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Breadcrumbing...4 Signs He Is Stringing You Along
You may or may not have heard the term breadcrumbing. Breadcrumbing is more commonly known as stringing along. Stringing another person along is a cruel and selfish act often found in faux relationships.
Faux relationships are just what you think they are. They are fake. Faux relationship are not real, at least to one of the people in the relationship.
The term breadcrumbing means to offer a little bit of attention and affection here and there to keep someone coming back, without giving them what they really want. In the case of relationships, you may want someone’s love, time, or a commitment, and they offer just enough of themselves to make you think there is hope of a future together.
In order to breadcrumb someone, the breadcrumber may hang out with their target occasionally, and give a booty call here or there, making them hope there is more to the faux relationship. All the while they are keeping them as a backup plan.
If you are unsure if someone is breadcrumbing you, this blog will help you recognize the signs
4 Signs Of Breadcrumbing
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Ghosts You A Lot
When someone is breadcrumbing they tend to drop in and out of your life a lot. They will go long periods of time without seeing you, texting you, and responding to your call or texts.
Won’t Define Relationship
You have no idea if you are lovers, a couple, or just friends. When you ask them how they feel about you, or try to get them to define your relationship, they dodge the question.
Won’t Let You End It
You realize that they never have any intentions of committing to you or formalizing your relationship in any way so you pull away. You cut off contact with them, and start seeing other people and moving on. Just when you are fine with letting them go, here they come wooing you once again.
Caring Then Distant
Once they realize they are losing you, and that your feelings may be changing, they start to give you all the affection and attention you had been craving. They sucker you back in. Once they think they have you back, they suddenly they become distant or disappear again.
Breadcrumbers are selfish, insecure people who will string you along for as long as you allow it. They count on you falling for their manipulations. But remember this, a breadcrumber actually needs you more than you need them. You are a security blanket and a back up plan for them.
They are sad people, but don’t allow them to use you and take advantage of your heart for their own selfish purposes.
What are your thoughts on breadcrumbers? Do you have experience with stringing someone along on being strung along by someone? Please share your thoughts and experience!
How To Spot A Liar...Both In Person And Through Text
I really dislike the word liar, but let's be honest, don’t we all tell the occasional lie? No one wants to be labeled a liar, but most people do not tell the truth all the time. Sure, the motivation for lying may vary from dishonest compliments with the purpose of not hurting someone’s feelings, to self-serving statements to elevate an individual’s status. But a lie is a lie.
Studies have found that most people lie in everyday conversation. No one should be lying and no one wants to be lied to, but there is a big difference between the harmless “white lie”, and the lie meant to deceive, manipulate, or control. It comes down to intent. Ironically, many people lie about never lying.
Some of us are more observant than others at reading people and can tell when we are being lied to, or when someone is lying a little or a lot. Being a human lie detector is a very useful skill that requires attention to detail, a great memory, and the ability to read body language.
If you are not a bonafide human lie detector, here are some tips to help you figure out when someone is lying.
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Signs Someone Is Lying In Person
Avoids Eye Contact
Eyes Shift Frequently
Body Is Still, With Little Hand Movement
Voice May Get Higher In Pitch
Voice and Body Language Do Not Match
Seems Nervous
Clears Throat and Swallows A Lot
Talks Very Fast or Really Slow
Starts To Groom Self
Signs Someone Is Lying Through Text
Over-Explains
Too Much Detail and Unnecessary Info
Delayed Responses To Texts
Text Bubble Starts and Stops A Lot
Avoids Direct Responses To Certain Questions
Changes Subject Without Really Answering Questions
Texting “Voice” Seems Different
If you think someone is lying to you then they probably are. Especially if this is someone you know fairly well, and have had many encounters with them. Trust your gut. Liars have a tell, you just need to pay attention and you will hear them loud and clear.
We are all imperfect humans, who lie occasionally to avoid hurting someone’s feeling, admitting fault, and to save face. It happens. But there is a difference between lying to spare someone pain, and being a self-serving coward who is uses lies to avoid responsibility, avoid difficult conversations, and to use and abuse people.
“I'm not upset that you lied to me, I'm upset that from now on I can't believe you.” ― Friedrich Nietzsch
Should You Get Back With Your Ex? 5 Reasons To Go For It and 5 Reasons To Let It Go
Time and distance apart from someone can offer clarity. Unfortunately, time can also distort our memories and amplify reality. The farther we get from situations, the worse they may seem, and the more we minimize the significance of certain events.
