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The Pros & Cons of Dating a Foreigner - Guest Post
While online dating is quite popular for searching your prospective match among the locals, the most suggestive part of it is the fact that you can find a partner from any part of the world. Some dream of finding a sweet girlfriend from Japan, while others dream of marrying a Ukrainian woman. But where the idea of multicultural bonds is coming from? Does it originate from the mere possibility to date a foreigner?
There is a belief that multicultural bonds are stronger. According to certain researches, interracial and multicultural couples are 59% more likely to stay together than their counterparts that belong to one culture and one race. So, is the multicultural or interracial bond is the best option for you? In many respects – yes. Does that mean that this type of relationship doesn't have any disadvantages? Unfortunately, no. Like everything in this world, multicultural bonds have their pros and cons. If you consider dating a foreigner, we offer you to check out our list of pros and cons of such relationships.
Pros
Broadening Your Outlook
When you communicate with your foreign partner you get to understand a lot of things about a different culture. You will see that people of different cultures have as much in common as that which divides them. You will learn all the peculiarities of your partner's culture, and you can give them the knowledge about your culture. Exchanging knowledge will help you to broaden your outlook. While you can say that you can get the same from watching films and reading books, having a real-life example is way more interesting.
You Won't Be Having Boring Conversations
Thanks to the fact that you have a lot of cultural differences that you are quite unlikely that you are going to have boring conversations. You will figure out which traditions you have in common, and which traditions are absolutely different. You will discuss the origins of your cultural peculiarities.
You Will Have an Exciting Romance
The relationship with people of your culture can sometimes be unpredictable, which gives the required level of thrill to keep your relationship exciting. But a relationship with a foreigner is way more exciting thanks to its unpredictability.
Cons
Language Barrier
Generally, only one of you knows the language of the other. But even if you both know each other's language, you will end up experiencing certain problems with understanding each other. There are certain things that only a native speaker can understand, thus there are going to be certain phrases that can be misinterpreted. So, you need to be ready to explain even some common phrases to your partner and be ready to listen to their explanation of something that may seem offensive to you.
Mentality Difference
Speaking about all the cultural peculiarities, you need to understand that a different culture almost always means a different mentality. Depending on the country of origin your foreign partner may be extremely calm or short-tempered. While sometimes it is hard to take, you need to understand that the fact that your partner may spiral pretty easily because of his culture.
Respect is the Key
Respecting each other is the key to a successful multicultural relationship. Probably the reason why multicultural bonds last longer lies in the fact that partners are working hard on their relationship, coming a long way to respect each other's cultural peculiarities and differences.
How To Determine Relationship Compatibility
Finding the right mate, or the “one” can feel like a daunting task to say the least. If you have been in the dating scene for a while, or have had several or many relationships over the years, you may be wondering why the relationships don’t work out.
As the old saying goes, “you will have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince”. While I do agree with the overall concept that you may need to meet a lot of different men to find the right one, I don’t think you will necessary need to date, kiss, or sleep with them all to find out if they are the right one, unless of course you want to.
Compatibility can be determined pretty early on and good conversation will usually help you figure it out.
How To Determine Compatibility
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Ask Questions
There are many questions you need answers to if you really want to determine compatibility. All questions do not need to be asked and answered on a first date, but over time you definitely need to peel back the onion and find out where they stand on some really big issues, but also some smaller issues as well.
You will want to know about their thoughts on marriage and family. Do they expect their spouse to work or stay home. Do they want kids? How many and how far into the relationship? Where do they ultimately want to live and retire? And the big one is their relationship with money. Are they a spender or a saver? And of course what role will religion play in your lives and the lives of your children.
Do Things Together
Ideally you meet your mate while participating in an activity you are both very interested in, but if you don’t you will want to find common interests. If you love to read, it may not be a requirement but it is nice to have a partner who also enjoys reading and discussing books they have read.
If you are a very intellectual, critical thinker, you will not be compatible with someone you might describe as not very smart, and you definitely won’t be able to respect them.
If you are into fitness or the outdoors, you will want to try out these activities together. While you do not have to work out together, being able to enjoy activities together that interest you both will keep you bonded.
Meet Family and Friends
People from similar backgrounds tend to be more compatible. Of course, different upbringings doesn’t necessarily need to be a deal breaker, but it does make relatability and the understanding of points of view more challenging. Similar upbringings also plays a big role in how you view marriage, family, and especially how to raise children.
It is important to be open minded but also realistic in choosing a partner from a different background.
