without Really Committing

You may or may not have heard the term breadcrumbing. Breadcrumbing is more commonly known as stringing along. Stringing another person along is a cruel and selfish act often found in faux relationships.

Faux relationships are just what you think they are. They are fake. Faux relationship are not real, at least to one of the people in the relationship.

The term breadcrumbing means to offer a little bit of attention and affection here and there to keep someone coming back, without giving them what they really want. In the case of relationships, you may want someone’s love, time, or a commitment, and they offer just enough of themselves to make you think there is hope of a future together.

In order to breadcrumb someone, the breadcrumber may hang out with their target occasionally, and give a booty call here or there, making them hope there is more to the faux relationship. All the while they are keeping them as a backup plan.

If you are unsure if someone is breadcrumbing you, this blog will help you recognize the signs

4 Signs Of Breadcrumbing

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Ghosts You A Lot

When someone is breadcrumbing they tend to drop in and out of your life a lot. They will go long periods of time without seeing you, texting you, and responding to your call or texts.

Won’t Define Relationship

You have no idea if you are lovers, a couple, or just friends. When you ask them how they feel about you, or try to get them to define your relationship, they dodge the question.

Won’t Let You End It

You realize that they never have any intentions of committing to you or formalizing your relationship in any way so you pull away. You cut off contact with them, and start seeing other people and moving on. Just when you are fine with letting them go, here they come wooing you once again.

Caring Then Distant

Once they realize they are losing you, and that your feelings may be changing, they start to give you all the affection and attention you had been craving. They sucker you back in. Once they think they have you back, they suddenly they become distant or disappear again.

Breadcrumbers are selfish, insecure people who will string you along for as long as you allow it. They count on you falling for their manipulations. But remember this, a breadcrumber actually needs you more than you need them. You are a security blanket and a back up plan for them.

They are sad people, but don’t allow them to use you and take advantage of your heart for their own selfish purposes.

What are your thoughts on breadcrumbers? Do you have experience with stringing someone along on being strung along by someone? Please share your thoughts and experience!

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How To Spot A Liar: 15 Signs Someone Is Lying (In Person And Over Text)

I really dislike the word liar, but let's be honest, don’t we all tell the occasional lie? No one wants to be labeled a liar, but most people do not tell the truth all the time. Sure, the motivation for lying may vary from dishonest compliments with the purpose of not hurting someone’s feelings, to self-serving statements to elevate an individual’s status. But a lie is a lie.

Studies have found that most people lie in everyday conversation. No one should be lying and no one wants to be lied to, but there is a big difference between the harmless “white lie”, and the lie meant to deceive, manipulate, or control. It comes down to intent. Ironically, many people lie about never lying.

Some of us are more observant than others at reading people and can tell when we are being lied to, or when someone is lying a little or a lot. Being a human lie detector is a very useful skill that requires attention to detail, a great memory, and the ability to read body language.

If you are not a bonafide human lie detector, here are some tips to help you figure out when someone is lying.

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Signs Someone Is Lying In Person

• Avoids Eye Contact

• Eyes Shift Frequently

• Body Is Still, With Little Hand Movement

• Voice May Get Higher In Pitch

• Voice and Body Language Do Not Match

• Seems Nervous

• Clears Throat and Swallows A Lot

• Talks Very Fast or Really Slow

• Starts To Groom Self

Signs Someone Is Lying Through Text

• Over-Explains

• Too Much Detail and Unnecessary Info

• Delayed Responses To Texts

• Text Bubble Starts and Stops A Lot

• Avoids Direct Responses To Certain Questions

• Changes Subject Without Really Answering Questions

• Texting “Voice” Seems Different

If you think someone is lying to you then they probably are. Especially if this is someone you know fairly well, and have had many encounters with them. Trust your gut. Liars have a tell, you just need to pay attention and you will hear them loud and clear.

