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Death Of A Marriage...6 Reasons Marriages Become Unhappy
When I first started blogging about relationships 4 years ago, I was not sure what to expect as far as interest in what I had to say, because let’s be honest, much like food blogs, the market is flooded with relationship advice as well.
In writing my blogs, I have striven to provide a unique perspective based on personal experiences, observations, research, and interviews. Over the years, my audience has grown, and I am so proud of the unexpected success, but I believe much of my success can be contributed to one blog in particular that continues to draw to the largest audience daily.
Two years ago I wrote an article titled 8 Signs You Are Not A Couple Anymore…You’re Just Roommates. The Roommates article has resonated with so many readers and continues to provide nearly 40% percent of the daily traffic to my blog, with over 1,000 daily views.
Over the years, I have received many heartbreaking emails and comments from people feeling trapped and unhappy in their marriage, and recognizing they are just roommates. Between hearing from readers, doing research, and seeing what family and friends have gone through, I have definitely started to view marriage through a different prism.
When you think about the high divorce rate, which is currently approximately 40% depending on your age and where you live, and how many people we all know who are staying in marriages for reasons other than happiness and love, that equates to a lot of unhappy people.
So, the question is, why do so many marriages become unhappy, and is that seemingly inevitable unhappiness preventable? The short answer is yes if you know the causes. Here’s 6 reasons marriages become unhappy.
6 Reasons Marriages Become Unhappy
No Premarital Counseling
Premarital counseling is highly recommended to get a marriage started off right. Premarital counseling provides a facilitated forum to discuss marital expectations and concerns of each partner prior to saying “I do” because you both should have an idea of what your partner expects of a husband or wife in a marriage.
Idealized Marriage
Marriage is not a fairytale, despite what the stories tell you. In fact, choose the wrong mate and your marriage can end up a horror story. Your spouse is not going to be Prince Charming sweeping you off your feet non-stop. He will burp, fart, and may be a complete slob at times, who does not help around the house or with the kids as much as you would like.
Obligated/Forced To Marry
You got married because your religion dictated it or you were pregnant and felt obligated to get married. Honestly, I think any marriage that required or pressure for one or both partners to commit doesn’t stand much of a chance at a happy union.
Immature When Married
It doesn’t matter if you are 20, 30, or 40 when you get married, because it is not only about age. Immaturity does not necessarily just mean young because maturity is a mental state. Some people never grow up, and some never make sound decisions regardless of how many years they are on this earth.
Keeping Up With The Joneses
You married because everyone your age was doing it and you did not want to be outdone by anyone or feel like a loser for still being single. Playing the game of keeping up is a fast track to unhappiness and debt. People who focus more on the outward than the inward are never very happy with themselves and definitely not with their partners.
Ignoring/Not Addressing Issues
You have not been paying attention to your marriage. If this blog applies to you, you may have been reading this thinking, nope this is definitely not me or my marriage, but that doesn’t mean it’s not your spouse. I get emails all the time from unhappy spouses who feel trapped in their marriage and I always encourage them to discuss their feeling with their spouse.
Of course, most people recognize that things are off with their marriage but are not sure sometimes how to fix it, and in some cases, if they even want to fix it. I think the death of a marriage is preventable for some marriages, and not so much for others. Sheer determination and love will not make a person who no longer loves you want to be with you, no matter what you do.
I believe the death of a marriage can be prevented if two mature individuals willingly enter the relationship with open hearts and minds, be completely honest with each other and themselves, and focus on building up their partner and their relationship.
What are your thoughts on the death of a marriage? What advice would you give? Do you agree with the assessment? Please share your thoughts and experience!
Relationship Expectations…5 Signs Your Relationship Expectations Are Unreasonable
Nothing kills a relationship faster than unmet expectations, but so many questions come to mind when discussing this topic. Chances are if you’re feeling disappointed in your partner’s failure to meet your expectations, they are probably feeling disappointed in themselves or feeling some kind of way about your reaction to their alleged letdown.
During relationships, I expect love and respect and consider them non-negotiables. However, I do recognize that my partner’s time and money are theirs to do with what they want and are up for negotiation, such as who pays for dinner or if we go to my family’s barbeque.
In case you need to be reminded, your partner is not a mind reader. But more importantly, while you are focusing on how disappointed you are in your partner you need to ask yourself a few questions first, because maybe, just maybe your expectations are not reasonable.