It can be tricky when deciding if you should give a previous relationship another go, and get back with an ex. There is nothing wrong with considering another go with a former love.
Maybe the timing wasn’t right for either of you at the time, but things have changed and you have changed.
In making your decision on whether or not to try again with an ex, you have some things to consider.
5 Reasons You Should Get Back With Your Ex
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The Reason You Broke Up Is No Longer An issue
Whether you broke up because of distance or just being too busy with creating a career or life for yourself, your life is now different. You are now living in the same city, and your education and career are where you want them to be.
You Have Changed
You have realized that you are a different person, and don’t want the same things you used to. You broke up because he wanted to get married and settle down, and you didn’t want that life. You didn’t think you would ever want that life, but you have grown and changed and want to settle down now, preferably with him.
You Realized You Made A Mistake
You had unreasonable expectation for relationships and thought you could find better. You realized he was a wonderful man, and you blew it with your immaturity. No one is perfect and there is no such as Prince Charming. Recognizing he is a good man who truly loved you is a strong reason to consider getting back with an ex.
You Still Love Him
It’s not only that you still love him, but you are comparing every new guy to him. You cannot get over him, and miss him terribly. If your break up was amicable and in your heart and mind it never felt truly over, then you have a good reason to give it another try.
He Was The One
Being with him felt a little too perfect, and it scared you. Now that you have had time apart from your ex, and perhaps dated a few others, you come to a realization that he may have been the one. You two had something special, and the chemistry and passion you experienced with him cannot be replicated.
5 Reasons Not To Get back With Your Ex
You Don’t Think You Can Do Better
Low self-esteem can wreak havoc on our lives, and often makes people settle for relationships that are less than what they deserve because they do not think they can do any better. If your ex was lazy, rude, or abusive, trust me, you can do better.
You Are Lonely
We all feel lonely from time to time, whether we are in a relationship or not. However, loneliness is not a reason to be in a relationship where you don’t feel valued, respected, or happy. Don’t let fear and moments of weakness be a determining factor in getting back with someone.
Pregnancy Or Children Together
Being with someone just because you have a child together is a bad idea. If you love them and want to be with them then that is one thing, but forcing a relationship because you are pregnant is not a reason to push a relationship that did not work. Learn how to co-parent together, and leave the romance out of it.
You Hate Being Single
You have never been good at dating and meeting new people. In fact, you hate it. On days when you feel lonely, it may seem easier to just go back to what was familiar and comfortable. On those days remind yourself of all the reasons why it ended with your ex.
You Feel Pressured To Get Back With Them
Whether it’s your ex, or family and friends interfering, you should not let others opinions pressure you into being in a relationship you don’t want. No one knows what goes on behind closed doors, and what really happens between to people in a relationship when no one else is around.
You know why you do not want to be with your ex, and really shouldn’t have to explain your reasons to anyone.
You now have five reasons for and against getting back with your ex. Weigh the pros and cons and make the decision that makes the most sense to you and leads you down a path of happiness.
What are you thoughts on getting back with ex? Do you think once a relationship has ended that it can be rekindled and better the second time around? Please share your thoughts and experience!
“Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something: they're trying to find someone who's going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take.” -Anthony Robbins
5 Signs He’s Just Your Type...The Reasons You Go For The Same Guys
Break ups are tough, and after each one we swear to ourselves we are never doing that again. We will never go for that type of guy ever again. Makes sense, right? Your last relationship didn’t work out and you were left heartbroken.
You are not swearing off men altogether, but you promise yourself the next guy will be completely different than guys from your past.
You promised yourself things would be different in your next relationship, but at some point it started to feel like groundhog day. It feels as if you are having the same relationships over and over again. But why, you ask yourself? He seemed different, but was he really?
Believe it or not, we all have a type. And try as we might, we are just innately drawn to certain people. When we try to venture into a relationship with someone out of the norm it just doesn’t feel right. Something feels off.
You can force the relationship of course, and hope for a different outcome, but it will not necessarily be better, just different.
5 Signs He’s Your Type
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Strong Physical Attraction
You know he’s your type when you find yourself extremely attracted to him. Whether your type is tall, with green eyes, and black wavy hair, or bald with caramel skin and an amazing ass, there is a man whose looks makes you go weak in the knees.
Amazing Chemistry
Chemistry is just off the charts with some people, and is especially amazing with guys who are your type. Chemistry happens naturally between two people. Romantic chemistry is an intense connection you will feel with the right person.