We are all imperfect humans, who lie occasionally to avoid hurting someone’s feeling, admitting fault, and to save face. It happens. But there is a difference between lying to spare someone pain, and being a self-serving coward who is uses lies to avoid responsibility, avoid difficult conversations, and to use and abuse people.

“I'm not upset that you lied to me, I'm upset that from now on I can't believe you.” ― Friedrich Nietzsch

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Should You Get Back With Your Ex? 10 Questions to Ask Before Trying Again

If you're considering getting back with an ex, the most important question isn't 'Do I still love them?' It's 'Has anything actually changed? Time and distance apart from someone can offer clarity. Unfortunately, time can also distort our memories and amplify reality. The farther we get from situations, the worse they may seem, and the more we minimize the significance of certain events.

It can be tricky when deciding if you should give a previous relationship another go and get back with an ex. There is nothing wrong with considering another go with a former love.

Maybe the timing wasn’t right for either of you at the time, but things have changed, and you have changed.

In making your decision on whether or not to try again with an ex, you have some things to consider.

5 Reasons You Should Get Back With Your Ex

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The Reason You Broke Up Is No Longer An issue

Whether you broke up because of distance or just being too busy with creating a career or life for yourself, your life is now different. You are now living in the same city, and your education and career are where you want them to be.

You Have Changed

You have realized that you are a different person, and don’t want the same things you used to. You broke up because he wanted to get married and settle down, and you didn’t want that life. You didn’t think you would ever want that life, but you have grown and changed and want to settle down now, preferably with him.

You Realized You Made A Mistake

You had unreasonable expectation for relationships and thought you could find better. You realized he was a wonderful man, and you blew it with your immaturity. No one is perfect and there is no such as Prince Charming. Recognizing he is a good man who truly loved you is a strong reason to consider getting back with an ex.

You Still Love Him

It’s not only that you still love him, but you are comparing every new guy to him. You cannot get over him, and miss him terribly. If your break up was amicable and in your heart and mind it never felt truly over, then you have a good reason to give it another try.

He Was The One

Being with him felt a little too perfect, and it scared you. Now that you have had time apart from your ex, and perhaps dated a few others, you come to a realization that he may have been the one. You two had something special, and the chemistry and passion you experienced with him cannot be replicated.

5 Reasons Not To Get back With Your Ex

You Don’t Think You Can Do Better

Low self-esteem can wreak havoc on our lives, and often makes people settle for relationships that are less than what they deserve because they do not think they can do any better. If your ex was lazy, rude, or abusive, trust me, you can do better.

You Are Lonely

We all feel lonely from time to time, whether we are in a relationship or not. However, loneliness is not a reason to be in a relationship where you don’t feel valued, respected, or happy. Don’t let fear and moments of weakness be a determining factor in getting back with someone.

Pregnancy Or Children Together

Being with someone just because you have a child together is a bad idea. If you love them and want to be with them then that is one thing, but forcing a relationship because you are pregnant is not a reason to push a relationship that did not work. Learn how to co-parent together, and leave the romance out of it.

You Hate Being Single

You have never been good at dating and meeting new people. In fact, you hate it. On days when you feel lonely, it may seem easier to just go back to what was familiar and comfortable. On those days remind yourself of all the reasons why it ended with your ex.

You Feel Pressured To Get Back With Them

Whether it’s your ex, or family and friends interfering, you should not let others opinions pressure you into being in a relationship you don’t want. No one knows what goes on behind closed doors, and what really happens between to people in a relationship when no one else is around.

You know why you do not want to be with your ex, and really shouldn’t have to explain your reasons to anyone.

You now have five reasons for and against getting back with your ex. Weigh the pros and cons and make the decision that makes the most sense to you and leads you down a path of happiness.

What are you thoughts on getting back with ex? Do you think once a relationship has ended that it can be rekindled and better the second time around? Please share your thoughts and experience!

“Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something: they're trying to find someone who's going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take.” -Anthony Robbins

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The Psychology of Dating the Same Type of Person

Do you ever feel like you keep dating the same type of guy—even though the relationships always seem to end the same way? Many of us develop patterns in who we're attracted to, often without realizing it. In this blog, we'll discuss five signs you're repeating a dating pattern, why it happens, and how becoming more aware of your "type" can help you make healthier relationship choices.

Break ups are tough, and after each one we swear to ourselves we are never doing that again. We will never go for that type of guy ever again. Makes sense, right? Your last relationship didn’t work out, and you were left heartbroken.

You are not swearing off men altogether, but you promise yourself the next guy will be completely different than guys from your past.

You promised yourself things would be different in your next relationship, but at some point it started to feel like Groundhog Day. It feels as if you are having the same relationships over and over again. But why, you ask yourself? He seemed different, but was he really?

Believe it or not, we all have a type. And try as we might, we are just innately drawn to certain people. When we try to venture into a relationship with someone out of the norm it just doesn’t feel right. Something feels off.

You can force the relationship of course, and hope for a different outcome, but it will not necessarily be better, just different.

5 Signs He’s Your Type

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Strong Physical Attraction

You know he’s your type when you find yourself extremely attracted to him. Whether your type is tall, with green eyes, and black wavy hair, or bald with caramel skin and an amazing ass, there is a man whose looks makes you go weak in the knees.

Amazing Chemistry

Chemistry is just off the charts with some people, and is especially amazing with guys who are your type. Chemistry happens naturally between two people. Romantic chemistry is an intense connection you will feel with the right person.

You Get Each Other

Maybe you’re a little weird or quirky, and he’s a standoffish and introverted but it doesn’t matter because you both just get each other. What others find odd or annoying, you two find endearing and cute. You get the same jokes and have the same sense of humor. You can communicate with just a look.

Just Feels Right

We can try to be open and get out of our comfort zone to date others who are not really our type, but something will always feel off. When we our true to ourselves and date our type we feel more at ease and happier in the relationship. Being with your type feels like “home”. It feels like you are where you belong.

Unexplainable Pull To Each Other

The reality is that we are just more compatible with some people than others. We find some people more attractive than others on both physical and mental levels. In many ways it’s unexplainable why we like who we like, and who we are drawn to. It’s unexplainable, but the feeling is everything.

As people, we evolve and change, and so does our taste and the types we are attracted to, to some degree. If you had a thing for bad boys in your teens, you may still like men who have a little bit of a rebel in them, but you can also want someone reliable and mature.

Recognizing your patterns isn't about blaming yourself—it's about understanding yourself so you can make choices that support the kind of relationship you truly want.

What are your thoughts on having a type? Has the type of men you go for evolved over time or stayed the same? Are you trying to change the type of men you go for? Please share your thoughts and experience!

“I get so breathless, when you call my name. I've often wondered, do you feel the same? There's a chemistry, energy, a synchronicity, when we're all alone.” ― Corinne Bailey Rae

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Why You Don't Trust Him: 5 Signs and What They Really Mean

Trust, or lack there of can make or break a relationship. Trust has to be earned, and once lost it is very difficult to get it back. Once you start to distrust your partner, your relationship starts to feel off as you wait with impending doom. You see them differently and interact with him differently.

Your lack of trust for your man may be due to a past betrayal on his part, your own personal insecurities, or just a gut feeling. If you are dating or married to a liar or a cheater then you expect to play detective to some degree throughout the life of your relationship.

Be mindful if you are allowing past relationships or insecurities to create distrust of your man. That is not fair to him.

5 Signs You Don’t Trust Him

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You Check His Phone

The minute he heads to the shower or falls asleep you are trying to get a peek at his phone. His phone is never far from him, so your suspicion that he is hiding something is always there.

If you are snooping on your man’s phone when he is not around, that is a big violation of his privacy, but also indicative that you do not trust him.