Kiss/Sleep Together
Physical attraction and sexual compatibility are extremely important to a relationship. I am not encouraging anyone to sleep around, and I understand that for some this is a moral issue, but ask yourself how many things do you purchase without sampling? If you knew you couldn’t return something would you still buy it?
Well, I look at selecting a partner the same way. Sexual compatibility is very important. For long term happiness and fulfillment you want to have an enjoyable sex life, and if you didn’t know what you were getting into, you were taking a gamble that may or may not pay off.
In all honesty, you can force and make just about any relationship work if you are determined to. But if you want to be happy and fulfilled for the long run you will want to be with someone you are truly compatible with.
We are who we are, and while we change some over the years, we also stay very much the same, so hoping someone will change and become more of who you want them to be is wishful thinking. It is better to choose someone you are compatible with, than to try to change someone to fit your mental, emotional, and sexual needs.
What are your thoughts on compatibility? How important do you think it is to relationship longevity and happiness? Please share your thoughts and experience!
“Research shows that couples who have a lot of similarities, including intellectual compatibility, end up staying together.” - Helen Fisher
Why He Wants To Be Dominated By You
Domination is about control, and when you allow yourself to be dominated you give up some of your control. Even the control freak likes to occasionally be the passenger and not the driver.
Some men like to be dominated, if only for a little while. He wants to be submissive behind closed doors, in the home, or perhaps just in the bedroom, but regardless of the location, he wants you to take over and dominate him.
The strongest, most confident of men often enjoy domination the most, and you may be asking yourself why, but after reading this blog it will make total sense. Here’s why he wants to be dominated.
5 Reasons Why He Wants To Be Dominated By You
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Relieves Stress
Domination is not always about sex. Domination is often about mental and emotional releases. The role play, the pain, and even the verbal domination can have an almost soothing and calming affect on a man who wants to be dominated.
Wants To Be Vulnerable
Men do not often feel comfortable being vulnerable. But in a safe setting, and with the right woman he can allow himself to be vulnerable, even if just under the guise of domination.
It Turns Him On
Yes, sometimes domination is a fetish. Some men are masochist and enjoy a mixture of pain and pleasure. The domination can be verbal words of abuse, physical pain, or consist of punishments.
Every couple has to explore and find their comfort level to make their own rules of play.
He’s Powerful
Being the one always in charge is exhausting. While he may be the one in charge in the boardroom or office, he may want you to take charge at home or in the bedroom.
He knows that he is powerful, but giving up some of that control to you in the bedroom, and not knowing what you will do to him excites him.
He Respects You
Most men are not just going to give up his power and control and be vulnerable with just anyone. But with with right woman, a woman he sees as his equal, he can be okay with letting her dominate him. Strong, confident men love strong, confident women.
The role of dominatrix is not for everyone, but just as he enjoys giving up his control for a time, you may also enjoy being in complete control of him occasionally.
Domination and role play is not for every man, at least not every man is willing to admit it. So now that you understand the why, are you game for a little dominating? You and you partner make the rules. And don’t forget your safe word…LOL
Now I want to hear from you. What are your thoughts on dominating him? Please share your thoughts and experience!
8 Signs of Sexual Tension and What To Do About It
Sexual tension exists when two people are physically attracted to one another, want to be physical with each other, but hold back for one reason or another.
Sexual tension is most often found in groups of friends or in the workplace. It can develop out of almost nowhere. One day you are buddies and the next your heart races when you look at each other and you start to see them differently.
You may not be sure if your friend is feeling the pull that you are but when sexual tension exists there will be signs.
8 Signs Of Sexual Tension
Eye Contact
When there is sexual tension between two people there is a lot of direct, intense eye contact. Your eyes will show your desire for each other and the fire you feel inside. Your eyes will betray you.
Butterflies In The Stomach
Sexual tension between you and another will make you feel giddy and give you butterflies in the stomach. You will feel like a teenager again, in the best, most exciting way possible.
Awkward Interactions
Some relationships have sexual tension from the start, while others have it develop over time. When sexual tension exists you can become unsure of how to act in front of each other. You want to hide your desire and play it cool so things start to feel super awkward.
You Get Physically Close
The sexual tension exists because you two are physically attracted to each other and deep down want to sleep together. For one reason or another you two are not moving in that direction yet so you choose the next best thing and that is getting physically close to one another.