Signs Your Expectations Are Unreasonable
You’ve Been Told So In The Past
If you have been told in the past by ex-boyfriends, lovers, or husbands, that you are too demanding or that your relationship expectations are unreasonable maybe they are.
It’s either you’re unreasonable or you keep picking the wrong people. Keep in mind that both can be true.
Your Partner Says So
It’s like your old relationship is on replay. Your current partner has pointed out that your expectations are unfair or unreasonable.
You place demands on their time, their money, and their treatment of you but fail to recognize the double standard, especially when they are not allowing you to call the shots.
You Make Up Random Rules
You just make up relationship rules as you go along. Your partner “always” has to do this, or can “never “ do that, because if they don’t follow your rules that means that they do not love you.
Of course, these made-up rules are a double standard and do not apply to you. These rules come up situationally, and at your convenience.
Not Based On Love
You often equate love to material things. The saying, “it’s the thought that counts” doesn’t mean much to you. People show their love in many ways.
A simple gesture of filling up your gas tank weekly when they notice it’s getting low is a thoughtful, loving gesture, but since it wasn’t the expensive gift you pointed out that you wanted, you feel disappointed instead of appreciative.
You Keep Losing People
You keep losing people from your life, which is the number one red flag that you are unreasonable, difficult, and maybe even toxic. Whether it be romantic partners, or family members or friends, your unrealistic expectations of what it means to be a partner, a sister, or a friend, your behavior pushes people away.
I always recommend that you set expectations and boundaries early on in a relationship, but be careful about being unrealistic, self-serving, and demanding. Demands in a relationship will often be viewed as hostile, and I for one do not negotiate with terrorists, and neither should you or your partner.
What are your thoughts on relationship expectations? Do you agree or disagree with my article? Should someone be expected to tamp down their expectations in a relationship or would that be considered settling? Please share your thoughts and experience!
“When you stop expecting people to be perfect, you can like them for who they are.” ― Donald Miller, A Million Miles in a Thousand Years: What I Learned While Editing My Life
Here's Why You Are Attracted To Bad Boys
Bad boys and rebels can have a certain allure, especially to a woman who usually plays it safe. It may not be in your nature to be wild or rebellious, but by choosing a mate who has those characteristics you may be trying to fulfill a secret desire to be a little bad yourself.
When I refer to a guy as a bad boy I don’t mean a criminal or abuser. I am referring to a guy who doesn't conform to society’s standards of the ideal guy. He may be someone who has made mistakes in the past or has a reputation of being a player or a jerk. He generally does what he wants and doesn’t care what others think.
Here’s Why You’re Attracted To Bad Boys
Feels Dangerous
A bad boy has that label for a reason, and being with someone who is edgy can make you feel like a bad girl, but in a good way.
Women who are badasses don’t go for “bad boys” because they don’t necessarily view them as such. But women who tend to be passive, but secretly want to be more assertive, will feel drawn to the bad boy.
It’s Exciting
A bad boy will force a good girl out of her comfort zone. He will have seen and done, and be willing to do things she can’t even imagine. He is so different from you and different from the guys you’re used to dealing with.
Being with a bad boy can feel exciting because you never know what to expect with him. He’s unpredictable.
Feels Out Of Control
You’re used to being in control. Always the perfect daughter and the perfect student. You never allowed yourself to be wild and carefree. You always do just what’s expected of you. But being with the bad boy changed all that.
The bad boy is willing to take the lead, and push the boundaries with you.
Rebellious
You have always been a good girl, doing what everyone expected you to do. So you pick a bad boy as a passive-aggressive rebellion. Your friends and family won’t approve, but deep down that’s the point. To push back and show them that you can make your own decisions.
He’s A Challenge
Whether in a relationship with a good boy or a bad boy, you still have emotional needs you want met. A bad boy may resist traditional relationship practices or be reluctant to commit, so you being able to reform, or think you have reformed, a bad boy would be a huge ego boost.
Not all bad boys are deserving of the label, and I do believe that people can change. But I also believe that you should be careful what you wish for because you just might get it.
You may get the bad boy, thinking you reformed him, but he is still there just wearing camouflage. And then you will get burned by the bad boy.
What are your thoughts on bad boys? Have you ever had a thing for bad boys? How did it work out? Please share your thoughts and experience!