You Get Clingy

You feel uneasy when apart from him. You worry what he is doing and who he’s with when away from you. So you become super clingy, wanting to be with him all the time. Unfortunately this is a turn off and usual backfires making him want to spend more time away from you.

You Interrogate

You are always trying to verify his stories and catch him in a lie. You directly or subtly ask him questions about where he’s been, where he’s going, and who was he talking to. If you truly trust him, you will not feel the need to know his every move.

But if you do not trust him you will feel paranoid about what he’s doing behind your back.

You Analyze

You are always looking for clues and evidence of betrayal. Every word that comes out of his mouth is scrutinized. You note his every move expecting to, but also hoping not to, catch him in a lie.

It is always there just under the surface, which makes it hard sometimes to enjoy your time together.

You Check His Social Media

You are snooping on his Facebook account. You check to see who he has direct messaged on Instagram, and you want to know whose pictures he is liking. All signs that you don’t trust him.

It is an awful feeling to be with someone you do not trust, and just as terrible a feeling to not be trusted. If you are doing the behaviors listed in this blog, you need to ask yourself why, and then deal with it. Either you have trust issues that you need to work out, or you are with the wrong person.

One More Thing To Consider: Your Attachment Style

Is it possible your distrust in your partner is rooted in your attachment style? Is it possible that you are anxiously attached? An anxious attachment style is an insecure relationship pattern rooted in a deep fear of rejection or abandonment. People with this style intensely crave emotional intimacy, yet constantly worry that their partners do not care enough or will leave them, leading to a frequent need for validation and reassurance. This attachment style can also create distrust and lead to looking for or creating issus when none exist.

Have you noticed a pattern in your relationship or is the trust issues just coming up in this one. I’m saying to gaslight yourself and ignore red flags, but it is importnt to recognize when you’re sabotaging relationships because of your insecurities and fear of abandonment.

So where do you go from here? What do you do when you are having trust issues in your relationship? Do you agree with the signs of you not trusting him? Please share your thoughts and feelings on lack of trust in a relationship!

“Distrust is like a vicious fire that keeps going and going; even put out, it will reignite itself, devouring the good with the bad, and still feeding on empty.”  ― Anthony Liccione

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6 Signs He’s a Player: How to Spot the Red Flags Before You Get Hurt

Players…no matter your age group there are players out there on the hunt. Some men are not interested in having a committed relationship. It may be just who he is or he has been hurt or betrayed in the past and is in self preservation mode.

Regardless of his reasons for being a player, it is not okay for him to string a woman along and not be honest about his intentions.

A player likes to have women at his beck and call. He wants them when it’s convenient for him. No one wants to be led on or toyed with. If you do not want to get played, you need to know the signs of a player.

6 Signs He’s A player

Smooth Talker

Players are very charming when you first meet them. They always know just what to say to pull you in. Players are flirty wordsmiths, who know how to make you feel good about yourself in the beginning and crave their attention.

Very Confident

Confidence is sexy, but players are confident to the point of arrogance. Players are very sure of themselves, sure of their words, and sure that they can get can just about any girl they set their sights on.

He will brag and let you know how wonderful he is, and let you know how lucky you are to be with him.

No Meeting His Friends

A player will not introduce just any chick to his friends, or family, for that matter. Since a player is just using you for sex and something to do, he will not want you meeting important people in his life.

If you do meet his friends, they will often act strange around you. His friends will act as if there is a big secret or joke that you are not in on.

Non-Committal

You need a date to one of your friends from college wedding. He is the only guy you have been seeing but he tells you he probably won’t be able to make it. In fact, anytime you ask him to accompany you to something he is always busy or has some excuse.

He’s Secretive

A player likes to string multiple women along at any given time. When you are with him he may receive lots of text and do a lot of texting. He is very careful with his phone, ensuring you do not see who he is texting with.