You Get Each Other
Maybe you’re a little weird or quirky, and he’s a standoffish and introverted but it doesn’t matter because you both just get each other. What others find odd or annoying, you two find endearing and cute. You get the same jokes and have the same sense of humor. You can communicate with just a look.
Just Feels Right
We can try to be open and get out of our comfort zone to date others who are not really our type, but something will always feel off. When we our true to ourselves and date our type we feel more at ease and happier in the relationship. Being with your type feels like “home”. It feels like you are where you belong.
Unexplainable Pull To Each Other
The reality is that we are just more compatible with some people than others. We find some people more attractive than others on both physical and mental levels. In many ways it’s unexplainable why we like who we like, and who we are drawn to. It’s unexplainable, but the feeling is everything.
As people, we evolve and change and so does our taste and types we are attracted to some degree. If you had a thing for bad boys in your teens, you may still like men who have a little bit of a rebel in them but you can also want someone reliable and mature.
What are your thoughts on having a type? Has the type of men you go for evolved over time or stayed the same? Please share your thoughts and experience!
“I get so breathless, when you call my name. I've often wondered, do you feel the same? There's a chemistry, energy, a synchronicity, when we're all alone.” ― Corinne Bailey Rae
5 Signs You Don’t Trust Him
Trust, or lack there of can make or break a relationship. Trust has to be earned, and once lost it is very difficult to get it back. Once you start to distrust your partner, your relationship starts to feel off as you wait with impending doom. You see them differently and interact with him differently.
Your lack of trust for your man may be due to a past betrayal on his part, your own personal insecurities, or just a gut feeling. If you are dating or married to a liar or a cheater then you expect to play detective to some degree throughout the life of your relationship.
Be mindful if you are allowing past relationships or insecurities to create distrust of your man. That is not fair to him.
5 Signs You Don’t Trust Him
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You Check His Phone
The minute he heads to the shower or falls asleep you are trying to get a peek at his phone. His phone is never far from him, so your suspicion that he is hiding something is always there.
If you are snooping on your man’s phone when he is not around, that is a big violation of his privacy, but also indicative that you do not trust him.
You Get Clingy
You feel uneasy when apart from him. You worry what he is doing and who he’s with when away from you. So you become super clingy, wanting to be with him all the time. Unfortunately this is a turn off and usual backfires making him want to spend more time away from you.
You Interrogate
You are always trying to verify his stories and catch him in a lie. You directly or subtly ask him questions about where he’s been, where he’s going, and who was he talking to. If you truly trust him, you will not feel the need to know his every move.
But if you do not trust him you will feel paranoid about what he’s doing behind your back.
You Analyze
You are always looking for clues and evidence of betrayal. Every word that comes out of his mouth is scrutinized. You note his every move expecting to, but also hoping not to, catch him in a lie.
It is always there just under the surface, which makes it hard sometimes to enjoy your time together.
You Check His Social Media
You are snooping on his Facebook account. You check to see who he has direct messaged on Instagram, and you want to know whose pictures he is liking. All signs that you don’t trust him.
It is an awful feeling to be with someone you do not trust, and just as terrible a feeling to not be trusted. If you are doing the behaviors listed in this blog you need to ask yourself why, and then deal with it. Either you have trust issues that you need to work out, or you are with the wrong person.
What do you do when you are having trust issues in your relationship? Do you agree with the signs of you not trusting him? Please share your thought and feelings on lack of trust in a relationship!
“Distrust is like a vicious fire that keeps going and going, even put out, it will reignite itself, devouring the good with the bad, and still feeding on empty.” ― Anthony Liccione
6 Signs He's A Player
Players…no matter your age group there are players out there on the hunt. Some men are not interested in having a committed relationship. It may be just who he is or he has been hurt or betrayed in the past and is in self preservation mode.
Regardless of his reasons for being a player, it is not okay for him to string a woman along and not be honest about his intentions.
A player likes to have women at his beck and call. He wants them when it’s convenient for him. No one wants to be led on or toyed with. If you do not want to get played, you need to know the signs of a player.
6 Signs He’s A player
Smooth Talker
Players are very charming when you first meet them. They always know just what to say to pull you in. Players are flirty wordsmiths, who know how to make you feel good about yourself in the beginning and crave their attention.