“Every good girl loved a bad boy. It was a fact of life, a quirk of nature. Opposites attract, and the badder the boy, the more attractive he was to that good girl who couldn’t help but be drawn to him.” - Unknown
10 Signs Your Marriage Is Headed For Divorce
Marriages go through ups and downs and good times and bad times. The trouble starts when your marriage seems to be full of never-ending downs and bad times.
The reality is that not all marriages work out, and in fact nearly fifty percent of marriages end in divorce or separation. Although divorce talk is no one’s favorite topic, if your marriage is heading in that direction it is important to recognize the signs to try to address them, or know the signs in order to prepare yourself.
10 Signs Your Marriage Is Headed For Divorce
You’ve Become Secretive About Your Marriage
You used to be relatively open about everything in your life with your family and good friends, including discussing your relationships and your marriage.
But now you avoid discussing your partner and your marriage because you are afraid they will pick up on your problems and you don’t want anyone to know that your marriage is falling apart.
You’re Self-Conscience About How Your Marriage Looks To Others
You used to never think anything of it if your spouse opted out of going to an event with you or if they worked late or hung out with their friends. Now you get clingy and try to tag along or make-up lies as to why they are unavailable to attend an event with you.
You feel less secure in your relationship and worry that everyone can tell that things are not good.
You Can’t Agree On Anything
You fight about money, you fight about chores, you fight about the kids, and sometimes you even fight about what to have for dinner. Everything is a battle because an unhappy person is hard to please.
Chances are if one of you is unhappy in the relationship, then you both are unhappy.
Poor Communication/Stonewalling
Talking out your issues seems to be an impossible task because one or both of your are not one hundred percent committed to fixing the relationship. You don’t want to talk to one another or one of you completely shuts down all forms of communication, basically ignoring your partner.
You’re Not Physically Attracted To Them
I think most of us want to feel physically attracted to our partners. If one partner stops taking pride in self-care and their appearance, their partner will likely be turned off and less attracted to them, and the physical relationship will suffer.
Men are more visual creatures, so the man will want to feel sexually attracted to his wife, and women also want to be attracted to their husbands as well.
You Avoid Spending Time Together
Suddenly the gym or your laptop is yours or your partner’s new best friend. Anything to avoid engaging with each other. Spending extra hours at the gym can be avoiding home life, relieving stress, and getting that new body as you prepare to become single again.
Working long hours at the office or home is to avoid having to interact with your partner, and to avoid dealing with your issues.
You Don’t Like Your Partner
It may happen slowly over time, but sometimes love can turn to intense dislike. They say familiarity breeds contempt, which may be true to some degree, but with time, you either grow to love your partner more, or you realize you are not a good fit and do not want to be with them anymore.
Sometimes you just don’t like them as a person anymore and may resent them because you feel trapped in the relationship.
You Don’t Love Your Partner
As you realize you don’t like your partner, you may also realize you don’t love them anymore, at least not in a romantic way. You look at them sometimes and feel nothing. Your marriage can survive a lack of love, but it will not be a very happy union.
There’s Someone Else
I think it goes without saying that if you or your partner are in love with someone else your marriage is in trouble. Whether the extra-marital relationship is physical, or emotional, one of you is the third wheel in your relationship and the marriage is headed for a divorce.
You Want Out
If one of you longer wants to be in the relationship you are definitely headed for a divorce. You or your partner are mentally and emotionally done with the relationship. One or both of you wants out of the relationship but feels trapped or is plotting an escape.
I think anyone in a marriage owes it to themself and their partner to try to make it work, but I also think you owe it to yourself to recognize and accept when it can’t work. There’s not a lot of options with a marriage in trouble. You either get counseling to try to work out your issues or you start preparing yourself to move on.
What are your thoughts on the signs of heading for a divorce? Do you agree with my signs? If you are divorced or heading that direction, what signs did you see? Please share!
"I do not believe that there were more happy marriages before divorce became socially acceptable, that people tried harder, got through their rough times, and were better off. I believe that more people suffered.” -Ann Patchett
Why Smart, Successful Women Are With Losers
Not all smart, successful women are dating or married to losers of course, but the ones that are really stand out. We all have these amazing girlfriends who currently have or had men in their lives that made us cringe. Or worse, we were the one with the guy who made our friends ask, “What is she thinking?”.
Love can make us blind, but it can also make us very determined to make a relationship that’s not worth it, work. Successful women are used to getting it done and making it work, no matter the cost at times.