He also has very strict rules about you going to his place. He will rarely have you over, but when he does you are on the clock and are not allowed to leave anything behind.

Prioritizes Sex

A player loves a booty call so watch out. He does not often, if ever, take you out for a meal or a date. He will go days or weeks without any contact, but then you will get an out of the blue text, usually late at night saying he wants to “meet” up.

There is nothing wrong with having a casual relationship with no commitment, as long as both parties are aware that the relationship is casual and is not going anywhere. That’s the problem with players. They want everything from you while giving you so little in return.

What is your experience with players? Do you think players ever change? Please share your thoughts and experience!

“Dear Players: Go ahead and play your deceitful little games- lying and manipulating women to get laid-because that’s the only way you can get them interested. Maybe you will have a different perspective when you’re wiping the tears off your daughter’s face…because she dated a man like you. - Charles J. Orlando

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How to Tell Him You're Ready For A Sexual Relationship

Not everyone wants or needs to be in a relationship to feel happy or complete in their life. Relationships are nice if you are with the right person, but also overrated if you are thinking that the relationship alone will fulfill you and give you a lifetime of joy.

More and more women are focusing on their education and careers, and putting marriage and family on the back burner. Many women are also choosing not to have children at all, and to have partners rather than spouses.

Relationship or not, a woman will still crave sexual intimacy. But the question is how to go about finding the right guy for the no strings attached relationship? And once you find him, how do you let him know that’s what you want?

As far as how to pick the guy, I say it’s all about personal preference. It will need to be someone with whom you have a strong physical attraction with and good sexual chemistry.

Whether you are bold or timid when it comes to seeking a lover, doing the six things I lay out in this blog should let him know what you are seeking. Either he will be interested and will reciprocate with similar signals or he will make it clear he’s not feeling it.

If he seems uninterested keep it moving because there are plenty of men who would gladly take his place.

6 Ways To Let Him Know You Want A Physical Relationship

Flirt

Flirt your little heart out. Flirt with your words and flirt with your body. Your flirting can be playful and subtle, or direct and obvious. How you flirt will need to depend on the personality of the person you are flirting with and where you are at when you are doing the flirting.

How you flirt in a bar will be completely different than how you flirt at work or at a PTA meeting.

Touch Him

Touch him occasionally, but don’t get inappropriate or creep him out. He may have the nicest chest or butt you’ve seen it a long time, and you just want grab him so bad, but you will need to resist.

Your touches should be subtle. Light touches to his shoulder, his forearm, or his hand. His body will respond and not pull away if he likes your hand on him.

Get Physically Close

We all have what we consider our personal space surrounding us. And it tends to bother us when people break this invisible barrier, unless of course it is someone we like or want to be physical with.

Test the waters and get close to him. If he is attracted to you he will be more than aware of your physical closeness, but will not move away. If he creates a physical distance he may not be interested.

Sex It Up

When I say sex it up, I mean look your best to attract him, but don’t try to be something that you’re not and overdo it. Dress and act as sexy as you feel comfortable with. You do not want to make yourself uncomfortable or feel insecure. Confidence is sexy, and he will be drawn to that.

Eye Contact

Strong eye contact is sexy, and says so much more than words at times. When eye contact is made between you and the one who is meant to be your lover or more, you will know it. You will feel it everywhere.

Tell Him

“Do you wanna bang” would not be my choice of words, but hey this is your sex life. If you are going for straight up directness, and feel like your invitation will be well received then go for it. Tell him what you want in your own words.

It’s a personal choice, and every woman has her reasons for opting for lovers over boyfriends and husband. Maybe she has been burned in the past with a bad divorce or horrible breakup, or she just knows herself and accept that she’s not the relationship type. Either way, no one is owed an explanation.

“It was the wildness of it that got me going: the primal lust, the sheer needs of two people in heat, quickly finding ways to express their sacred hunger to each other in animal passion.” ― Fiona Thrust, Naked and Sexual

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