Very Confident
Confidence is sexy, but players are confident to the point of arrogance. Players are very sure of themselves, sure of their words, and sure that they can get can just about any girl they set their sights on.
He will brag and let you know how wonderful he is, and let you know how lucky you are to be with him.
No Meeting His Friends
A player will not introduce just any chick to his friends, or family, for that matter. Since a player is just using you for sex and something to do, he will not want you meeting important people in his life.
If you do meet his friends, they will often act strange around you. His friends will act as if there is a big secret or joke that you are not in on.
Non-Committal
You need a date to one of your friends from college wedding. He is the only guy you have been seeing but he tells you he probably won’t be able to make it. In fact, anytime you ask him to accompany you to something he is always busy or has some excuse.
He’s Secretive
A player likes to string multiple women along at any given time. When you are with him he may receive lots of text and do a lot of texting. He is very careful with his phone, ensuring you do not see who he is texting with.
He also has very strict rules about you going to his place. He will rarely have you over, but when he does you are on the clock and are not allowed to leave anything behind.
Prioritizes Sex
A player loves a booty call so watch out. He does not often, if ever, take you out for a meal or a date. He will go days or weeks without any contact, but then you will get an out of the blue text, usually late at night saying he wants to “meet” up.
There is nothing wrong with having a casual relationship with no commitment, as long as both parties are aware that the relationship is casual and is not going anywhere. That’s the problem with players. They want everything from you while giving you so little in return.
What is your experience with players? Do you think players ever change? Please share your thoughts and experience!
“Dear Players: Go ahead and play your deceitful little games- lying and manipulating women to get laid-because that’s the only way you can get them interested. Maybe you will have a different perspective when you’re wiping the tears off your daughter’s face…because she dated a man like you. - Charles J. Orlando
6 Ways To Let Him Know You Want A Physical Relationship
Not everyone wants or needs to be in a relationship to feel happy or complete in their life. Relationships are nice if you are with the right person, but also overrated if you are thinking that the relationship alone will fulfill you and give you a lifetime of joy.
More and more women are focusing on their education and careers, and putting marriage and family on the back burner. Many women are also choosing not to have children at all, and to have partners rather than spouses.
Relationship or not, a woman will still crave sexual intimacy. But the question is how to go about finding the right guy for the no strings attached relationship? And once you find him, how do you let him know that’s what you want?
As far as how to pick the guy, I say it’s all about personal preference. It will need to be someone with whom you have a strong physical attraction with and good sexual chemistry.
Whether you are bold or timid when it comes to seeking a lover, doing the six things I lay out in this blog should let him know what you are seeking. Either he will be interested and will reciprocate with similar signals or he will make it clear he’s not feeling it.
If he seems uninterested keep it moving because there are plenty of men who would gladly take his place.
6 Ways To Let Him Know You Want A Physical Relationship
Flirt
Flirt your little heart out. Flirt with your words and flirt with your body. Your flirting can be playful and subtle, or direct and obvious. How you flirt will need to depend on the personality of the person you are flirting with and where you are at when you are doing the flirting.
How you flirt in a bar will be completely different than how you flirt at work or at a PTA meeting.
Touch Him
Touch him occasionally, but don’t get inappropriate or creep him out. He may have the nicest chest or butt you’ve seen it a long time, and you just want grab him so bad, but you will need to resist.
Your touches should be subtle. Light touches to his shoulder, his forearm, or his hand. His body will respond and not pull away if he likes your hand on him.
Get Physically Close
We all have what we consider our personal space surrounding us. And it tends to bother us when people break this invisible barrier, unless of course it is someone we like or want to be physical with.
Test the waters and get close to him. If he is attracted to you he will be more than aware of your physical closeness, but will not move away. If he creates a physical distance he may not be interested.
Sex It Up
When I say sex it up, I mean look your best to attract him, but don’t try to be something that you’re not and overdo it. Dress and act as sexy as you feel comfortable with. You do not want to make yourself uncomfortable or feel insecure. Confidence is sexy, and he will be drawn to that.
Eye Contact
Strong eye contact is sexy, and says so much more than words at times. When eye contact is made between you and the one who is meant to be your lover or more, you will know it. You will feel it everywhere.
Tell Him
“Do you wanna bang” would not be my choice of words, but hey this is your sex life. If you are going for straight up directness, and feel like your invitation will be well received then go for it. Tell him what you want in your own words.