To be clear, my definition of loser has nothing to do with his looks, his bank account, or his education level. He is a loser if he is untrustworthy, he’s lazy, he’s a user, he’s selfish, and he’s rude and disrespectful.
Here’s Why Smart Women Are In Toxic Relationships
Enjoys A Challenge
Smart women like to solve problems and fix issues. Sometimes that includes fixing men. A man who lacks direction and ambition can present a project and challenge for a successful woman. She likes the idea of proving others wrong about him but also being able to “mold” him into the man she wants.
Over-Rationalizes
Smart women are thinkers and analyzers. A smart woman tends to look for the “why” behind the behaviors. She quickly turns into his therapist or surrogate mother, instead of being the partner she is supposed to be.
She will tell herself that he grew up in a broken home or doesn’t know what a healthy relationship looks like, so she tolerates unacceptable behavior and treatment, all the while making excuses for him.
Over-Confident
A successful woman is used to succeeding and achieving her goals. Once she has set her sights on a man, no matter how bad he is for her, she will be determined to make the relationship work, sometimes even to her own detriment.
Stubborn
Successful women can be very stubborn and determined. She just knows that he has potential and if she can help him see that, everything would work out. This may especially be the case if others have expressed doubt choosing him or about things working out.
She Is Settling
Some would say that success comes at a price. Years spent focusing on schooling and career don’t necessarily leave much time for a love life.
The successful woman may feel the pressure to have it all. The job, the man, and the family. So she settles because “the clock” is ticking, and everyone else her age is already settling down and starting a family.
Love is a beautiful thing, but it cannot change the fundamentals of who a person truly is. People can change, but they have to want to. There are good men, there are bad guys, and there are choices in life.
What are your thoughts on smart, successful women ending up with losers? Are you one of these women? If so, why did you end up with a loser? Please share!
“This is what I know. Don't settle for 40, 50, or even 80 percent. A relationship-it shouldn't be too small or too tight or even a little scratchy. It shouldn't take up space in your closet out of guilty conscience or convenience or a moment of desire. Do you hear me? It should be perfect for you. It should be lasting. Wait. wait for 100 percent.” ― Deb Caletti, The Secret Life of Prince Charming
Is Meeting The Right One Coincidence Or Fate?
Are you a believer in fate? Do you think that some things are just meant to happen no matter what we do? Or do you believe that life is a series of chances and choices and that anything can happen?
When it comes to love, I like the idea of both fate and coincidence bringing two people together who should be together. Love is wonderful, and finding the right one by coincidence is awesome, but finding the one via fate is amazing.
Both fate and coincidence are beyond our control. They just happen. Fate is what’s meant to be, no matter what you do, and coincidence is a matter of right place, right time. Is the love of your life fate or coincidence?
Fate
What is fate? Fate, also known as destiny, is the development of events beyond a person’s control, regarded as determined by a supernatural power. A relationship that is fated to happen is meant to be.
Now, just because a relationship with a certain person is meant to be doesn’t mean that the relationship is guaranteed to give you a happily ever after.
The relationship or relationships that are your destiny may be such because there is an experience you need to have or a lesson you need to learn, which could be good or bad.
Signs Your Relationship Is Fate
You Keep Crossing Each Others Path
You Share Similar Experiences, Both Past and Present
Feels Like Kindred Spirit
Invisible Forces Pulling You To Each Other
Coincidence
What is a coincidence? A coincidence is a remarkable concurrence of events or circumstances without apparent causal connection.
When I refer to a relationship as being coincidence I just mean that it is not about some cosmic force bringing two lovers together, but about two people who find each other attractive in a chance meeting by being at the right place at the right time.
Signs Your Relationship Is Coincidence
Grew Up In or Live-In Same City or Town
Mutual Friends or Coworkers
Dating App or Matchmaker
I know that fate and coincidence sound similar, but know that fate has been at work when you find out that you both went to the same college years before, or lived in the same city somewhere else and never met. Or were at the same party but never crossed paths. It was fate at work but the timing was off.
Personally, I can look back on relationships and easily identify the coincidence relationships versus fate relationships. I was once at a crossroads and had a decision to make about where I would move for my career. One path seemed very simple, more familiar, and almost easy. The other path was the unknown, it was scary, and it would be harder.