Casual Touches
You want to touch each other any time you can. Whether it’s just a touch of the fingers when passing something to the other or a casual hand on the back or arm as a greeting or a goodbye. You cannot do what you really want to them so you will settle for any physical interaction you can get.
You Flirt With Innuendos
When there is sexual tension between two people it will often reflect in their communications with each other. When you are around each other you cannot stop thinking about how much you want them which starts to leak out in conversation, emails, and texts with comments and jokes that seem to be of a more sexual nature.
Others Notice
When there is sexual tension between two people it is usually felt by those around them as well. It is palpable. Others will notice that there is something between you two, and some may even comment. It’s hard to hide an intense attraction for someone for an extended period of time when around others
You Just Know It
You know that you are attracted to them, and that you desire them, and you can feel their desire and attraction to you as well. They are sending you vibes and your gut is telling you everything you need to know.
What To Do About Your Sexual Tension
When dealing with sexual tension between you and another, you really only have three options. The first option is to ignore the sexual tension. You may choose to ignore because you actually like the current status quo. You are not ready to make a decision to move things to the next level, but you are enjoying the sexual tension and feelings it gives you.
The sexual tension and attraction may fizzle out over time on its own, which may mean it was never meant to be.
The second option is to discuss it and get it all out in the open. The conversation may be awkward, but if someone doesn’t make a move and ask the other out and address the sexual “elephant” in the room, then you will remain in a never ending cycle of flirting and giddiness.
Life is too short to remain in limbo, so eventually something should happen one way or another.
The final and best option is consummation. The build up of the sexual tension can mean a powerful sexual encounter, once it actually happens. Of course this will likely involve option two to some degree, but it doesn’t require some long drawn out discussion.
If the moment is right, and opportunity strikes, no words may be necessary. Your eyes and body language will do the talking, and the rest will hopefully be mind blowing.
What are your thoughts on dealing with sexual tension? Do you address it, ignore it, or hope things unfold naturally somehow? Please share your thoughts and experience!
“Our eyes met and our souls caught on fire.” ― Nikki Rowe
The Dangers of Ultimatums In Relationships
Ultimatums can mean the death of a relationship. An ultimatum is a final demand that if not met you will be faced with a retaliation or a break in relations. It is basically a do this or else statement.
By definition an ultimatum sounds harsh, but they are sometimes necessary to get results or force a decision. While being the recipient of an ultimatum you are given the “or else” up front, but the giver of the ultimatum will likely face consequences as well, especially in a romantic relationship.
An ultimatum should never be given lightly or frequently in a relationship because it can backfire and appear manipulative.
5 Dangers of Giving An Ultimatum In Your Relationship
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They Give In But Resent You
You may give an ultimatum to your partner and get your way, but it may not be a win in the end. You need to keep in mind that you basically pressured and threatened your partner in order to get them to do something you wanted them to do, and something they clearly did not want to do.
While they may give in, the ultimatum will not be forgotten, and resentment may fester, wreaking havoc on your relationship in the long run.
They May Become Unhappy
An ultimatum is one sided, no matter how you look at it. It is not a win win. There is a winner and a loser so to speak. You give an ultimatum to get your way, whether it is deserved or not is irrelevant to your partner’s feelings.
If you are strong arming, or guilting them into doing something they do not want to do they are not likely to be happy about it. Do not fool yourself into thinking you know what’s best for them because they know their heart and mind better than you do.
They Give Ultimatums Too
Once you start giving ultimatums in your relationship, you set a standard of behavior. You should expect that at some point in your relationship your partner will give you an ultimatum too. And the fact that you have used this card in the past will make it hard for you disagree with this tactic when you partner uses it on you.
They Call Your Bluff
When issuing an ultimatum in your relationship be prepared for your bluff to be called. I have known people who have told their partners that if they didn’t marry them the relationship was over. Or if we don’t have kids the marriage is over.
What if they say no? Be prepared to walk away from the relationship before letting that ultimatum come out of your mouth, or don’t say it at all. You will only look foolish and manipulative otherwise.
They Lose Trust In You
An ultimatum is a power play. Giving an ultimatum is also a form of manipulation. Once your partner starts to feel like they are being manipulated, they will start to question your trustworthiness.
Although I am not a fan of ultimatums in general, some ultimatums are necessary. Sometimes it has to come down to either stop drinking so much or I am out of here. Or if this relationship is not heading towards marriage then I am done.
It’s your life too so you get verbalize your wants and desires. But you also need to be prepared for the blow back you are sure to receive when you force someone’s hand.