It’s a personal choice, and every woman has her reasons for opting for lovers over boyfriends and husband. Maybe she has been burned in the past with a bad divorce or horrible breakup, or she just knows herself and accept that she’s not the relationship type. Either way, no one is owed an explanation.
“It was the wildness of it that got me going: the primal lust, the sheer needs of two people in heat, quickly finding ways to express their sacred hunger to each other in animal passion.” ― Fiona Thrust, Naked and Sexual
5 Signs You're In The Friend Zone and How To Escape It
The friend zone is the place no one ever wants to be. By definition, the friend zone only really applies if one of you wants more than a friendship, but the other person doesn’t see you romantically. The friend zone is heartbreaking, but most of us have been there.
Unfortunately, if you have found yourself in the friend zone and now you want out, you will have some work to do. Once you have been friend zoned it is hard to escape.
The first thing you need to do is recognize and accept that you are in the friend zone. The next step will be planning your escape.
5 Signs You’re In The Friend Zone
They Ask For Relationship Advice
If your friend complains to you about their relationships and sex life, and seeks your advice you are in the friend zone. When someone wants to be more than friends they will want you to know that they are available, so talking about other love interests is not usually something they will do.
They Talk About People They Are Dating Or Interested In
When someone is romantically interested in you they do not express interest in others. So if your friend discusses people they are dating, or openly comment on guys and girls they find attractive, then they only see you as a friend.
They Don’t Care How They Look Around You
When we are interested or trying to attract someone we take care in our appearance around them. If your friend is willing to let you see them without their hair done, no make up on, or in their lazy day clothes they are not trying to attract you.
They Ask For Help
We usually feel comfortable asking our buddies and friends for help and favors. The damsel in distress kind of helps with trying to draw someone in, but if they are always asking you for rides, to watch their dog, or to help them move, they likely view you as a friend, and not a romantic interest.
They Encourage You To Date or Try To Fix You Up
We want the best for our friends and want them to be happy. However, if someone is romantically interested in you, they will not want to see you with anyone but them. So if your friend is setting you up with people or encouraging you to date, then they do not see you as a potential mate.
How To Escape The Friend Zone
Escaping the friend is hard but not impossible. Here’s the thing though. In order to escape the friend zone you have to be willing to give up any potential romantic relationship with the one you are crushing on. It may come down to you admitting your feelings and getting rejected.
You Will Need To Be Less Available
One of the ways to escape the friend zone is to become less available. I’m not saying nice guys finish last, but old Mr. Reliable can easily get friend zoned. Show them you have a life outside of your friendship and make them miss you and desire your presence more.
Make Your Feelings Known
If you truly want out of the friend zone you will need to be brave and put your feelings out there. Either your feelings will be reciprocated or they won’t but either way, you can be free of the friend zone.
Start Dating
I know it seems counterintuitive to start dating when you are interested in some one. But if you want out of the friend zone you will need to show your love interest that you are able and willing to move on if they only want to be friends. Plus, somehow the fact that someone else wants you makes you more desirable.
So let’s be honest, the best thing to do is to not let yourself end up in the friend zone. If you thought your way In with the guy or girl you like was friendship, you were likely wrong.
Now don’t get me wrong, friendship is the most important foundation for a great relationship. But if you are already interested in them romantically but playing the buddy role, your plan will likely backfire. If they are not feeling you, or do not realize you like them in that way you will get pigeon holed in the friend zone.
What are your thoughts on the friend zone and escaping? How would you get out of the friend zone? Please share your thoughts and experience!
“The reality of life is this: some people will never really love you back no matter what you do.” - Unknown
6 Signs He’s Trying To Attract You
When a guy is interested in you and trying to attract you, he will behave a certain way to get your attention. It really is cute and quite sweet when you think about it. He may go about trying to attract you in a subtle way, or be blatant to test the waters to see if you are interested too.
Men and women use different tactics when trying to attract someone they are interested in. While women may seem obvious because they flip their hair, or laughs at a guy’s silly jokes to attract the guy they’re interested in, men are just as obvious if you know what signs to look for.
6 Signs He’s Trying to Attract You
He Dresses To Impress
If he knows that he is going to be seeing you he will go out of his ways to look his best for you. If he knows your favorite style or favorite color he will tailor his look to attract you.
He Talks Louder
He may not be talking to you, but he wants you to hear everything he is saying. He will try to sound as cool, smart, or as funny as possible. He wants you to be aware of his presence and he wants your attention.