I sought the counsel of an older friend and mentor and she said to take the path of the unknown. She said that is where your destiny is, and you already know where the other path leads. I know it sounds kooky, but I followed her advice and she was absolutely right. That decision led me to where I am today. It let me to where I was always meant to be.
What are your thoughts on fate versus coincidence? Do you believe you are fated to be with one particular person? Do you think coincidental relationships are equally as important and special? Please share your thoughts and experience!
“Fate is the promise that life is not a random string of tragedy and comedy without meaning. Fate proclaims that our lives are in fact so meaningful, so necessary, that our stories are written by the gods and goddesses, by the heavens themselves. We may only glimpse our fate, hinted by the stars or the creases of our hands; but even this glimpse is evidence of our contract with the universe, that we are players in the great wheel of life and death and rebirth.” - Sy Montgomery, Spell of the Tiger
The Pros & Cons of Dating a Foreigner - Guest Post
While online dating is quite popular for searching your prospective match among the locals, the most suggestive part of it is the fact that you can find a partner from any part of the world. Some dream of finding a sweet girlfriend from Japan, while others dream of marrying a Ukrainian woman. But where the idea of multicultural bonds is coming from? Does it originate from the mere possibility to date a foreigner?
There is a belief that multicultural bonds are stronger. According to certain researches, interracial and multicultural couples are 59% more likely to stay together than their counterparts that belong to one culture and one race. So, is the multicultural or interracial bond is the best option for you? In many respects – yes. Does that mean that this type of relationship doesn't have any disadvantages? Unfortunately, no. Like everything in this world, multicultural bonds have their pros and cons. If you consider dating a foreigner, we offer you to check out our list of pros and cons of such relationships.
Pros
Broadening Your Outlook
When you communicate with your foreign partner you get to understand a lot of things about a different culture. You will see that people of different cultures have as much in common as that which divides them. You will learn all the peculiarities of your partner's culture, and you can give them the knowledge about your culture. Exchanging knowledge will help you to broaden your outlook. While you can say that you can get the same from watching films and reading books, having a real-life example is way more interesting.
You Won't Be Having Boring Conversations
Thanks to the fact that you have a lot of cultural differences that you are quite unlikely that you are going to have boring conversations. You will figure out which traditions you have in common, and which traditions are absolutely different. You will discuss the origins of your cultural peculiarities.
You Will Have an Exciting Romance
The relationship with people of your culture can sometimes be unpredictable, which gives the required level of thrill to keep your relationship exciting. But a relationship with a foreigner is way more exciting thanks to its unpredictability.
Cons
Language Barrier
Generally, only one of you knows the language of the other. But even if you both know each other's language, you will end up experiencing certain problems with understanding each other. There are certain things that only a native speaker can understand, thus there are going to be certain phrases that can be misinterpreted. So, you need to be ready to explain even some common phrases to your partner and be ready to listen to their explanation of something that may seem offensive to you.
Mentality Difference
Speaking about all the cultural peculiarities, you need to understand that a different culture almost always means a different mentality. Depending on the country of origin your foreign partner may be extremely calm or short-tempered. While sometimes it is hard to take, you need to understand that the fact that your partner may spiral pretty easily because of his culture.
Respect is the Key
Respecting each other is the key to a successful multicultural relationship. Probably the reason why multicultural bonds last longer lies in the fact that partners are working hard on their relationship, coming a long way to respect each other's cultural peculiarities and differences.
How To Determine Relationship Compatibility
Finding the right mate, or the “one” can feel like a daunting task to say the least. If you have been in the dating scene for a while, or have had several or many relationships over the years, you may be wondering why the relationships don’t work out.
As the old saying goes, “you will have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince”. While I do agree with the overall concept that you may need to meet a lot of different men to find the right one, I don’t think you will necessary need to date, kiss, or sleep with them all to find out if they are the right one, unless of course you want to.
Compatibility can be determined pretty early on and good conversation will usually help you figure it out.
How To Determine Compatibility
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Ask Questions
There are many questions you need answers to if you really want to determine compatibility. All questions do not need to be asked and answered on a first date, but over time you definitely need to peel back the onion and find out where they stand on some really big issues, but also some smaller issues as well.
You will want to know about their thoughts on marriage and family. Do they expect their spouse to work or stay home. Do they want kids? How many and how far into the relationship? Where do they ultimately want to live and retire? And the big one is their relationship with money. Are they a spender or a saver? And of course what role will religion play in your lives and the lives of your children.