When times get tough, and they will because that is life, your partner will remember that you twisted their arm into marrying you or having kids, or moving somewhere, and they will resent you or even hate you.
What are your thoughts on ultimatums? Have you ever given one in a relationship? How did things work out? Please share your thoughts and experience!
“When my husband gives me this ultimatum, "You either stop singing, or you move out," then it became very clear that what I needed to do - not just because I wanted to sing, but because I didn't want to live with anybody who issued ultimatums to me like that - would be to move out.” - Rene Marie
7 Signs He Truly Loves You
Being in love is such a wonderful feeling. It’s not just about how you feel about the other person, but also about how they make you feel about yourself and as a couple.
When you feel truly loved by someone you feel supported, and happy, and special. Being loved by that certain someone is like having a secret super power. I mean you were already awesome, but their love just somehow gives you an extra something.
You feel in love with them, and they tell you that they love you too. It is always nice to hear the words “I love you” from someone you love, but at the end of the day that’s all they are, just words. Actions are more of a true reflections of someone’s thoughts and feelings.
People can say anything, but real love requires effort and more than lip service. There are some undeniable signs that he truly loves you.
7 Signs He Truly Loves You
He Is Affectionate
The way he looks at you. The way he talks to you. The way he touches you. His body language and his non-sexual interactions with you will show you how much he cares.
He Cares About Your Happiness
A man who truly loves you will want you to be happy, even if that means an inconvenience or sacrifice on his part. You being happy makes him happy too. Your happiness is a priority to him.
He Is Supportive
A man who truly loves you will be your one man cheering section and your biggest fan. He will give you words of encouragement and will lift you up when you are feeling down. When he loves you, he is proud of you and believes in you.
He Is Protective
A man who loves you will be very protective of you. He will never want to see you hurting, and will always come to your defense. He also takes care to not be a source of pain for you by treating you with respect, and minding his actions and words.
He Is Thoughtful
A man who loves is always thinking of you. When he is out and about without you, many things will bring you to his mind. A song on the radio, a scent in the air, or even a location you once visited. He truly listens to you when you talk and remembers what you say and what you like.
He will pick up your favorite flowers for you just because, or fill up your gas tank without you asking.
He “Sees” You
A man can only truly love you if he sees and accepts the real you. If a man has seen the worst of you and still looks deep and lovingly into your eyes with no judgement he truly loves you.
He Misses You When Apart
It’s so cute how much a man in love misses you when you are apart. A man who truly loves you will miss you like crazy when he is away from you. He may not say it, but the phone calls, and texts he sends when you two are apart is his way of telling you he misses you.
Being in love is about an emotional connection. The connection is either there or it isn’t. When a man is in love with you it is usually pretty obvious whether he says the words or not. Strangers will be able to pick up on his love and adoration for you. It is quite special and sweet.
Are you able to recognize when a man truly loves you? Hearing the words is nice, but don’t get caught up in words. His actions are far more important and telling than any three words could ever be. So what are your thoughts on recognizing a man in love? Please share your thoughts and experience!
“I want you. All of you. Your flaws. Your mistakes. Your imperfections. I want you, and only you.” – John Legend
6 Relationship Red Flags
Dating and taking things slow with someone new serves a purpose. Diving right in to a relationship with a man or woman you barely know is not wise to say the least. The whole point of dating is to get to know the person, find out capability, and to flesh out any behaviors or traits that are dealbreakers for you.
In a new relationship, you may become so fascinated by your new boo that you start to miss the red flags that you definitely should be looking for. Knowing what signs to be on the lookout for is important, and will ultimately save you a lot of heartache and grief in the long run.
6 Relationship Red Flags To Avoid
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Red Flag #1 He’s A Taker
Everything revolves around him and what he wants. He is showing signs of being selfish. He is selfish with his time, selfish with money, and he is even selfish in bed. Selfish people will always ask for more than they give, which is not a behavior likely to change in the future.
Plus, selfish men make bad lovers, and who wants to put up with that.
Red Flag #2 He Has Questionable Employment
Does he describe himself as an entrepreneur or always seems to be “in between” jobs? Is his current career or employment, and past employment, sounding a little sketchy to you? If you are not sure what he does for a living, or doubt that he is telling is the truth, then you are getting a big red flag that you need to listen to.
People go through hard times for sure, but someone who is struggling to get their life together is someone who should be focusing on that, not on dating.