His Body Language
A guy who is trying to attract you will have very open, positive body language towards you. His feet will be pointed towards you and he may also mirror your behavior and subconsciously groom himself.
Funny Man
When a guy is trying to attract you he will try to be funny and charming. He wants you to like him, and he recognizes that laughter is the way to make you feel relaxed around him and for him to endear himself to you.
Shares Your Interests
If a guy is interested in you he will do his homework. He will find out everything he can about you, especially your likes, your dislikes, and your hobbies.
Your interests and hobbies are his way in. If he knows you’re into cycling he will learn all he can about cycling or even take it up himself, so he can talk about it with you and create commonality and bond.
Eye Contact
When a guy is trying to attract you he will first off start by making a lot of eye contact. He will look deep into your eyes and try to make a deep connection. As he gazes at you he will try to hold your gaze to make sure you know that he is interested.
You should now know the signs when a guy is trying to attract you. If you are interested in him as well, tell him so or at least let your body language do the talking. Hopefully he will find the courage to make a move.
Can you tell when a guy is trying to attract you? What are your thoughts on the signs that he is trying to win you over? Please share your thoughts and experience!
“You see in all my life I’ve never found what I couldn’t resist, what I couldn’t turn down. I could walk away from anyone I ever knew, but I can’t walk away from you.” - Billy Joel, Shameless (Performed by Garth Brooks)
6 Signs He's Not The One...So Stop Wasting Your Time
You really want this relationship to work. You don’t want to be single again because you think it is hard out there, and you are not going back to that. So you have laser focus on making things work out with the guy you are currently dating or in a relationship with. There is just one problem. He is not the one and you know it deep down.
I am a determined woman too, so I get believing in yourself. You should believe in yourself and that you can accomplish just about anything if you put your mind to it. But I think making a relationship work with the wrong person may be too much even for you.
At some point in a relationship you realize it’s not working, but are not quite sure why that is. The reasons are obvious, usually in hindsight. You will save yourself some time and a lot of heartache by recognizing early on that he is not the one.
6 Signs He’s Not The One
You Are Hoping He Will Change
He is immature, unfocused, or flat out kind of jerky but there is hope right? Well at least you are hopeful that with time and your influence he will get better. You should be looking for a partner, not a project.
He is who he is, and if you cannot accept him for who he is and want him to change, then he is not the one for you.
You Don’t Like A Lot Of Things About Him
You don’t like his friends, his family, his hobbies, his taste in music, and the list could serious go on and on. This is still about making him a project. Do not lower your standards or pretend to be someone you are not for the sake of not being alone.
Being with someone you do not love or even like, will make you feel lonelier than you have ever felt before.
You Don’t Have A Lot In Common
You do not like the same things, but hey who does right? He’s cute, all your friends are married, and you’re not getting any younger so let’s make this happen. Sound familiar?
You do not have to be mirror images of each or have the exact same tastes, but common interests and hobbies are very important to long term happiness.
You Cannot Be Yourself With Him
You have to pretend with him, and tolerate behavior you secretly disapprove of. You bite you tongue to avoid rocking the boat. He likes to see you all dolled up, but you prefer little to no make up and jeans and comfy clothes.
If you cannot truly be yourself with your partner then you are with the wrong person and will not be happy in the long run. By pretending, you are not being true to yourself or the relationship.
You Make Excuses For Him
Your friends and family recognize that he is not right you and they are not fans. You constantly find yourself justifying and defending his behavior and attitude.
The problem is that you feel the same way your family and friends do deep down. Otherwise you would tell them to respect your man and your relationship and to stay out of your relationship. But you don’t because you agree with them to some degree.
It Feels Hard
The early stages of a relationship should feel effortless, without the need for masks and pretenses. As the relationship progresses, more work and compromise will be needed to maintain but it shouldn’t feel hard. The relationship should not feel like a struggle to just maintain it.
The truth is that not every relationship is worth fighting for. If you are not feeling fulfilled and happy by your relationship it may be time to stop wasting your time. It may be time to move on no matter how much time you have invested in the relationship. Know when to cut your loses and get back in the market.
Do you agree with the signs that he’s not the one? What are your thoughts on when it’s time to let go? Please share your thoughts and experience!
“...unrequited love does not die; it's only beaten down to a secret place where it hides, curled and wounded. For some unfortunates, it turns bitter and mean, and those who come after pay the price for the hurt done by the one who came before.” ― Elle Newmark, The Book of Unholy Mischief