Do Things Together
Ideally you meet your mate while participating in an activity you are both very interested in, but if you don’t you will want to find common interests. If you love to read, it may not be a requirement but it is nice to have a partner who also enjoys reading and discussing books they have read.
If you are a very intellectual, critical thinker, you will not be compatible with someone you might describe as not very smart, and you definitely won’t be able to respect them.
If you are into fitness or the outdoors, you will want to try out these activities together. While you do not have to work out together, being able to enjoy activities together that interest you both will keep you bonded.
Meet Family and Friends
People from similar backgrounds tend to be more compatible. Of course, different upbringings doesn’t necessarily need to be a deal breaker, but it does make relatability and the understanding of points of view more challenging. Similar upbringings also plays a big role in how you view marriage, family, and especially how to raise children.
It is important to be open minded but also realistic in choosing a partner from a different background.
Kiss/Sleep Together
Physical attraction and sexual compatibility are extremely important to a relationship. I am not encouraging anyone to sleep around, and I understand that for some this is a moral issue, but ask yourself how many things do you purchase without sampling? If you knew you couldn’t return something would you still buy it?
Well, I look at selecting a partner the same way. Sexual compatibility is very important. For long term happiness and fulfillment you want to have an enjoyable sex life, and if you didn’t know what you were getting into, you were taking a gamble that may or may not pay off.
In all honesty, you can force and make just about any relationship work if you are determined to. But if you want to be happy and fulfilled for the long run you will want to be with someone you are truly compatible with.
We are who we are, and while we change some over the years, we also stay very much the same, so hoping someone will change and become more of who you want them to be is wishful thinking. It is better to choose someone you are compatible with, than to try to change someone to fit your mental, emotional, and sexual needs.
What are your thoughts on compatibility? How important do you think it is to relationship longevity and happiness? Please share your thoughts and experience!
“Research shows that couples who have a lot of similarities, including intellectual compatibility, end up staying together.” - Helen Fisher
Why He Wants To Be Dominated By You
Domination is about control, and when you allow yourself to be dominated you give up some of your control. Even the control freak likes to occasionally be the passenger and not the driver.
Some men like to be dominated, if only for a little while. He wants to be submissive behind closed doors, in the home, or perhaps just in the bedroom, but regardless of the location, he wants you to take over and dominate him.
The strongest, most confident of men often enjoy domination the most, and you may be asking yourself why, but after reading this blog it will make total sense. Here’s why he wants to be dominated.
5 Reasons Why He Wants To Be Dominated By You
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Relieves Stress
Domination is not always about sex. Domination is often about mental and emotional releases. The role play, the pain, and even the verbal domination can have an almost soothing and calming affect on a man who wants to be dominated.
Wants To Be Vulnerable
Men do not often feel comfortable being vulnerable. But in a safe setting, and with the right woman he can allow himself to be vulnerable, even if just under the guise of domination.
It Turns Him On
Yes, sometimes domination is a fetish. Some men are masochist and enjoy a mixture of pain and pleasure. The domination can be verbal words of abuse, physical pain, or consist of punishments.
Every couple has to explore and find their comfort level to make their own rules of play.
He’s Powerful
Being the one always in charge is exhausting. While he may be the one in charge in the boardroom or office, he may want you to take charge at home or in the bedroom.
He knows that he is powerful, but giving up some of that control to you in the bedroom, and not knowing what you will do to him excites him.
He Respects You
Most men are not just going to give up his power and control and be vulnerable with just anyone. But with with right woman, a woman he sees as his equal, he can be okay with letting her dominate him. Strong, confident men love strong, confident women.
The role of dominatrix is not for everyone, but just as he enjoys giving up his control for a time, you may also enjoy being in complete control of him occasionally.
Domination and role play is not for every man, at least not every man is willing to admit it. So now that you understand the why, are you game for a little dominating? You and you partner make the rules. And don’t forget your safe word…LOL
Now I want to hear from you. What are your thoughts on dominating him? Please share your thoughts and experience!
How He Shows His Love Based On His Zodiac
Whether you are a true believer, or just read your horoscope for fun, trying to analyze and understand people based on their zodiac sign is fun. Add in some love and romance and it gets even better.
Every man is different and will express his love for you in many ways. His personality in general has a lot to do with the zodiac he was born under. No one is perfect and there are pros and cons to every zodiac, and just like personalities, some zodiacs are just more compatible than others.