Red Flag #3 His Living Situation
You have never been to his home or if his living situation seems questionable, the that is a red flag. Depending on his age, there is nothing wrong with him having roommates, but there is a lot he can be hiding if you never go to his place. Maybe he is still living at home with his parents, or worse he is living with his girlfriend or wife.
He may also be crashing on someone’s couch, which means he has some instability in his life and things he needs to focus on other than dating.
Red Flag #4 He Has Bad Habits
You need to pay attention if they seem to be a heavy partier, drinker, or gambler. In the early stages we get to see the best a romantic partner has to offer. If questionable behaviors are popping up like drinking, gambling, and drug use, you need to ask yourself if this is someone you want to have in your life.
Don’t try to rescue him or make him your project. Your job is to focus on making a good life for yourself. Besides, you can easily get in over your head trying to deal with someone with addiction issues if you are not a professional.
Red Flag #5 He’s Has A Temper
When you first met him he was fun loving, sweet, and kind. That’s partly what drew you to him. But if you start seeing flashes of anger, rudeness, and unkindness, consider it a red flag. None of us are perfect. And all of us can be angered under the right circumstances, but if he lashes at you or others people with cruel words and cruel behavior, he may be hiding an abusive side.
You do not want to end up in an emotionally or physically abusive relationship, so take this red flag sign very serious.
Red Flag #6 Something Seem Not Quite Right About Him
He often seems great, then other times something about him seems not quite right. He is handsome, and funny, and so easy to talk to, but alarm bells are sounding internally telling you that he is not what he seems. Your instincts are telling you that he is hiding a part of himself, and wearing a mask. This is a big pretender red flag. What you see is not what you get.
Some red flags are more obvious than others. When it comes to deciding who to date, who to spend time with, and who to love, you should listen to your head and gut, and not ignore the obvious signs that he’s not a keeper.
What are your thoughts on identifying red flags? Do you take your cues from red flags or do you ignore them?Please share your experience with calling it quits because of red flags, or ignoring them and having a relationship work out.
Is It A Break Or A Break Up?
Sometimes we need a break from a relationship, and other times we just need to break up. Some relationships are meant to be, and if you are meant to be together things will come together for the two of you. But if it is not meant to be you will not find your way back to each other mentally or emotionally.
No matter what the reason is for the break, your true intentions and their intentions should be clear. It needs to be understood if whether the break is to take some time apart to make things better, or if it is really just an extended break up because neither of you have the courage to call it quits.
If you are unsure if your relationship is just on a break or if you have really broken up, I have some guidelines for you.
How To Tell If It’s A Break Or A Break Up
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Spending Time Together
If you are on taking a break from your relationship but still spending time together then you are on a break. It means you care for one another, that you like each other, and still want to spend time together as friends as you figure things out.
Dating Other People
If the moment you two decided you needed a break, and one or both of you starts hitting up the dating sites or starts going to clubs and bars seeking someone new, then it is a break up.
Taking a break from the relationship is supposed to be a time to reflect and maybe reconnect, but if one or both of you is taking this opportunity to see what else is out there then it is time to make the break permanent.
Frequent Communication
If you continue to talk and text to each other everyday then you are just on a break. Frequent communication during a break means you miss each other, and respect each other enough to keep one another in the loop of what’s going on in your life, and to confide and seek advice.
Sleeping With Other People
If you are taking a break but not officially broken up, you should not be having sex with other people. Sleeping with other people can mean the end of any possible reconciliation.
If one of you sleeps with someone else it will likely be hurtful to your partner. If you are both sleeping with other people on your break, then you are not ready for a committed, monogamous relationship, at least not to each other.
Talking To Your Ex
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Now that you’re on a break, you or your partner decide to reconnect with your ex. If you are reconnecting with your ex for comfort, friendship, or sex, it is a break up and not just a break. There should be awareness that reconnecting with an ex would be considered extremely hurtful and like a betrayal.
Sometimes a break from a relationship is needed to give you both perspective. Maybe you had started to take each other for granted or were starting feel your love fading away.
A relationship break can be a good a thing or just a delay of the inevitable, but al least now you will have a better idea of whether or not you two will come back together.
What are your thoughts on breaks from a relationship versus a break up? Do they work or do they ultimately turn into a break or make the relationships stronger? Please share your thoughts and experience on this topic?
“When someone leaves, it’s because someone else is about to arrive.” - Paulo Coelho
Rejection Lessons...Here's Why Being Rejected Is A Good Thing
Rejection hurts. It hurts to be rejected from something you wanted, or thought you wanted. I am a believer in “meant to be”. If you didn’t get the job you wanted or the guy you wanted then it was not meant to be.
Rejection, especially when it comes to love, can make you feel horrible. Rejection can come in the form of not returning feelings and requited love, to a refusal to commit to you, to even cheating or leaving you for another. It may be painful at the time, or for a while, but there are lessons to be learned from the rejection.
5 Takeaways From Rejection
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Maybe It Is You
I know that is not what you wanted to hear, but are you always finding yourself on the receiving end of rejection? You may be asking yourself if there is something wrong with you. Well it is not so much about there being something wrong with you, but the things you do and say.
You may be unintentionally pushing people away or scaring them off by your behavior.
Lowering Your Standards
When we lower our standards we resent it to a large degree. You choose to be in a relationship with some guy or a booty call to a guy who is not really into you or is no good. You know it deep down that you are being used or that he is no good, and push and sabotage subconsciously, hoping he will prove you wrong.
Blindspots
We all have blindspots, especially in relationships that we are determined to make work. Red flags will pop up all over the place but you may choose to ignore them, but eventually you will learn. Things will not work out with a guy full of red flags, but that take away will be to listen to your inner voice and your gut instincts.
With the next guy you will be more cautious, and will not be misled or fooled as easily.
You Are Strong
Rejection doesn’t feel good, but you get through it and live to fight another day. The first heartbreak is the worst. We think this guy is the “one” and if I am not with him I will never be happy. Of course this isn’t true because you will be happy again whether you are single or in another relationship. Rejection teaches us to be self reliant and to create our own happiness.
Leaves The Door Open
A rejection just means another chance at an opportunity. The best thing that can happen to your heart and your love life will be to get rejected from the wrong guy. Wasting time with the wrong man makes you unavailable for the right one.
Although you may feel like it at the time, rejection is not the end of the world. Learn from it, grow, and move the hell on.
How do you handle rejection? Yes it hurts, but do you take it as a lesson learned? If so, what lessons have you learned from being romantically rejected? Please share your thoughts and experience!
“Was I bitter? Absolutely. Hurt? You bet your sweet ass I was hurt. Who doesn't feel a part of their heart break at rejection. You ask yourself every question you can think of, what, why, how come, and then your sadness turns to anger. That's my favorite part. It drives me, feeds me, and makes one hell of a story.”
― Jennifer Salaiz
Conflicted About Him? Here's Why You Should Take Some Time Apart
A break from a relationship or a romantic situation does not have to mean a break up or the end of your romance. Time apart can be a good thing, and I am firm believer that distance provides clarity.
Maybe you are questioning if he is the one, you two are not getting along very well, or you have started to feel smothered or overwhelmed by the relationship. Whatever the reason, space can be a positive thing.
If you are in a relationship or in the beginning stages of a budding romance, but are having some doubts about the guy in your life, you may need to step back and take some time apart.
Reasons To Take Time Apart
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To Miss Them Or Not
The saying that absence makes the heart grow founder is often true. Time apart will give you a chance to miss your mate. Being a way from them may be difficult because you may be missing talking to them, smelling them, and touching them. Missing them is a good sign.
Time apart from your partner may also be a nice break, or feel like a relief. If you feel relieved to be away from your mate, it may be a sign that you need to make your break permanent.
Clarity
They say distance offers clarity, and I couldn’t agree more. Being in the day to day life of a relationship if you are dating, but especially if you live together, it can be hard to pinpoint the issues or the root cause of your doubts.
You need to give yourself space to have that aha moment. Figure out why you feel conflicted about this guy. Is he not who you thought he was or have you just outgrown the relationship? Distancing yourself will help you view him and your relationship more clearly.
Assessment
Much like clarity, time apart will give you the ability to assess your relationship and decide what you really want. Without being overwhelmed by all of your attraction and desire for your guy, time apart can give you the opportunity to assess him, assess the relationship, and decide if he is someone you want to be with long term.
If you feel as if you need some space from a romantic situation, take a break from the relationship. If you believe that you need time, then take the time you need, and don’t feel pressured to stay with someone or in a relationship if you are having doubts. If your partner says they won’t wait for you, then they are not the one for you.
What are your thoughts on taking time apart? Do you think time apart helps, or if there are problems in the relationship a break up should just happen? Please share your thought and experience on time apart!
“If someone makes you miserable more than they make you happy, then it is time to let them go, no matter how much you love them.” - Unknown