Based on his zodiac, find out how he will show his love for you.
His Zodiac and How He Loves You
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Aries
Aries is first sign of the zodiac and is a Fire sign. This zodiac is represented by the ram and is very sure of itself. The Aries man is very sexual and used to getting his way. An Aries man in love is very passionate, honest, and demanding at times. It takes a lot to settle an Aries man down, so if he chooses you, it is because he respects you and sees you as an equal match for him.
Best Love Matches for Aries - Leo and Sagittarius
Taurus
The Taurus is an Earth sign and tends to be more reserved. This zodiac is represented by the bull and like the bull tends to be very stubborn, well grounded, and practical. When in love, the Taurus man is devoted, loving, but also possessive and occasionally needy.
Best Love Matches for the Taurus - Virgo and Capricorn
Gemini
The Gemini is an Air sign and tends to be very personable, witty, and a great conversationalist. Also known as the twin, the Gemini has two faces and two personalities, and frequently changes their mind. A Gemini man in love is affectionate, loving, and fun to be with. While the Gemini is often indecisive, when they decide you are the one, they are all in.
Best Love Matches for Gemini - Libra and Aquarius
Cancer
The Cancer is a Water sign and tends to be very emotional. Represented by the crab, a Cancer man in love is very loving and nurturing. He will want to take care of you and will do anything in his power to help you. He will go out of his way for the one he loves, but be mindful that he can be clingy and passive aggressive at times.
Best Love Matches for Cancer - Scorpio and Pisces
Virgo
The Virgo is an Earth sign and represented by the Maiden. The Virgo man in love is open and affectionate. He is looking for long term love and does not enjoy flings. Once you have a Virgo man’s trust and his heart, he will be vulnerable with you and show how much he loves you more than he will say it.
Best Love Matches for Virgo - Capricorn and Taurus
Leo
The Leo is a Fire sign. This zodiac is represent by the lion. A Leo man in love is loyal, protective, and kind. He is naturally very charming and will take the lead in the relationship to the point sometimes of being domineering. As long as they feel loved and appreciated by you, they will return the same affection in kind, but can also be very stubborn and self-centered.
Best Love Matches for Leo - Sagittarius and Aries
Libra
The Libra is an Air sign and represented by the scales. A Libra man loves to be in love. He is charming, romantic, and very chill in his relationship. When a Libra man is in love he will be devoted and focused on you. But a Libra man can also have a fickle heart and be very indecisive, which can make him seem dishonest and insincere.
Best Love Matches for Libra - Aquarius and Gemini
Scorpio
The Scorpio is a Water sign and represented by the scorpion. The Scorpio man is very emotional and passionate. They can have a very cold and unfriendly demeanor but when in love they are intense, sexual, and devoted to their partner. The Scorpio man in love also tends to be very possessive, jealous, and clingy.
Best Love Matches for Scorpio - Pisces and Cancer
Sagittarius
The Sagittarius is a Fire sign. This zodiac is represented by the Archer. The Sagittarius man is very positive, open-minded, and adventurous. A Sagittarius man in love will want to show you the world. They want to share and experience new things with you. The Sagittarius man loves the chase of new relationships and can become easily bored in relationships, especially those with routines.
Best Love Matches for Sagittarius - Aries and Leo
Capricorn
The Capricorn is an Earth sign. This zodiac sign is represented by the Goat. The Capricorn man is very determined, reliable, and cautious. A Capricorn man in love is guarded, but also loyal and dedicated. The Capricorn doesn’t open their heart easily, so if they choose you it is because they have weighed the pros and cons and have decided you two are a good fit.
The Best Matches for Capricorn - Taurus and Virgo
Aquarius
The Aquarius is an Air sign and is represented by the Water Bearer. An Aquarius man is kind and very generous. An Aquarius man in love will be vulnerable, empathetic, and your best friend. The Aquarius man is not the jealous type and will give you your own space, but they also require their space and can be emotionally distant at times.
Best Love Matches for Aquarius - Gemini and Libra
Pisces
The Pisces is a Water sign and represented by the Fish. The Pisces man is very romantic, loving, and loves to please. A Pisces man in love is committed, loyal, and very caring. They want to make you happy, but the Pisces man can be secretive, emotionally needy, and self-pitying.
Best Love Matches for Pisces - Cancer and Scorpio
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